The marriage thread yesterday peaked my interest about what people wear for lounging around. I leave for work after H and get home before him, so he really never sees me dressed up. I am in blouses, pencil skirts, heels, hair done, the whole nine yards for work, but he never sees it.
When he leaves I am in pajamas and when he gets home I am in workout shorts and a tank top. He made a comment about every one getting to see my dressed up except him, and I never thought about it like that. What do you lounge around in or change into when you get home? I feel like I should try harder every once in a while, because he never sees me dressed up or in makeup. I know he finds me very attractive and tells me all the time, I just feel like I may need some new lounge clothes. Any ideas?
I usually have my work clothes on for a couple hours after I get home at least, but I wear jeans to work. Otherwise it's sweats. But now I feel like I need new, cuter ones.
Yoga pants and a T-shirt in the summer or a sweatshirt or shorty robe in the winter (lived in the latter when breast feeding). But I don't wear that in public and I sleep nekkid, so I think I'm safe.
In the winter I wear his comfy flannel pj's and oversized t-shirts and in the summer I wear comfy pj shorts and t-shirt. When he's lounging around he is wearing comfy clothes as well so I don't feel like I need to "dress up" for him.
My lounge clothes are lululemon, so pretty cute for yoga gear. Thats also what I wear on days I work from home...but when I come home from work, I do keep my work clothes on until bed. I love my work wardrobe and definitely want to feel like a lady around the hubby. We also dress up on the weekends to go out to eat, or even when we are making dinner just the two of us and eating in the dining room.
I definitely feel / act differently when Im in a nice dress and heels, maybe thats bizarre but its true! Or maybe it is all an excuse to keep shopping....dunno...
I definitely feel / act differently when Im in a nice dress and heels, maybe thats bizarre but its true! Or maybe it is all an excuse to keep shopping....dunno...
Absolutely agree. We have been off the past two days for the hurricane and I have just been in my robe and felt completely lazy. I love getting dressed for work and definitely have more confidence when I am in my heels and skirts.
Mostly I stay in my work clothes. Although I sometimes change pants (especially if I plan to re-wear them). I generally leave a dress on though.
But if I don't go to work, then its yoga pants and a t-shirt in the summer. Same thing with a sweatshirt in the winter. Or today, I just have long johns on as bottoms. I wore them under my rain pants when we walked the dog and I never put anything else on over them. And my favorite fleece.
I'm a nudist at heart so I've just started wearing a robe in the last few years. Our house is drafty. If I want to leave the front door open, I wear shorts or pajama pants and a tank.
DH and I talked about this yesterday. We both agreed that our home will remain a carefree, comfortable zone. He gets to keep his ratty shorts and I get to keep my robe. We'll dress up when we leave the house.
I wear yoga pants a lot. I may also wear fleece PJ pants and a long sleeved top on in the winter, maybe a sweatshirt on cold days, and cheerleader shorts and a tshirt in summer.
I get so hot when I sleep so I'm always lounging around in my Hoots shorts and a tee. If I get cold I'll add on tube socks and a hoodie.
Giant either sees me in lounge clothes or my whore club clothes (for work). Actually, he hasn't seen me in anything but lounge clothes in almost 3 weeks.
Post by orangeblossom on Oct 30, 2012 19:29:10 GMT -5
I have improved in recent years. JCP has some nice maxi nightgown/lounge dresses in their pajama section, and I rotate them on a regular basis. They're heavier than nightgown material, but I wouldn't say I'd wear it outside. I've also bought a couple of casual tank top, pants and jacket sets from Target.
Originally, I only had one little Maxi dress. When I went to get something else from JCP, DH was like get as many as you like my treat. That was his way of saying he'd rather see me in that or really anything other than my random lounging clothes (jeans, sweatpants, t-shirt, etc). I did actually ask him, and he said yes, he liked the new look better. I figured, eh, why not wear them. They're very comfy and DH likes them.
In the winter, pajamas or different tops and knit pants, in the summer, nightgowns, maxidresses, sundresses, or shorts and tanks.
I mean, I'm not your husband, so what I think doesn't matter, but I don't see anything wrong with what your wearing. Other than soap opera characters, who walks around their house all evening with a beat face? Are you a lingerie/nightie person? Will that suffice? I wouldn't want to keep on makeup all day or wear heels around my house. I know it's not good to go completely lax with your husband, but isn't part of marriage being able to relax? I don't know. I get fly to leave the house, I don't need the pressure to lie in my daggone bed.
No, he never complains at all, which is why I am more inclined to make an effort for him. I could stay in my work clothes, but I get cat hair on everything. I guess I could maybe try going out to dinners during the week, so I am a little more dressed up than just workout clothes. He just never sees me dressed up since we camp and hike on the weekends instead of dressing up for dinners and drinks. He probably hasn't seen me in half of my wardrobe.
No, he never complains at all, which is why I am more inclined to make an effort for him. I could stay in my work clothes, but I get cat hair on everything. I guess I could maybe try going out to dinners during the week, so I am a little more dressed up than just workout clothes. He just never sees me dressed up since we camp and hike on the weekends instead of dressing up for dinners and drinks. He probably hasn't seen me in half of my wardrobe.
Well...this could be corny, but if he likes it, it doesn't matter--you know how some people do OOTD? Maybe you could send him a picture a couple days a week. Men are so visual, he might really like it. The bottom line is, no matter how great your loungewear, it's never going to be pencil skirts and heels lol.
I definitely do this sometimes. It could be that I need new stuff so that I don't feel so frumpy. It's not H that has an issue, it's more that I don't want him to only see me in sweats all of the time.
Post by belovedbride07 on Oct 30, 2012 20:11:15 GMT -5
I often stay in my work clothes until bed time (when I change into a cute nightie), but if I change (and on weekends) I put on a casual dress or skirt and a tank or t-shirt. I add socks and a sweater when it's chilly. I save my Soffe shorts or flannel pants for when DH is out of town (or when it's really, really cold).
I know DH finds skirts more attractive, and I know it makes him feel loved that I do it for him (not that it's a big sacrifice or anything...I enjoy wearing skirts).
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In cold months, I wear yoga pants or other PJ pants and a sweatshirt most days. Admittedly the sweatshirts are mostly old and have been retired from normal wear. I used to wear a lot of sweatshirts in college/grad school and rarely leave the house in them anymore, so the ones I have are old from then. I think the one I'm wearing right now I've had since I was a freshman in college and the sleeves around the cuffs are frayed. The nice thing is that it is big and soft and comfy. LOL. I should probably throw it out after typing this out.
I'm also wearing flannel pants from Old Navy with snowflakes on them. Sexy!
In the summer I mostly wear yoga pants and random t shirts that I got from various activities (5k runs, fundraisers, work, etc). I do have a couple of cute cotton nighties but I'd feel weird wearing them anywhere other than straight to bed. I like to be covered up and in the summer especially, I walk the dogs at night so I need to wear something I can lounge around in AND walk around the neighborhood in.
I usually come home from work and go straight in to change. I guess my DH sees me for a few minutes in work clothes but then it's all braless and comfy from there. My work clothes are pretty casual though so I wouldn't think they are that much of a turn on anyway.
Admittedly I could get some nicer sleep stuff. Maybe I should ask for some for Christmas. I just don't like spending money on clothing that I don't leave the house (or neighborhood) in. DH has never indicated he has a problem with my comfy clothes so I've never given it a lot of thought.
H and I had this discussion when we first started dating. We work together too, so he'd see me dressed up for work and the. I'd come home and change into sweats and a t-shirt immediately. It was during a discussion of why we only had sex on Friday and Saturday nights; he was like "well you don't exactly look super hot in your sweats on a Tuesday..."
A couple of things changed. I try to change into jeans, at least when I get home. Or, I'll convince him to have sex when we be home at 5:30pm; that way he gets to take off the attractive work clothes and I get to change into sweats later. Also, after a compliment about how good I look in yoga pants I've upgraded my loungewear a bit. I live in Nike yoga pants and Patagonia v-neck technical shirts in the winter and Patagonia dresses in the summer, which are SO DAMN COMFY.
Gah. I wish I'd have this baby already; I miss my wardrobe.
I wear suits every day to work so changing immediately is a priority.
I usually wear cute-ish cotton dresses around the house, or jeans and a top, etc. Sometimes I will put on shorts & a t-shirt or sweatpants, etc. but that is usually just if I am lounging around by myself.
We usually go out most evenings or I have post-work plans, so I need an outfit in between work and bed.
I sleep in cute things, although not always full lingerie, except in the dead of winter when all bets are off and I wear sweatshirts, flannel, etc.
DH stays in his work clothes until bed, but he doesn't dress up for work.