I have absolutely no sex drive. Like not even a little bit. I want to want it, but I just don't. And when it's suggested to me it seems like such a hassle. I could probably go the rest of my life never having sex again. Obviously this is an issue for many reason. WWYD? I am on meds that could contribute (I take celexa and adderall), should I look into switching? I've been on zoloft and lexapro before and there wasn't a difference. There's a reason I'm on them, but I'm wondering if it's worth weaning just to see if it helps because I really need this to change. WWYD? None of my old "tricks" seem to work anymore (reading smut doesn't help, hell watching magic mike didn't even help) and it's becoming apparent to me that I need to take this more seriously.
Post by mrshabious on Nov 12, 2012 14:11:36 GMT -5
I am sorry you are going through this. Chemo and stem cell transplant (almost two years ago) obliterated mine and it has not really come back.
I only recently went on maintenance drugs, so it is not drug related.
DH and I talked about it. I did some reading. We started just doing intimate touching (skin to skin back rubs, etc). We would end it there. As we did it more, it natually progressed to more and more intimacy. It takes a lot to finally get the switch to flip, but this is helping.
Hope you find a solution that works for you and your DH.
Its definitely the Celexa. I posted a while back about not liking sex, and how it was a hassle. Everyone was like "uh, are you doing it right?" but it was just the drugs. I tapered off of it and it really helped.
so are you off it completely? fudge. wellbutrin helped me when I was on zoloft, but I'd really like to avoid adding another drug (especially a pricey one).
I am off all anti-depressants. I'm a little BSC sometimes, and I cry a lot more. I have xanax to help with the panic attacks, but overall I'm just more moody. Wellbutrin and I didn't get along well... I was dizzy, gained weight, couldn't eat, had crazy migraines (I slept in the closet because it was dark)
Oh, you're right. It's only $53 for a 90 day supply which is much less expensive than it was next time I took it. But then if you add up all of it it's $200+ for my meds and $150 for the dr appt each month. ick.
Post by wanderlustmom on Nov 12, 2012 19:36:25 GMT -5
I definitely agree that considering not taking the Celexa or changing your dose may help. Wellbutrin (like discussed) or its generics have less sex drive side effects. But its properties are so different and it helps some but not others.
I don't know if you are already doing this or not, but once I started working out regularly at least four days a week and really got my heart rate up, my sex drive improved. Its not like it was when I was in my early 20s or anything, but it's better. Also sleep, I find that I just don't want sex if I have less than eight hours of sleep. I realize that makes me a big baby, but I need my sleep. If I work out and sleep well and eat mostly healthy, it makes a huge difference.
Post by thedutchgirl on Nov 12, 2012 20:29:14 GMT -5
How long have you been on the ADD meds? I ask because one of my good friends was on anti-depressants for years till a new psychiatrist suggested ADD instead, and with the ADD meds she was able to quit anti-depressants totally, as she wasn't really depressed but instead had ADD.
Her sex drive improved immensely with that change. I'm not saying you couldn't be depressed too but I was just wondering if you'd tried the ADD meds without the anti-depressants.
Post by DarcyLongfellow on Nov 12, 2012 20:55:38 GMT -5
I have no advice about the meds, but I felt that way for a couple years (I still do, sort of). For me it was a combination of Zoloft and breastfeeding, and maybe also Mirena.
What happens if you just force yourself to have sex? Can you end up enjoying yourself? For me, I never felt like having sex, but if I just went ahead and tried it, I could end up enjoying it. What about toys? If sex alone doesn't do it for you, could you use a vibrator at the same time? I'm not saying your meds aren't the problem, just trying to make some other suggestions that might help in the short term.