Also this makes me really not want DH to go to grad school. Really.
I promise you that I am an unusual case. Many people dislike grad school or have a hard time, but I have heard of very few committees pushing back like mine has.
I would say that I would make sure you love the subject and have a clear career goal before entering a PhD program.
I complained to my therapist that I was worried that this was going to jeopardize my job. He said "in three years, this will just be a blip."
And he is right. I'm sorry that the meeting didn't go well. Just keep plugging along and make the changes they want. When you're done, you never have to speak with Dr. Asshole again.
I complained to my therapist that I was worried that this was going to jeopardize my job. He said "in three years, this will just be a blip."
And he is right. I'm sorry that the meeting didn't go well. Just keep plugging along and make the changes they want. When you're done, you never have to speak with Dr. Asshole again.
I'm committing to too many extra activities and I need to figure out which ones I really want to be apart of. Finishing school has caused such a shift in my life, it's so bizarre. My motivations have changed. I need to decide what's important to me NOW and not what was 4-6 months ago.
My random: DH said I could spend the gift card we found over the weekend however I want. Not sure what that will be, but I now have $50 to spend at Sears... The last thing I bought there was a bed.
RBP, that's crazy! I thought you were done and in a job already. What a weird process. I am surprised they aren't just going to let you finish up since they've already let you go this far! Sounds like a case of academics getting self important and making life more difficult for everyone else because they think their opinions are more valuable than everyone else's. Not that I ever deal with people like that. lol. (I work with a lot of academic types and sometimes they drive me nuts).
I don't know what's going on with me today, I ran this morning on the treadmill and it was really hard, but I was feeling pretty ok. Within the last hour my head hurts and after I went to the bathroom I got SUPER nauseous. I took a walk outside (in the super cold) and the fresh air seemed to help, but I still feel headachy and kind of off. I am trying to drink some more water and ate a granola bar, so hopefully my body just needed something and will recover soon. I haven't been very productive (read - haven't even gotten through my morning emails) so far today because of it.
I promise you that I am an unusual case. Many people dislike grad school or have a hard time, but I have heard of very few committees pushing back like mine has.
I would say that I would make sure you love the subject and have a clear career goal before entering a PhD program.
I had a very very similar experience to yours. My committee didn't pass me though but my Advisor told me that if I had been at another university she bet I would have passed no problems.
It absolutely sucked. I ripped it apart and rewrote it. It took me 14 months between defending and finally turning in my dissertation to the university. To be honest though about 6 of those months were just me being paralyzed by the weight of it all.
I was embarrassed at not passing and felt dumb and was really depressed. I want to let you know that you are smart, you will get through this and it will be ok. (((((Hugs))))) hon.
Do you have someone on the committee or someone other than the postdoc who can help read the edits?
What was helpful for me was that my professor asshole was hands on and would comment profusely and quickly on all edits.
If you need to talk or just to hear more of my miserable story feel free to pm me.
Thanks, baje. It helps to hear that such a smart and successful person was once in a similar boat to me! I totally get the feeling of paralysis. That's a big reason why grad school took me so long, but I guess I didn't expect it to persist after the defense. I feel physically ill every time I sit down to work on my corrections, but now I know that I really have to make it work a la Project Runway.
My advisor suggested that I send him my edits before sending them on to the rest of the committee, so I trust that he'll catch anything else that might need to be changed before the final submission.
I don't know what's going on with me today, I ran this morning on the treadmill and it was really hard, but I was feeling pretty ok. Within the last hour my head hurts and after I went to the bathroom I got SUPER nauseous. I took a walk outside (in the super cold) and the fresh air seemed to help, but I still feel headachy and kind of off. I am trying to drink some more water and ate a granola bar, so hopefully my body just needed something and will recover soon. I haven't been very productive (read - haven't even gotten through my morning emails) so far today because of it.
This happens to me after a hard run because my blood sugar dips too low. Hopefully the granola bar helps!
My dental hygienist is impossible to get into. She only works 3 days a week, so when she cancelled on me, it has been impossible to reschedule with her.
I'm bent out of shape about getting my sister a birthday gift, which is later this week. I keep logging onto FTD.com to buy flowers, but I honestly don't want to get her anything, due to a HUGE favor I did her earlier in the year that I lost a lot of money and time due to opportunity costs. She's a huge entitlement whore and really doesn't even appreciate things that people do for her.
Whether or not I buy her anything is going to come down to how guilty I'll feel about my mom being upset that I didn't get her anything.
Yeah, I definitely don't understand this. What you do to make them hate you so much!?
I don't know. I know that I am not a great experimentalist, but my committee kept passing me at my yearly reports. My advisor previously said that my experimental skills had improved in the past year, but now he goes back and says I should have never been allowed to stay in the program.
WTF. Your advisor? This is beyond ridiculous and is so unprofessional. I feel so bad for you!
I'm so sorry, RBP. My cousin had something similar happen. She eventually finished and got her PhD, but it was a long painful process and turned her off from academics completely. I was too much of a wimp to even start a PhD program. Once inawhile I wonder "what if?" but stories like yours bring me back to reality.
I was working out earlier and an old man who was walking on the treadmill in front of me fell down (hard) and skinned his legs, arms, and face.
I saw him fall and he didn't hit his head (or seem confused), but he was definitely hurting and embarrassed. I asked him if he wanted me to walk him up to his room, but he just shook his head. I didn't know whether I should insist or if I should just give him privacy and let him go on his own.
I was working out earlier and an old man who was walking on the treadmill in front of me fell down (hard) and skinned his legs, arms, and face.
I saw him fall and he didn't hit his head (or seem confused), but he was definitely hurting and embarrassed. I asked him if he wanted me to walk him up to his room, but he just shook his head. I didn't know whether I should insist or if I should just give him privacy and let him go on his own.
Mine: I'm browsing Hallmark's Christmas ornaments. There's one called "Matinee Fashion Barbie," but for a good minute or two I wondered why it was "Manatee Fashion Barbie."
Mine: I'm browsing Hallmark's Christmas ornaments. There's one called "Matinee Fashion Barbie," but for a good minute or two I wondered why it was "Manatee Fashion Barbie."
I am cracking up at this! I read things wrong all the time and I am like WTF? It's only way after the fact that I realize I am a moron.
Mine: I'm browsing Hallmark's Christmas ornaments. There's one called "Matinee Fashion Barbie," but for a good minute or two I wondered why it was "Manatee Fashion Barbie."