I'm not pretending we're poor, but even without car loans or much student loan debt, our budget does not have a ton of fluff. And certainly won't once we're paying for two in daycare.
If we rented and didn't have kids (damn them!) I'd probably feel a lot more wealthy.
My mind is still boggled over your take home. I think not having state income tax must be a big part of it. I think our HHI gross is not that far off from yours but we take home less.