Post by amberlyrose on Dec 14, 2021 15:32:56 GMT -5
If you are both using Outlook, see if you have access to the "FindTime" extension. I use it for external calls with large groups and as soon as everyone responds, it sets the calendar invite to auto populate based off the responses.
And you are justified in your annoyance. I hate when people just "grab time" off my calendar now with WFH. I've missed calls because they'll put it on 5 min before or at a ridiculous hour while I'm doing something else like taking a walk around the block or making lunch.
I’m not used to asking for things for myself, but could you please put me on your list? I’m massively struggling. (Oh and in case you didn’t know, this is Tracy/walterismydog)
Omg! No I didn’t know! I’m always awake with the baby, message me if you want to talk!
Same here, Tracy- I can always go for coffee or a drink too. Miss you!
I love where i work, what we do, or missions, etc. but I *hate* my position.
That would be so hard, especially when it's mingled with that survivor's guilt.
I love the company I'm with and where I sit within the org because of our direct influence on creating change. But I also hate my position.
I moved into it this summer thinking it was going to be completely different. Before I agreed to the move (lateral, but supposed to be more visibility and project management), I even said "I do not want to take it if the majority of responsibilities will be X, Y, and Z. as I think that would be more of a step back for me and will not be effective in our overall goal." Outlined my ideas, plans, and other ways to attack the issues. Team leads agreed, said it would be what I had outlined, etc. About a month in, there's an org structure change and the main task I listed during that convo is now what the expectation is 75% of my time. And as I said, it is the least effective way to reach our goal.
I really wish I hadn't moved teams and I feel liked I've checked out, which is not like me.
Of course she writes songs about her exes! No one is arguing that she doesn’t.
It’s the fact that she’s not the only songwriter who does this, yet she’s dragged for it needlessly.
Right, which brings me back to what I originally said regarding why she’s dragged for it is because it’s pretty often, which was my point. Also, she’s dated a lot of big names celebrities, which Im sure factors in as to why it’s talked about more. That isn’t her fault or anything. I have no feelings re: TW, I’m not a fan or hater, but I’m discussing why it’s mentioned more often with her.
I think there is a major sexism/misogynistic part to it as well. She's not just writing about men, but men with power and fame that have big PR teams to go after her.
Even when Ed Sheeran wrote "Don't" about Ellie Goulding, the chatter around it was that he took a page from Taylor because they were besties at that time. The dragging was still on Taylor for "inspiring him" and very little was brought up about Ed airing his relationship issues. This article, a year after the song's release, even points to how Ed and Niall were quickly bros again, all is well, etc.
To be fair, she did call out Calvin Harris a bit on the fact that she wrote "This is what you came for" for Rihanna. I can't remember the full drama, but I saw her in concert and she performed it after basically saying "I can do this because I can and they can't call me out on it."
How is her claiming ownership of a product she collaborated on "calling" him out? I read the article and it looks like she claimed it. That's all. The article doesn't really posit any type of drama, only that she co wrote it and co produced it under the pseudonym.
Maybe she started out under pseudonym but she changed her mind. People can do that.
There was some back and forth on it that wasn't included in that article, including a twitter tirade from Calvin, but again, don't remember exactly because it wasn't that big of a deal in the media. It was enough that she made it a point to play it and call attention to the song at her only performance that year. But that was the only drama between her and Calvin in the public that I can recall.
I'm all for her claiming ownership of something she wrote. It was a great song, too.
Also: this assertion isn't even really true: Taylor Swift has dated guys like Calvin Harris and Tom Hiddleston. She's been in a long term relationship now for awhile. None of them have "been put on blast" as their relationships ended. Maybe bc they weren't assholes? Also, some of her songs are about feelings she experienced in like 8th grade lol and she's spoken about how the songs were interpreted to be about her current partners.. Maybe it's that her partners should be wary that if they show their asses, yeah she will burn them.
Also apparently I am a Tayler swift fan. 🙃
To be fair, she did call out Calvin Harris a bit on the fact that she wrote "This is what you came for" for Rihanna. I can't remember the full drama, but I saw her in concert and she performed it after basically saying "I can do this because I can and they can't call me out on it."
If it’s during Mardi Gras that changes things, do you know the date yet?
Lots of great restaurants have rooms you can rent for an event
Gris Gris has one I’ve been too Coquette - this one is probably too big for 15-20 people Atchafalaya Peche - we did a shower here, but not a private room
We're thinking Feb 4th, 18th or March 11th, 18th, 25th. Mardi Gras is March 1st.
Post by amberlyrose on Nov 15, 2021 12:13:11 GMT -5
I offered to throw my sister's baby shower in New Orleans for her local friends/work friends. It will be pretty small (15-20), since my mom and her MIL are throwing the big family shower back at home. Due to work and other things, she didn't get to have the big wedding/shower/bachelorette opportunity and I want to do something really nice to make up for that.
I do not know the area and I know she won't tell me the pricier options that she'd love to have. We're also going to be running into Mardi Gras timeframe, too (Feb/early March) and I know there are parades and events that basically take over the whole city. Any suggestions I can check into? Or even an event planner that I can have do all the work? haha.
My mom has the WORST feet and I think I've inherited them When we travel, 90% of her luggage is different types of athletic shoes. She will switch them out 2-3x a day. Walking on cobbled streets in London and Edinburgh with her was rough. Now with the knee issue plus going back to class after sitting on zoom for a year. Oof!
I’d have her go to a specialty shoe shop where they can help her figure out the right shoes. Something like walking company on the franchise end might be able to help, but there are probably also some local small shoe stores that could help. Is she in CO with you? There is a store in Littleton called Murray’s that sells a bunch of the supportive brands and often does consultations (the guy who owns it specifically, but daughters know what they’re doing too). Next door to it is one of the running shoe stores and redwing, so lots of other options too.
She's not but she'll be here in a few weeks I'll look into Murray's!
If we are dreaming and I didn't have to spend it all on the actual house, I'd retire early and buy a cottage on the coast in the Scottish highlands like this: www.struttandparker.com/properties/drumnaguie
You guys, this place needs more than redecorating. There is a dragon shaped faucet for crying out loud! You’d spend $2.3M to be left living with a dragon shaped faucet?!?!
Post by amberlyrose on Nov 9, 2021 13:12:09 GMT -5
I like living in the city and my neighborhood, but I'd probably want to move to this neighborhood because it's so pretty and many of the homes are historic for Denver.
They moved my usual ballot box. The new one was just a couple of blocks away. There was a constant stream of people while I parked and dropped off my ballot so I hope that's a good sign for turnout. I live in a very blue area.
I dropped mine off at 5:45pm (lol) and there was a steady stream over here too. Pretty happy with most of the results. I liked two of the SB candidates, so DH voted for one and I took the other.
Post by amberlyrose on Nov 3, 2021 15:43:55 GMT -5
I grew up on the very low end of middle class. We had a house and both parents had cars, but we shopped at factory outlets and did a lot of DIY for things we wanted.
My list from childhood: -Own a house with a 2nd floor -Fancy car, especially a convertible -Not having to carry a calculator around to shop for groceries -Shopping from mall stores -Travel to Europe -Fancy boots (I grew up in the desert, so my only closed-toe shoes were athletic) -The good TP/Kleenex/Laundry detergent/shampoo -Having a vacation home/cottage/cabin
Teen me would be amazed at where I'm at now. I really don't think I could've fathomed it, truthfully. My adult "I made it" moment was when I was shopping in London by myself and bought a Burberry quilted coat on sale without planning for it. DH was in class and I had a random freak out moment right before telling him. He laughed and said that I deserved it and we were fine. I love that coat so much, mostly because of what it symbolized for me.
Now, my list would be: -Fly business/first class internationally. Don't care if it's on points, as long as I'm not using every single one I've saved. -Pay for the fancy hotel room outright instead of hoping for an upgrade. -Major house upgrades without taking on debt -Take on paid work when I want (contract/project based) and do volunteer work in between. -Weekly housekeeping, to include laundry -Someone to design/furnish my house. We're frugal and even if we could afford it, I can't see myself buying nice furniture that already comes assembled
Post by amberlyrose on Oct 25, 2021 16:35:14 GMT -5
Can you message the makeup artist for the products she used? I've gone to Sephora and had them match my skin tone for foundation and take home a few samples to try as well. Some things just wear better for daily use v. events.
Post by amberlyrose on Oct 25, 2021 12:00:10 GMT -5
Ditto eddy- while I have been on the no diet journey for about two years, it has not been linear. Unfortunately, diet culture is so embedded in our lives, especially as women, that it's hard not to look at someone losing weight and feel like I'm failing. But my goal is happiness now. My new fitness goals are about doing things I want to do- I want to ski without being sore or tired after two runs. I want to camp and hike and do things with my friends that I love.
But wear clothes that fit and make you feel good. Clothes are made to fit a person for short period of time. People were not made to fit into clothes.
Once I figured that out, things made a lot more sense. Of course, my adhd is fully out of control right now so everything else is falling apart, but I’m working on it. Sort of.
Can I sit next to you? I'm finally getting home/fitness back to normal but work is falling apart. My old lead and I could openly discuss when I was having bad spells, but my new lead is just.. not that type of person. I agreed to move to her team thinking that she was, so I'm feeling like I took a million steps back. A neurotypical person would see it as a challenge and step up, but I'm currently hitting a wall.
Post by amberlyrose on Oct 20, 2021 11:41:17 GMT -5
I just want to say thank you for all of the suggestions! I really do appreciate it- the explanations with your own grief journeys helped quite a bit. My heart is with you all who have experienced such a loss.
Also, I don't know if this is possible, but it would be great if people signed up for dates a bit in the future. The real fucking killer is the world telling you to come back to "normal" and still having to function as an adult like nothing ever happened.
Having someone take care of meals when I was back to work or whatever would've been fantastic. It also helps to know that people are thinking of you even if the tragedy wasn't yesterday.
It is scheduled pretty far out and we'll probably continue it longer, depending on when she plans to go back.
Right now, their families are in town and doing the basics, but we plan to also get a list of mundane tasks together and chip in with those (yard work, groceries, etc).
Post by amberlyrose on Oct 15, 2021 12:11:38 GMT -5
Again, @@@@ TW. . . . . . . . I have some friends that recently lost a baby and a meal train was set up. She is recovering from a c-section, so I want to be mindful about that as well. They are not picky about food, but I want to have some ideas for our friend group that are easy, healthy, and not just another reheat casserole or soup. If you have any ideas, I'd greatly appreciate it. My mind is going blank and I keep circling back to casseroles.
I get this question a lot in different formats when I interview. A good HM will be open to answering honestly and won't get ruffled by it. In this current climate, people are looking for work/life balance and I've been hearing more questions about it.
Here are a few I've heard this month: -What keeps you at this company -Do you feel the workload is manageable in a regular work week -How do you manage task timelines and due dates for your team -Outside of basic benefits, do you offer support for mental health/parents/childcare/career growth/elderly care -Do you feel supported in the org. during the pandemic? how?
and I had someone straight out ask me if it's expected to work crazy hours on a regular basis.
These are great, thank you!
Were you offput by the person who asked about working crazy hours?
Because of DS2's covid diagnosis, I explained in my response that he may interrupt the call or that we could reschedule to the following week. I am curious to see how they respond to that, as I think it will help me understand the "support for mental health/parents/childcare" question you presented.
I wasn't, but I was also honest that while it is usually 40-50 hrs a week, there are times that hours and travel can be crazy depending on the project. At the end of the day, we want to hire the right people and being dishonest about the hours doesn't help out either party.
Post by amberlyrose on Oct 15, 2021 11:35:54 GMT -5
I get this question a lot in different formats when I interview. A good HM will be open to answering honestly and won't get ruffled by it. In this current climate, people are looking for work/life balance and I've been hearing more questions about it.
Here are a few I've heard this month: -What keeps you at this company -Do you feel the workload is manageable in a regular work week -How do you manage task timelines and due dates for your team -Outside of basic benefits, do you offer support for mental health/parents/childcare/career growth/elderly care -Do you feel supported in the org. during the pandemic? how?
and I had someone straight out ask me if it's expected to work crazy hours on a regular basis.