I have nothing because of paying for Scotty's treatment, so now I'll start building up again. I had a fairly good one until all the health issues with Cleo and Angie in 2010. I do have lots of stocks I could access if there was a true emergency in the meantime, bir I try not to count that.
He's much nerdier than me in a stereotypical way (video games, technology, fantasy novels, magic the gathering, etc.), but I'm nerdy in a different way (psychology). I'm not into a lot of the things he's liked to do, especially video games.
I love to dance, he's not that into it anymore.
I play piano, he plays guitar.
I'm a blonde with green eyes, he has brown hair and hazel eyes.
I'm more organized than he is.
I handle emotions better, but also am more of an externalizer, and I'm not one to back down from confrontation. He doesn't like to deal with emotions, internalizes, and shuts down. He's also more likely to avoid confrontation.
His mom is cray cray. Mine is eccentric. He was not raised with a healthy perspective on discipline or parent-child differentiation. The time he asked about how my parents disciplined me almost broke my heart.
Motzie I defy you not to remember that fact someday when you wake up and find DD has unleashed the contents of her diaper all over herself and her crib.
LOL. It's true. One day, Motzie is going to come in and talk about how she walked in to DD's room and there was poop smeared all over the walls and all over her face and what a mess, but thank goodness up to 2 tbsp is ok to eat.
My work here is done!
And this is how it went when I learned this fact at work. It lay dormant in my brain until the right moment.
DH and I were together the whole time, and he's still here. We're comforting each other.
Before we took Scotty in, we talked to him in the car. I told him that someday in the future we'll be together again and that we love him. I also told him he doesn't have to get any more medicine. He purred. I hadn't heard him purr in weeks.
Thank you again ladies. You were all wonderful when I went through this with Cleo and Angie, too. I really appreciate your support.
I have nothing intelligent to add, so I'll just say that I leave "under God" out when I say the pledge of allegiance. Which is every day now that I work at a school.
Would it help if you felt like there was the possibility of an afterlife and reunion based in natural phenomena rather than religious stuffs?
Kuus, when I do think of an afterlife, that's sort of what I think of. I believe in energy and spirits (leftover energy, in one way or another), but the afterlife idea is hard for me to tease out from religion.
Scotty came to lay on my lap this morning. He hasn't sought me out much in the last week or two. He also slept on the bed with me last night and was laying on the bed with DH when I left this morning. He's been laying under it, so I think this is his way of getting his time with us before he goes, since I've been explaining to him what's going on.
I'm pretty sure we won't be doing anything, but we've never been big on Valentine's Day even before all this. We'd exchange cards and have a nicer-than-usual dinner at home. Back when we were dating, our anniversary was Feb 26th, so we preferred to put more effort into that celebration.
I also use the restoraderm body wash combined with the Aveeno skin relief body wash (all fragrance free). It helps keep my skin from drying out as much in the first place.
I'm home sick today and my stupid sinuses have turned into snot machines. I can't even use my irrigator because I'm so congested. I tried last night and messed up the pressure in my ears, so I had to stop. But taking sudafed only does me up a little, the head congestion is still there. And I have mild body aches. The worst, though, was waking up every hour last night and not being able to get any decent rest even today.
Muddled I read that as limiting your moves in bed, and was confused about how a larger bed would inhibit your sex life. My sick self has a dirty mind.
Also, ditto the recommendation for individually pocketed coils. I have a Simmons Beautyrest and it is amazing. They're especially good when you're sharing the bed with another person *and* pets. No more getting disturbed by a cat jumping on the bed. At least not until they flop on you.
Thank you everyone. DH and I talked today. A lot. Scotty didn't show any interest in the food I set out and it's one he devoured a few days ago. We've changed his appointment to tomorrow at 4pm. I'm glad I'm home from work today. I'm going to have to change a few things on my schedule for tomorrow, but this is more important. DH will be over first thing tomorrow morning to spend as much time with Scotty as possible, then we'll take him in together. DH usually has to be in the office until 7:30 on Wednesdays, but he's taking tomorrow off. This is killing both of us. At least Scotty won't be suffering any more.
When I started dating XH I lived in another city and we dated long distance. My bedroom in my apartment was tiny so I could only have a twin bed. We shared it when he would come to visit. He is 6'6 and I am 5'9. How is that for cozy, gozf and smock?
He couldn't even fit on the bed!
When DH and I started dating, there were nights where we shared his elevated extra-long twin mattress on campus. That sucked, I was always afraid I'd roll off somehow.
California King. Because DH is 6' 3" and I was sick of him un-tucking the sheet and blankets at the end of the bed, just because he's too long to lay on a normal bed without his feet hanging over. It is really big and harder to cuddle in, though.
I apologize for asking such personal info without giving anything in return. Yes, it's a poll, but only for personal use. I have depression and anxiety, I'm not on any meds, but both meds and hospitalization are up for future possibilities.
I'm also in therapy. And... the kicker is that I'm in school for a masters in counseling psychology to become a therapist myself. I realize the program is bringing a lot of junk to the surface, and I'm hoping that it's relatively temporary.
Does your program require individual therapy? Mine required 20 hours before practicum. Seeing an individual therapist who specializes in cognitive behavioral therapy in addition to medication may be helpful. I have anxiety, used to have a Valium PRN for muscle tension and now I have Ativan PRN (which I hate and don't use, doesn't help my muscle tension). I've never been hospitalized. If you do end up going to the hospital, remember that you can use your experience to empathize with future clients.
ETA: I still see a therapist who specializes in CBT, but I'm mostly going for support got other things. He's helped me SO much with learning to manage my anxiety, he's been very helpful. CBT is awesome.
There are no good words for this. I guess I can start with fuck FIP. Fuck it right in its stupid mutation.
I know I posted before about Scotty not doing well, but we put off the appointment because he seemed to rally. Unfortunately, he's losing the fight, very obviously.
If you're squeamish, skip this paragraph. Yesterday morning I discovered he'd had bloody diarrhea. I knew then. And tonight when I come home, evidence of more today. The FIP has been "attacking" his bowels and the vet felt thickening there about a month and a half ago. I knew that when he was near the end, that's where the symptoms would show up.
So I've scheduled his final appointment for Saturday at 10am. The only change will be if I needed to make it sooner, which I think I might. I hope not, because DH was planning to spend Wednesday morning and Friday night with him, before we take him in together. At least we will be going through this together.
We adopted Scotty 02/07/2011, the day after the Superbowl. His last day with us will be 02/09/2013, which is not nearly enough time. I'm devastated, but I know I have to do what's best for him now. And I know, as cheesy as it sounds, he'll always be with me in my heart, like Angie. It's times like this I wish I believed in something, because the idea of being reunited in the afterlife is comforting.
I know this had to be a hard decision for you on a lot of levels. I say good for you! You deserve to be surrounded by love and support and you deserve to have people to lean on.
This whole area sucks right now, and has for a while. It makes sense to leave. Honestly, there are days I want to flee this state, so I get it. I hope that your move goes smoothly.
@fuss yes, I understand that. I also live in almost-Mexico and see a lot of people hanging on to that culture. I think their views are disgusting, but I also try to understand the cultural context. Blame the cultural competence training I was in for months on latino culture?
I honestly think these guys have no idea who they really want to be and think they need a woman to be their foil so that they can live out a misguided idea of masculinity learned from their fathers, the other men in their lives, and their perceptions of their mothers' roles.
These are young-ish (mid-20s) Mexican-American males, most of whom are 2nd generation, I believe, so I suppose they, too are a product of their environment and culture. But still, women have been independent much longer than their lifetimes. Maybe it wasn't openly condoned, but the image of a good little wife sitting at home and doing only as get husband wishes/says seems to have gained traction as a backlash against feminism rather than any one widespread reality. I've even argue that the strict norms of the 50s, as they are presented today, were a reaction to women getting the right to vote and then working more and more outside the home during WWII.
I know this had to be a hard decision for you on a lot of levels. I say good for you! You deserve to be surrounded by louvre and support and you deserve to have people to lean on.
This whole area sucks right now, and has for a while. It makes sense to leave. Honestly, there are days I want to flee this state, so I get it. I hope that your move goes smoothly.