Post by caffeinebean on Jun 15, 2013 19:02:31 GMT -5
I'm going to tell him, but I think I'm going to wait until he home.
CW texted me and apologized and said he meant no disrespect he was just drunk and when his friend told him what happened he about had a heart attack lol
I would tell, because if it were reversed, and h didn't tell me and then I found out randomly a year later, I would be pissed. My h wouldn't be mad at me though - and neither should your BF. I would have to worry about him punching my coworker though, ha ha.
The punching is what I'm concerned about lol. This is just such an awkward situation.
Post by caffeinebean on Jun 15, 2013 11:37:56 GMT -5
I'm going to talk to CW on Monday and reiterate my relationship status. He's a good guy and easy to work with so I'm pretty sure he'll be understanding.
Ug, I know if the situation were reversed and someone kissed BF I'd probably want to know. I just feel guilty even though I didn't initiate it and put a stop to it.
Post by caffeinebean on Jun 15, 2013 11:12:41 GMT -5
Last night my best friend and I went to a CW's birthday party. We were having a blast and I had a little too much to drink. We were outside with another CW who's on my team, who I interact with daily. I had leaned over to say something to BFF and when I straightened up he leaned in and kissed me.
Wtf? He knows I'm in a relationship and I've never led him on. BF is gone for the next two weeks. How do I tell him? Do I even tell him?
I'm sorry if this is a jumbled mess. I'm on my phone and have a hangover from hell.
Post by caffeinebean on May 25, 2013 21:18:05 GMT -5
I went shopping for new work clothes and got some really cute stuff. I also got The Suit and I'm really excited to wear it this weekend. I'm down 30 lbs from October and for the first time in years I'm feeling great about myself.
For the first time in months bf and I have two days in a row off together so we got tickets to see Jersey Boys and a hotel room for tomorrow night. I'm really, really excited.
Post by caffeinebean on May 4, 2013 20:05:49 GMT -5
I had to take Plan b for the first time today and I feel like utter shit. I'm cramping and nauseous and tired and grumpy. Ug. And I'm babysitting my neighbors kids. The 14 month old is a joy to be around. He's always happy and loves to snuggle. The eight year old is a little asshole. He's rude and really mean to his brother.
1. Monday, go to your school's financial aid office. If the school can get you emergency aid, great. Use it to move out and continue in school. If not, then either take finals and then drop out for awhile (if you are close to the end of the semester) or just drop out now if there is more than a month left.
2. Move out. This weekend, start looking at Craigslist and postings at your school for roommates. Find a roommate if you don't have first and last months rent. If you do, then look for studio apartments. Take the cats, you will be able to find somewhere that will allow them. Look in other (cheaper) areas if you think you may not be able to finish the sememster at school. Get a credit card and a cash advance if that's what you have to do so you can afford to move out. But get yourself out of that house by next Saturday. No excuses.
3. Get a full time job. If you can get emergency aid at school do that, but if not, start applying at Starbucks, temp agencies, everywhere. Even if you finish the semester you can still work full time and go to school full time for a month or two. It won't kill you. If you are leaving school, then look for jobs in low cost of living areas where you won't have a big rent payment.
4. If you must drop out of school, then start applying for financial aid and classes for next fall. If you have to work for another 9 months and go to school in spring semester, do that. Make sure your degree is marketable. I would be looking for a BA or BS in computer sciences, not just an AA (though getting an AA and then transferring to a 4 year school is a good plan). Make sure you are at a state school, not a for profit college. Those things are scams. If you are at a for profit college, then now is the time to leave and go to a state school. Financial aid is your friend, as long as you are at a state school and getting a marketable degree. Remember, do not put school off forever, just until you can pay for or finance it.
5. Thank god you do not have children. Know you can support yourself and your cats. Then thank god again you don't have kids.
This is manageable. You don't need parents or your ex to rescue you. You can take care of yourself. You will be proud of yourself for doing so. I know it might feel unfair, but it isn't unfair at all. You are an adult. You deserve to be treated with respect, and not abused. But you also have a responsibility to care for yourself and your pets. So do it. Make lists, ask questions, but get in gear, get out of that house, and save yourself.
Elle is wise. And she's right. You can do this. It won't be easy and it won't be fun for a while, but you'll come out a stronger person.
I think you should print her advice and reread it whenever you're feeling overwhelmed. You can do this.
Post by caffeinebean on May 1, 2013 19:33:21 GMT -5
Fuck that noise!! If it were me, I'd call her out in front of everyone and embarrass the shit out her and your H.
But I think you should do whatever you're most comfortable with. If you need help let me know. I'm sure I could come up with some colorful names for this piece of trash.