Post by trufflefries on Nov 3, 2016 12:36:41 GMT -5
My mom loooooved Christmas. So this season is always a little bit bittersweet for me. Her birthday was Dec 26, and we always celebrated it by going to after Christmas sales just me, her, and my sister. Then we'd go out for lunch somewhere fairly nice and go see a movie. It's something I definitely plan to recreate when my girls are older. I want them to celebrate her with me even though they never got a chance to meet her. I also go a little nuts on Christmas decor just like she did. It just makes me feel warm and happy during a time when it would be easy to succumb to sadness over missing her. Time has helped make this time of year easier but I suspect it's something I'll always be a little forlorn over.
This year we're putting everything up super early because odds are good DD 2 will be a Nov baby instead of Dec! My blood pressure has been creeping up and I've been put on bed rest. We are hoping I can make it to 39 weeks, which would be the week after Thanksgiving, but I'm trying to mentally prepare in case it's earlier. I just want her to avoid Nov 19 so my girls don't have the same birthday. So I feel a little excited to get started with these traditions, especially now that DD 1 is almost 3 and understands more about what it all means.
Post by trufflefries on Oct 30, 2016 20:34:25 GMT -5
DD will be 3 in November. So far on my list:
Code a pillar Easel and art supplies Toms sparkle shoes (she has a pair she's worn to pieces and need to be replaced) Kitty surprise Maybe a small trampoline? Haven't decided. Board games (getting her candy land for her birthday)
DD 2 hasn't been born yet but is due 12/4. Going to get her a fisher price seahorse, some books, and a wrap for her (aka me).
Post by trufflefries on Oct 14, 2016 10:57:03 GMT -5
My due date is Dec 4 so Thanksgiving is up in the air. Either having a baby or just the 3 of us. DH is a great cook so he'll probably still want to make all the traditional turkey and sides if we're home.
Christmas will be at home too. My mil and 2 out of 3 sil's will be driving down to spend it with us, so that will be fun. They're staying in a hotel to keep it manageable with a newborn. But I'm excited for them to be able to spend some quality time with my toddler.
Post by trufflefries on Sept 1, 2016 14:11:52 GMT -5
How long has it been? 6.5 years. She passed away in March 2010.
How did she pass? Kidney cancer
How old were you? I was 21 when she was first diagnosed. She had a mass in one of her kidneys, had that kidney removed, and was in remission for a few years. It came back in 2009 and she passed when I was 25.
Were you married her? Kids? Married but no kids. I did tell her if I had a daughter I would name her after my mom, which I did. DD has my mom's name as her middle name.
What do you tell your kids about your mom? I tell her she has an angel grandma who loves her very much but got sick so she's not here with us anymore. She's only 2 so she doesn't really get it yet, but I do try to show her pictures of my mom so she knows who she is.
What do you wish you could ask her? How she handled two young little girls. I'm having my second daughter in December and I just wish I could bond with her over being a mom of daughters like she was. Plus the everyday little things like melt downs, health, why won't she eat, etc. I feel like she would have had great advice for me.
How do you handle the sadness? I still have days that are hard. It comes and goes in waves. The overwhelming part has passed since its been a while, now it's more pangs of "man I miss her. She would have loved _____". Occasionally a good cry in a hot shower is very cathartic, especially when these pg hormones take over.
Post by trufflefries on Jun 30, 2016 10:33:07 GMT -5
This is my 2 year old's first year going to preschool (it's more of a play school but whatever). School got out May 25 and will start back up August 8. They do mom's morning out every Tues and Thurs though, so she's going to a few of those in July to get her used to it.
Post by trufflefries on May 10, 2016 12:55:46 GMT -5
Gave birth on a Tues night, was out Thurs around 1-2pm. I'm now in a different state so not sure what will be the norm for #2. I'm anticipating 2 nights though.
Post by trufflefries on Apr 12, 2016 13:46:40 GMT -5
It's the doubling that matters, it still could be fine. My first beta was 500 at around 5 weeks. 3 days later it was close to 3000. Don't give up hope!
Post by trufflefries on Apr 12, 2016 12:47:13 GMT -5
Yes. My mom's birthday was Dec 26th, and she loved to take my sister and I out shopping for after Christmas sales. If I'm home visiting at Christmas, my sister and I will set aside part of the day to go out together- shopping, get a mani, bring a cinnamon roll (her favorite) to the columbarium. Also Starbucks, one of her fav treats. It's been helpful to make it a happy day remembering her favorite things. When my daughter gets a little bit older I will include her.
Post by trufflefries on Apr 10, 2016 6:54:12 GMT -5
Congrats!! I completely understand the excited yet scared feelings. I had a miscarriage in Oct and got a bfp at the end of March. Getting betas done has helped ease some of my anxiety and I'm scheduled for an early ultrasound. Hopefully your doctor will be understanding and do the same if you want that.
Post by trufflefries on Apr 9, 2016 12:43:41 GMT -5
I have the hand cream (the snarky scent). I really like it! It's moisturizing without being greasy. I also have the Wakey Wakey stick which is amazing for giving me a little boost when I'm dragging. It also does wonders to help with headaches (it has peppermint essential oil). The healer stick smells really good but I didn't notice a huge difference when I used it on dd's eczema.
Post by trufflefries on Feb 18, 2016 13:44:11 GMT -5
DD is 2 and asks to go to "chick fil a park" if that tells you how often we go. We just got her a trike with a handle attached so if the weather is bad I can still push her in it around the house. Our mall has a play land with bounce houses and what not for $7 for 2 hours. We will go do that and just walk around the mall. Toy stores and book stores have train tables that can keep her entertained for a long time.