I rented my former home for close to 8 years. Because I was on the other side of the country I paid $70/month to have a property management company handle everything. They were very useful when it came to finding and evaluating tenants. Even if you manage the day to day, it may be worth hiring a company each time you have to rent.
I'll just echo the rest of the thread and say find a good accountant that knows this stuff. The property actually helped us when it came to taxes but I would never have been able to figure that all out on my own.
Thank you for all the responses! Knowing disability payments may continue should she leave the position (or be terminated) is comforting.
I realize a lot of things factor into these cases. Our office is 5 people (admin) and the agency probably only has 30 staff total (the rest are direct care type positions). However our parent organization which is much larger provides our HR and Financial services and therefor gives us the same benefits as their employees (like FMLA).
To clarify, the boss isn't conducting himself in the most sensitive way but he didn't forward private emails. Rather he set her account to forward to another coworker. I know it's the company's email but it would have felt better if he at least told the employee and other coworkers. No one knows. So the coworker that is now getting the emails is seeing other people write to the ill employee wishing her well. It's just messy and sad.
My co-worker has cancer and in all reality will likely never return to work. She's very private so we don't have a lot of details but from what we do know I'm suspecting it will be a miracle is she sees Christmas this year.
She is out on disability and receiving disability pay. Her doctor wrote a note putting her out on disability until 2019. Apparently HR is going to call her and tell her that they will honor that for 12 weeks but won't hold the position after that. Does this sound legal? I know FMLA is 12 weeks but isn't disability different?
We're an office of 5 and her position is not at all needed right now. Two of us are picking up all the work just fine. I'm struggling with the ethical side of calling a dying woman and essentially forcing her resign. From day one I feel like my ED has handled this poorly. He forwarded her email to a coworker (without telling her or anyone else), called her during a treatment to ask for her computer, and has been less then sensitive.
There probably isn't much I can do, but since the ED does often ask the rest of us for our opinions I feel like I could better advocate for my co-worker to be treated better if I knew in fact what the company was legally required to do.
My random, little man has had to be in a biliblanket for the past couple of days.
I hope his jaundice clears quickly! My boy E had to be readmitted for a couple of days right after birth because of jaundice. At least it is one of those things that can be treated easily and if your man is like my E, you'll see him continue to perk up as the bilirubin number continues to go down.
While visiting one of my coworkers that lives on site, I noticed my favorite book on her book shelf. I picked it up and told her how much I loved it and what found memories of my youth it brought back. She then told me that it was a signed copy and I should keep. Such a simple and sweet gesture just lightened my heart so much.
I'm not sure either. I'd go ask the people that after the election told me "things won't change much", "you'll be okay", "you don't have to worry about your family" but I've dropped them all from life.
Oh fuck them, twotrue. I distinctly remember your panic after the election. I know other people who were scared for the same reason, and I'm so sorry we can't do anything to assure you it will be okay.
Thank you. Yesterday was just a hard day, as I've been missing one particular friendship a lot lately. The friend didn't love HRC, but voted for her. However she just never able to step far enough outside her own privilege to see just how deeply people were going to be hurt by this administration.
For my part I'm renewing everyone's passports and am going to start the legal paperwork for my wife to adopt our sons. It makes me so sad to write that. They were born the day before the SCOTUS handed down the DOMA decision. Despite civil right's lawyers arguing that people should still do second parent adoptions we've put it off. Now that's a legal risk I'm just not willing to take under the Trump admin.
I am terrified for the rights of LGBTQ+ people and the reproductive rights of women in this country. I literally cannot envision a way in which this turns out ok.
I'm not sure either. I'd go ask the people that after the election told me "things won't change much", "you'll be okay", "you don't have to worry about your family" but I've dropped them all from life.
My random: we got a puppy! He's a 9 week old boxer/lab mix (as far as the shelter could tell). He's just the cutest little thing and seems to have a great temperament. I want to leave work early to get home and see him.
Keep going. I feel like there has to be more to it.
Why aren't you having more authentic relationships with POC? Why haven't you benefited/stop caring the fears of your parents more fully? Why are you still saying a school is good because it has a population oh 98%white? Why are you settling in communities that lack diversity? I need more.
To your first question, I'm simply not in the same circles as POC. My field is very white and add in the fact that I commute to a small white rural farm town, my work life is void of meaningful interactions with POC (aside from several Asian co-workers). On the flip side, the time I spend in my graduate studies provides much more interaction with people from all backgrounds. However, to be really honestly, I simply don't have many friends. I'm not making authentic relationships with anyone! This is obviously my own issue - but I've prevented myself from having a robust social network and putting down roots here.
The school thing definitely doesn't hold true for me, and when I hear people talk about it I always push back and ask them to define what 'good' means. This is actually one of the things I've paid a lot of attention to, and why my already small social circle became much smaller in recent years. Having kids seem to cause people to show their racists (and homophobic) assess really quickly.
When my boys, via the school district lottery, got into a pre-K program where they were the only white kids, I didn't think twice about sending them. I know that the sheltered white life I've led is one that they don't have to lead. But I know other people judged me for sending my kids there. Some parents refused their lottery spots because it was a head-start program, and served as a daycare for women getting out of DV situations. It had a perfectly good pre-k program, was close to my wife's work, and maybe most importantly my boys got to see black men and women in positions of authority, caring, and power (along with the students, all the teachers were black or Hispanic). To this day I've yet to have a black teacher/professor. But all three of my kids have already had that experience. It's probably really small, but it's something I can do so they don't live the same experience as me.
To go back to the earlier discussion of fear being about the unknown. Too often we are quick to judge what is different from us, and too many of us don't stop to acknowledge that. For example, at the funeral I attended this weekend I noticed a lot of people in jeans and t-shirts. This seemed really odd to me. I've only been to strict Catholic services and a couple of non-denominational services at funeral homes, and I can't recall ever seeing someone wear jeans and t-shirts to a funeral. Then I began to notice all of the RIP t-shirts and I wanted to learn more about them. I felt really stupid googling "black funeral RIP t-shirts" but I wanted to undo my own immediate reaction to judge. I wanted to understand and counteract the first reaction of - 'who doesn't dress up for a funeral?'
I'm not a woke Becky that is getting it all correct. But clearly the women that are using the police as their own source of power and control should do a bit more introspection about their immediate judgements.
You'll get flippant responses like "white people suck" but I know you want more than that so I'll share my disjointed thoughts. I think Velar's right in regards to how segregated our lives still are. This weekend I went to the funeral of a black man. There were several hundred people in the church and I was one of about 5 white people. As I sat there I thought about how even in death, the segregation of our lives comes through. And I thought about how if my funeral were held today the ratio of the races would likely be the exact opposite.
From my experience, I don't remember any overt teachings of racism. I don't remember being taught to fear the black or Hispanic male. My parents certainly didn't use derogatory language towards other races, but I'm certain that like most white people they used micro-aggressions and their unconscious biases came out. And I also didn't grow up knowing many black people so my primary examples were the Huxtables or people on daytime tv, or news stories. My high school class of 600 had maybe a dozen black students.
As an adult, I've come to be able to acknowledge the biases I've held. But pinpointing where and when I picked them up isn't possible. They come from being born and raised in a society where every institution and every industry is designed to uphold the privilege of the white man and woman.
I can only assume that for the women that feel the need to call the police on people just living their lives, it is about fear of something they might not understand (I know this sounds stupid, but I believe there is some truth in it) and to a larger extent, about power. These women, using the police force to cause someone else to change their behavior, gives them a sense of power.
Wait what was the outcome of the BBQ incident? That woman waited for the police for 2 hours!?! Besides the obvious racism, wtf is wrong with her life that she has 2 hours to stand there and harass people?
On Tuesday I had to put my dog down. It was his time and I know it was right, but damnit it's hard. I find myself going through my routine with him even though he isn't there.
But on a better note, there's some sort of festival thing at work today so I'm going to go kill 3 hours playing outside and being fed.
cattledogkisses, I think your idea is beautiful. And grieve any way you need to.
I'm likely having to say goodbye to my dog tonight (or at the very least by the weekend). It's been a long time coming but I think my head is finally there. He had a really bad yesterday and I don't want to keep him hanging on just for me. I'm waiting for the vet to call me back now.
NY 19 is competitive. It's been both red and blue although I believe mostly red. I think there are 6-7 Democrats battling in the primary. If Neal makes it through on the Independent line it will be interesting to see how the liberal votes split up.
One of the reasons this method of school choice isn't working is that parents who could advocate found how to game the system. Essentially you pick your top two schools BUT you also need to know whether your top two schools are likely to pick you. Apparently the data from previous years is available so you can get a good guess as to how high your child might rank on a preferred school's admission list. If you know the criteria the school uses and you know if your child meets that criteria you can make educated predictions on whether or not they will be accepted.
If the first school you select is a highly competitive school, and you don't get in, then your name goes to your second choice school. But if your second choice school has already filled up with preferred applicants during the first round of admissions then you're shit out of luck. Parents with the means were figuring out that statistically it was better for their children to pick a less-competitive "good" school for their first choice so that they were almost guaranteed a spot (assuming they didn't think they had enough 'points' to get into the top school).
Families that didn't figure this were listing two really competitive schools as their top choices and then when their students don't get into either, the district makes the placement.
The NYC school choice system is really messed up. There are 90,000 high school students that need to get placed each year. After the initial matching (where students pick preferred schools and schools pick preferred students) there are 30,000 students left un-matched. I just had to read economic studies about how rich, white, parents are able to game the system and understand how to play the game to get a preferred school. They have the advantage to now some are showing their racist asses at the thought of some of that advantage being taken away.
Our high school has over 1700 students, but 25% are listed as chronically absent. That seems very high.
I'm reading the background data and it defines "chronically absent" as 15 or more days per year regardless of whether the absence is excused or not. Also the child is 'absent' if they miss at least 50% of the day.
My random - I forgot to complete my time sheet this week (due Monday). That's 100% on me. However HR emailed me yesterday, a day I don't work, and asked me to complete it. When I didn't respond they used PTO to fill in my hours. I get it. However, my boss was on the emails. My boss and HR know I don't work Tuesdays. My boss sends me Slack messages for every little thing on my day off but can't send me a Slack message about my timecard? Or a message to tell me I should check my email? HR will fix it but I'm mad at myself for not completing the time sheet and annoyed that no one thought of a different way to reach out to me.
I'm not sure why passive aggressive is the stance most people seem to prefer. Particularly given this person is a contractor and not someone you are going to have to play nice with long-term. Go to HR. Her actions were completely inappropriate and should be dealt with by HR. Ideally they would ask the contracting company to replace her as her behavior is not welcome at your agency.
Recently I've written about the movement to eliminate questions of criminal history on job applications as well as whether British Columbia's carbon tax could be implemented in the US.
If I had to write something today I would look at state imposed unfunded mandates on the nonprofit sector.