Should I use small words, Toledo? I thought I'd been clear.
Apparently, jlm is supposed to take her licks like a big girl (as if she hasn't taken enough IRL licks for all our pathetic internet personas combined) but we can't even snark on iamgrace for being a whiney ass about a fucking job at starbucks. To say nothing of what happens whenever someone mentions that many MLers are married to grade A douchewagons.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
The fact of the matter is that for the most part, LHC, you get a great deal of support regardless of the topic, well deserved I might add. You're in a pretty good place. You know you're a good mother. Even if the whole of ML agreed, you have a smart, well adjusted kid without much going on to bring doubt to the situation as a whole. Every now and then someone gets a bug up their ass and goes for a low ass insult that have not the least bit of truth to them.
If you can see the difference between that and this whole jlm mess, well IDK what to tell you.
I know my opinion doesn't matter, but I can't stand it when anyone on this board is trolled or called out in a mean and hurtful manner and I don't think it's a bad thing that those posts are deleted sometimes (all the time?). But, I realize there are double standards and people shouldn't be able to pick and choose what posts are deleted and what posts aren't.
I like jlm a lot, but I like many people on this board a lot and I don't like it when people are just blatantly rude to them. That said, I feel like if you're going to put personal stuff out there, you should be ready for the backlash, good or bad.
I'm rambling. I don't know, I guess, if someone made an AE specifically to post harassing threads aimed toward me, I would want that shit taken care of.
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"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
But I do think that it sucks for jlm that any time she posts something now a troll starts a separate post. She could say, "Went to CVS today and got a chocolate bar! Yum!" and a troll would be all, "HOW DARE YOU BE AWAY FROM YOUR KIDS FOR ONE SECOND. YOU HORRIBLE MOTHER."
But I do think that it sucks for jlm that any time she posts something now a troll starts a separate post. She could say, "Went to CVS today and got a chocolate bar! Yum!" and a troll would be all, "HOW DARE YOU BE AWAY FROM YOUR KIDS FOR ONE SECOND. YOU HORRIBLE MOTHER."
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Are we really comparing some of the shit that's been slung to the bullshit jlm is fielding at the moment? If that isn't the height of self involvement, I don't know what fucking is.
I've had websites created called I Hate LucyHoneychrrch. I've had my name and employer posted. I've had lengthy diatribes posted about exactly what is wrong with me, down to my underwear. I've had trolls threaten my family, my job, and my well-being.
And most of it was done by people the rest of the board thought were "so funny!".
So yeah. I get mad about this stuff. If it makes me overly self-involved, well, who isn't?
You are taking this so freaking personally right now. I have endured my fair share of flamings as well. Doesn't mean we have to get personally angered when someone else doesn't have to join the club. ((shrug))
LHC is not making it all about herself. She was complaining about her previous ill treatment.
Shoot, we ALL make things about ourself in other ML'ers posts. Not necessarily to be whiny, but just to share our own personal experiences. It happens on the regular.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Post by dowagercountess on Dec 5, 2012 14:30:01 GMT -5
I don't think they are at all comparable experiences. I know LHC is going to say I don't know her lyfe to prove her point. From what I do know, LHC being flamed by Nova (as myself and many others were) is not the same thing.
Post by dowagercountess on Dec 5, 2012 14:36:48 GMT -5
Of course not toledo, but I also know LHC is emotionally and mentally stable, from what she has presented here has not been in a physcially, mentally and sexually abusive marriage and is bonded to her child and her unborn child. Therefore, you'd think she'd be able to discern the difference between someone being trolly and douchey because she annoys them and someone judging a major life decision. Smoking around your child is not equal to comparison in this situation. And if you say it its, you're a damn lie.
Post by dowagercountess on Dec 5, 2012 14:41:37 GMT -5
Thank you for proving my point for me. And for the record, I don't agree with deletions. But I am not going to compare the rabid flaming Blue gave me when I first separated with jlm's situation or trolls.
Honestly, dowager, you really don't know my lyfe. You don't know anything about whether or not a post affects me and in what way, or what nerve it may touch. So you can postulate about how one flaming is different from another, but in all actuality, these things are not objectively quantifiable. So you can shut the fuck up, because no, you don't know what I've been through or have not been through.
And congratulations for telling me I'm making things all about me, and then... proceeding to make them about me some more. lol. Way to solve a problem.
And what do you think makes you so special? Really? We don't know what anyone has been through aside from what they tell us. But by your argument, we should never voice an negative opinion to anyone because we don't know their life. In this case, what we do know, fucking sucks. And to capitalize on that and go oh, woe is me, no one defended me when I was getting picked on is utter bullshit.
I just don't know how anyone can look at what jlm has been through, what she's still struggling with, what she's taking shit for and say objectively and with a straight face, yup, that's exactly what I'm going through too.