No, she worked part time for a couple of years after I was born, then went back to full time. My mom is a freaking work horse. She grew up on a farm, and doesn't do well just sitting and relaxing, she needs to be doing something all the time. She even worked full time while going through chemo for breast cancer. She only took off time for appointments, even though her employer told her she could have as much paid time off as she needed. She is seriously one of the hardest working people I know. And now that she's retired, she volunteers and does all kinds of things to fill her time.
My parents had a full time job running a large, family owned farm. Both of them would be extremely busy during certain times of the year depending on what was happening (harvest, planting, cattle having babies, hogs had babies year-round, etc.) We definitely were not very rich as all of their earning went back into the farm, but we had a lot of quality time together doing the work of the farm. Also, my mom was able to take us "into town" for any activities that we participated in, I really don't know how the paid the bills when I was younger in retrospect.
Both of my parents went to work full time when I was a senior in high school. It was a shock to everyone's way of life but it has definitely improved their quality of life b/c of health insurance and actually being able to do some of the "fun" things such as take vacations, buy us nice presents for X-mas, etc. that they couldn't do when I was younger. My dad works insane hours during harvesting/planting season: he works shift work and will come home and go to bed for a few hours and than work in the fields for six hours, sleep a bit and back to work. It is scary how tired and haggard he gets during the spring/fall, but he won't quit working and the farm is actually profitable for once.
She was when I was a baby and then started working 2 hours a day until I was in jr. high. She then went full-time.
I enjoy being a SAHM, but plan on going back to work. The big plan is that I will go back when we will only have to pay for one in daycare and we hope to have one more. Our boys now are 1 and 3, so I guess in about 5 years. That seems really far away. It may change. I miss the work environment.
She stayed home at times when my sister and I were babies, and she and my dad worked staggered schedules so we didn't go to daycare, really. It was hard on them, though. When I was in kindergarten my dad worked all night at a group home and then had us during the day. It was great to have that time w them, but now I'm like "holy shit, guys."
Yes, but once the youngest started school, she started PT, then went FT and just retired this past June. She did it, but she got back to work the first chance she got.
Nope. My mom was the VP for a defense org. She kicks ass. Now she consults. I am, though. I sometimes feel like I took the most amazing role model and did nothing with it. Sigh. I'm happy, though.
Post by daisyheadmaizie on Dec 6, 2012 11:19:35 GMT -5
Sometimes. When I was really little she was. Then she worked for a while after she divorced my dad. From there, she went back to school, got remarried, had my sister, and became at SAHM again. She primarily stayed at home after that, though she did spend several years selling Avon. Now, she is remarried again and stays at home while my sisters live with their dad. Honestly, she was a great mom when I was little, but something changed after my sister's were born and I spent more time taking caring of them than she did despite her stay at hone status.
Nope. She was 17 when she had me, got a job as a secretary for an engineering firm and worked her ass off for the for 20 years. She left that job with many management titles under her belt and was making 70k (not bad for someone with a GED).
She is now a director of business operations for another engineering firm and makes some serious bank. She is so smart and works so hard. She is the owner of the companies "right hand".
Even with all that, she wished she could have been a SAHM and never forgets to tell me so. She is actually pushing me a little to SAH (although she would support whatever I choose).
She has alot of flaws, but working hard was never one of them.
We were poor as fuck, and she had no business being a SAHM once we were in school, but she was lazy. she had 3 kids by the time she was 21 and she just automatically became a SAHM, so she has still never actually worked a single day in her life. She went to community college to get her MOA certificate when I was 15, but she never used it. Yeah, it was pretty awesome living in my step grandma's basement with cement for a floor and rafters with hanging wires for a roof, all because my mom thought she was too good to get a job. Couldn't have friends over because you don't want people to see how you live, you have to wear size 32 men's pants when you're a size 00 and pray no one will notice because your step dad only works seasonal work and makes shit for cash.
Every day I think about how fucking grateful I am to have the life I do now. Sofia will (probably, unless something really bad happens) never have to worry about the shit that I did.
Post by PinkSquirrel on Dec 6, 2012 12:11:30 GMT -5
My mom worked nights when we were little so she could be home with us during the day. Do not ask me when she slept because I'm fairly sure she didn't. Once we were in school all day she got a day job
Post by dragonfly08 on Dec 6, 2012 13:19:02 GMT -5
Until I was around 12 or 13, yes. Then she went back to work part-time (she'd have done full-time, but her employer purposely made sure most people got just under that number of hours, so that they didn't have to provide benefits).
Yes from the time my oldest brother was born (back in the early 70s when teachers were required/pressured to resign when they were noticeably pregnant in her district) until I was in school 13ish years later. She only went back because of my Dad's spending habits, and she still complains about it. Personally I wish she could've/would've stayed home she would've been less stressed and much happier which wouold've made my childhood much happier. that may be why I felt so strongly about SAH when I had DD.