I am slightly depressed... work has been very stressful and hard the past few weeks, and I really don't have any friends here that I can talk to about whats been going on. At my school last year, I had about 5 REALLY good friends, and we all hung out a lot outside of school, and we all still see each other very regularly, even though we don't all work together anymore, but here, I feel very alone.
Do you have friends at your job, or do you prefer to keep work and friends separate?
I had 2 friends but both quit. I have one girl who thinks she's my friend but she annoys the everloving fuck out of me. Otherwise, I have people I'm somewhat friendly to, but no close friends.
When I worked part time, yes I was great friends with my boss and still am. I felt really down when I quit working and focused solely on school.
My university was ultra competitive among the health care kids and I didn't have a lot of friends. It was a really tough environment and I feel so much better in just the short time it's been since I graduated. I hope that graduate school is a more kind environment.
Post by lightbulbsun on May 25, 2012 12:18:16 GMT -5
No. I had a couple of good friends when I worked in NYC, and they were the only thing that made the job bearable. I talk to people at my job now, but I wouldn't say I'm friends with them.
Post by loveablesarah on May 25, 2012 12:18:46 GMT -5
I'd be lonely too. It's hard to feel like you have no one to talk to when we spend SO much of our time at work. Sometimes I think I spend more time here than I do at home.
Some of my very best friends are co-workers. I wouldn't want to work here without them. In fact a couple of them have applied for new positions (thankfully in the same company). Thinking about that made me think about moving into something different. I actually posted for a job last week.
I do have lots of friends outside of work too, but the people I work with are awesome and make it fun to come to work everyday.
yes, our working environment at the school I taught at last year was rough, and it brought a lot of us very close together. We needed people we could lean on for support, and that we could trust, because our administration was very untrustworthy. The friends I had at that school will be my friends for life. We all see each other a few times a month, (sometimes a few times a week!) and a couple of them are applying to work at the school I'm at now, which would be AWESOME. This is a much smaller school, and the teachers seem to keep to themselves more. They don't get together on weekends, they don't call each other just to talk, or any of the things that the teachers did at my old school... so it's just harder to make friends when no one wants to talk to you, and I don't want to annoy anyone. I'm a social person, so it's hard for me not to have people to talk to at work... I just miss my old work friends.
Post by PinkSquirrel on May 25, 2012 12:25:11 GMT -5
Yes and no. I consider them friends in that I care about them and their lives, but I have no desire to hang out with them outside of work. I work with all 45+ year old men and I'm just not that interested
I have one really close friend at work. We spend a lot of time together in the office during lunch and breaks, so we don't get together outside of work much. It's hard finding enough weekend time to see my other friends, so we usually don't get together outside of work. She does have a super awesome neighborhood pool though, so I'm hoping that I'll get to go visit a few times with my son. It would be fun to watch our kids play together!
yes, our working environment at the school I taught at last year was rough, and it brought a lot of us very close together. We needed people we could lean on for support, and that we could trust, because our administration was very untrustworthy. The friends I had at that school will be my friends for life. We all see each other a few times a month, (sometimes a few times a week!) and a couple of them are applying to work at the school I'm at now, which would be AWESOME. This is a much smaller school, and the teachers seem to keep to themselves more. They don't get together on weekends, they don't call each other just to talk, or any of the things that the teachers did at my old school... so it's just harder to make friends when no one wants to talk to you, and I don't want to annoy anyone. I'm a social person, so it's hard for me not to have people to talk to at work... I just miss my old work friends.
this is how my job is. Everyone is an introvert but me. They sit with headphones all day. If you try to chat, they will engage, then shut it down.
Our meetings/cake for birthdays/outings (only one so far) are SO incredibly awkward.
I had several at my last job. We were pretty close and hung out outside of work a lot, and still do. But at this job, I have two that I'm friendly with, but don't talk to outside of work. It sorta sucks.
AAANNNNNDDDDDD... my H is a huge introvert, which is sometimes nice, b/c we balance each other out, but DAMN, I NEED INTERACTION WITH SOMEONE WHO ISN'T A CHILD!!!
H DOES talk to me, but he is just a quiet person in general, and doesn't have much to say about his job, b/c he works in a cubicle, and doesn't talk to people at work much. So he doesn't have stories to tell in the evenings.
Post by pantsparty on May 25, 2012 12:39:25 GMT -5
Not really. I guess I did at my old job, but they were definitely "work friends." We didn't see each other outside of work, but they did make the day fun.
Now my closest co-worker is in Texas, so no work friends for me.
I am really good friends with my direct boss. Which should be weird, but I am the only employee she oversees, so it's not like she plays favorites with me or anything.
We have become close over the years. It is killing me that I cannot tell her I am pregnant, but I know her first thought will be whether or not I am leaving after baby, and I don't want to open that conversation yet.
The rest of the people I work with I am friendly with, and seen a few times out of work, but we are not "friends".
I really respect and like some of my colleagues, but have not developed any in-depth social interaction with anyone. I've occasionally hung out with several and chit-chat whenever I see them, but they're not the sort of friends I'd feel comfortable just picking up the phone and call on a weekend.
Not really. There's 20 men and 5 women. Two of the women are so fucking catty, it's ridiculous. By the way, one is 56, the other is 68, so way past their prime.
Then there's me and another one a couple of years older than me. She's okay.
Finally, there's the lady who temped while I was on maternity leave. Douchebag marketing guy managed to keep her on as his assistant. Nobody seems to know what she does, but she's only here 16 hours a week. She's also 50 something and just as stuck up as can be.