Have we done a Flameful Friday?

[cleo29]

May 25, 2012 14:42:56 GMT -5 saraandmichael said:

May 25, 2012 14:41:27 GMT -5 bonquiqui said:

No, but how fun would that be to get a bunch of girlfriends together drink wine and watch say yes to the dress in your gown.

i put mine on last year on our anniversary.

if the las vegas gtg ever happens, everyone needs to pack their wedding dress.

I can see us all walking down the strip, in our wedding dresses, in slow mo Reservoir Dogs style.

[jaylea]

May 25, 2012 14:45:07 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

May 25, 2012 14:42:56 GMT -5 saraandmichael said:

i put mine on last year on our anniversary.

if the las vegas gtg ever happens, everyone needs to pack their wedding dress.

I can see us all walking down the strip, in our wedding dresses, in slow mo Reservoir Dogs style.

This would be awesome.

[Chloride Kate]

The most annoying thing about the big ugly bows is if you should choose to not put one on your baby girl, everyone thinks she is a boy. Even in pink or purple. C'mon people.

[hubes]

I want a wedding dress g2g.

I love my dress. And it still fits.

[cleo29]

May 25, 2012 14:45:30 GMT -5 jaylea said:

May 25, 2012 14:45:07 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

I can see us all walking down the strip, in our wedding dresses, in slow mo Reservoir Dogs style.

This would be awesome.

Even better if we had music playing while we walked.

[bab]

I'm very sick of our remaining cat he is a pain in my ass. The one who died recently was my favorite. I know this is mean but I don't care. He'a a pain in my fucking ass.

[evee]

May 25, 2012 14:45:07 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

May 25, 2012 14:42:56 GMT -5 saraandmichael said:

i put mine on last year on our anniversary.

if the las vegas gtg ever happens, everyone needs to pack their wedding dress.

I can see us all walking down the strip, in our wedding dresses, in slow mo Reservoir Dogs style.

Wedding dresses, and combat boots

[Nicole]

Yes! Vegas wedding dress gtg. Elle, get on it

[eightangryreindeer]

May 25, 2012 14:39:59 GMT -5 Nicole said:

I suddenly have the urge to put on my wedding dress and watch tv in it.

Have u put on your dress since your wedding day?

No but I would totally do this with you and hang out.

[evee]

May 25, 2012 14:51:40 GMT -5 evee said:

May 25, 2012 14:45:07 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

I can see us all walking down the strip, in our wedding dresses, in slow mo Reservoir Dogs style.

Wedding dresses, and combat boots

I call Mr Pink btw. He was my fave

[Deleted]

My kid wears bows. Sometimes.

I think she's damn cute. Lalalala.

[sugarplum]

May 25, 2012 14:44:32 GMT -5 jaylea said:

I am getting feelings of guilt at the prospect of leaving here. I am such a people pleaser. I know this company is going to continue to be busy, and I know that my work is helping out a LOT. So I am starting to feel like I am going to really screw them over if I am able to get another job.

But then, I am miserable. And this just isn't a good fit.

And I need to not stress about all of this stuff until it comes to fruition.

I am super nervous about how I'll take time off for an interview - what if I take a half day, then don't get the job? I won't have a lot of time off left.

Don't feel guilty. They don't feel guilty of taking over your time and interfering with your family time. You're right, it's not a good fit and while you're doing great things there, you'll both be happier in the long run.

Also, don't worry about the interview. You'll make it work and you'll kick ass!

[ribasaur]

May 25, 2012 14:44:32 GMT -5 jaylea said:

I am getting feelings of guilt at the prospect of leaving here. I am such a people pleaser. I know this company is going to continue to be busy, and I know that my work is helping out a LOT. So I am starting to feel like I am going to really screw them over if I am able to get another job.

I feel you - now my current job is countering and I am all waffley, mainly because if I do leave they will be in a crappy position.

But on the flip side of the 3 positions my supervisor manage, 1 has left, 1 is leaving and now me. I think this speaks more about them though.

[hubes]

I have another flameful.

I think I gave my kid nightmares. I had Supernatural on yesterday before he woke up, and forgot to turn it off, until I saw him watching a super scary ghost scene.

He wouldn't sleep last night. He wanted to sit up in his rocking chair all night.

[candyapple]

Today I went to a playdate (Greenwich) with D and the girls. The backyard was a bit treacherous, slippery slate and a four foot drop off, not many toys inside.
But anyway, at the end D offered to have them over for a playdate at our place, I couldn't offer because we live in this dirty, small, embarrassing apartment not a 3 million dollar house in Old Greenwich with a nanny like the other kids in his class. I knew the mom thought I was being rude/not nice with not offering to reciprocate, but what could I do?
What would you have done? I feel REALLY crummy about it.

[Nicole]

Hi

[greylady]

May 25, 2012 14:44:32 GMT -5 jaylea said:

I am getting feelings of guilt at the prospect of leaving here. I am such a people pleaser. I know this company is going to continue to be busy, and I know that my work is helping out a LOT. So I am starting to feel like I am going to really screw them over if I am able to get another job.

But then, I am miserable. And this just isn't a good fit.

And I need to not stress about all of this stuff until it comes to fruition.

I am super nervous about how I'll take time off for an interview - what if I take a half day, then don't get the job? I won't have a lot of time off left.

They lied about the corporate culture (among other things) to get you to come aboard. They screwed themselves. If the situation were reversed and they found out you weren't all your resume said you were, they would fire you without hesitation.

Don't feel guilty.

[Deleted]

Jaylea - I can totally see how you could start to feel bad about leaving - but stop. Didn't your boss side eye you at leaving early to watch your kid play soccer or something like that? And didn't he do that after you had just worked like a succession of long ass days?

No. Go kick butt in the interview!

[vivaladiva]

May 25, 2012 14:39:59 GMT -5 Nicole said:

I suddenly have the urge to put on my wedding dress and watch tv in it.

Have u put on your dress since your wedding day?

F the scale, putting on my wedding dress every so often is how I measure weight loss/gain, whatever. Actually, it's pretty comfy, I'd totally do like they did on that ep of Friends where Monica, Rachel & Phoebe just hung out on the couch.

[vivaladiva]

May 25, 2012 15:07:31 GMT -5 Nicole said:

Hi

:Y: Nice.

[jaylea]

May 25, 2012 15:09:14 GMT -5 @lazerus24 said:

Jaylea - I can totally see how you could start to feel bad about leaving - but stop. Didn't your boss side eye you at leaving early to watch your kid play soccer or something like that? And didn't he do that after you had just worked like a succession of long ass days?

No. Go kick butt in the interview!

He suggested that I should miss the games, which are outside of what should be my normal work hours, and then told me that he didn't go to any of his kids' things because "that's what happens when you have work to do".

It's so inflexible here. I spend all my time stressed out. I have no benefits. I have no enjoyment here - there's no conversation or collaboration. And I am bothered that none of the things I was promised (like the sweet set-up my colleague, who I was supposed to be senior to, has) came to fruition.

[jaylea]

Nicole. That's awesome. I don't even know where my dress is - somewhere at my parents' house. I never even had it cleaned!

[lsea0323]

May 25, 2012 15:07:31 GMT -5 Nicole said:

Hi

Lol! I love it! I would have to starve myself for a year to fit in the wedding dress I wore 10 years ago.

I need to get that thing on craigslist.

[Nicole]

Mine hasn't been cleaned either. The bottom is totally black

[greylady]

May 25, 2012 15:07:05 GMT -5 @candyapple said:

Today I went to a playdate (Greenwich) with D and the girls. The backyard was a bit treacherous, slippery slate and a four foot drop off, not many toys inside.
But anyway, at the end D offered to have them over for a playdate at our place, I couldn't offer because we live in this dirty, small, embarrassing apartment not a 3 million dollar house in Old Greenwich with a nanny like the other kids in his class. I knew the mom thought I was being rude/not nice with not offering to reciprocate, but what could I do?
What would you have done? I feel REALLY crummy about it.

Honestly? Take pride in where you do live. Clean it. Make it guest appropriate and stop setting bad examples for your son. You should reciprocate and you know it. The other mom already knows you aren't rich, trust me. If she invited you then she doesn't care you aren't rich, but she's probably looking down her nose now.

I dont mean to sound harsh but you act like youre the only person in CT who isn't rich. The whole state isnt Fairfield county and all of Fairfield county isn't rich. Lots of kids grow up exposed to affluence who aren't actually affluent. Don't make it a big deal. It isn't. Shallow with bad manners - big deal.

[evee]

I eloped. I got married in a green and white sun dress. I do still have it though and it does fit.

[Deleted]

Apple, invite her over for a playdate with the caveat that you live in an apartment. If she refuses or acts disgusted then you know she isn't worth your time. DO NOT be afraid of shallow people. Living in fear of being negatively viewed isn't living. If this lady is worth your time, where you live won't matter.

My flameful is that I had a visceral reaction of disgust to the OP's photo because they used that holey head band material to make the section of her dress that covered her chest. Why don't you just put your baby girl in fishnets while you're at it! Gross...

[bonquiqui]

My dress is hanging in my garage

[Jalapeñomel]

I am annoyed that frkls post is staying at the top. Why is it doing that?

[Deleted]

May 25, 2012 15:13:15 GMT -5 jaylea said:

May 25, 2012 15:09:14 GMT -5 @lazerus24 said:

Jaylea - I can totally see how you could start to feel bad about leaving - but stop. Didn't your boss side eye you at leaving early to watch your kid play soccer or something like that? And didn't he do that after you had just worked like a succession of long ass days?

No. Go kick butt in the interview!

He suggested that I should miss the games, which are outside of what should be my normal work hours, and then told me that he didn't go to any of his kids' things because "that's what happens when you have work to do".

It's so inflexible here. I spend all my time stressed out. I have no benefits. I have no enjoyment here - there's no conversation or collaboration. And I am bothered that none of the things I was promised (like the sweet set-up my colleague, who I was supposed to be senior to, has) came to fruition.

Yes. Don't spend a minute worrying about what will happen if you leave. They will deserve whatever happens in your absence.

That is beyond crazy. I'd be so effing pissed if I was you.

Enjoy your weekend with your family!