My H just texted me that DD is being a "terror" right now, and I seriously just want to punch him in the face. He has no clue. I took care of her all weekend, mostly by myself, so he could enjoy his football crap, and he got to go out for a few hours yesterday while I stayed home with a baby who wouldn't eat or nap. I am thankful he picks her up from daycare and takes care of her in the afternoons, but he doesn't have half the patience I have with her sometimes and it makes me livid.
I realize this isn't a confession, but a vent.
And I feel bad because he is so good with her most of the time, but stuff like this just drives me crazy.
With as much bitching as you have done about your h and how haaaaard your life is, I sometimes think you shouldn't have had any kids.
I googled my SIL's instagram name and I found some posts on a message board that she had written bitching about me. This is the SIL who loves to be outraged at stupid shit. I was highly entertained.
It was dumb of her to use the same screen name.
Oh, totally. She bitched about how tacky I am because someone asked me on fb if I was pregnant, and I said yes . And that I stole her thunder because I got pregnant the same month they started trying, when I had absolutely no idea that they were even trying in the first place. And apparently I'm a bad person because I didn't call her up or tell her to her face that I was pregnant, and that she had to learn from another family member.
Oh AND she started posting on the bump at the same time at I was posting on the nest/bump. That's just a liiiitle too close for comfort for me.
((kit)) I'm in the same spot right now. I've just recently reached out for help. If you don't mind me asking, why aren't you interested in therapy?
I just...I don't know. I've been to therapy before. It didn't work for me; that's not how I heal, ya know? I just sort of internalize it. It's horrible, I know. But I don't know of another way.
My H just texted me that DD is being a "terror" right now, and I seriously just want to punch him in the face. He has no clue. I took care of her all weekend, mostly by myself, so he could enjoy his football crap, and he got to go out for a few hours yesterday while I stayed home with a baby who wouldn't eat or nap. I am thankful he picks her up from daycare and takes care of her in the afternoons, but he doesn't have half the patience I have with her sometimes and it makes me livid.
I realize this isn't a confession, but a vent.
And I feel bad because he is so good with her most of the time, but stuff like this just drives me crazy.
With as much bitching as you have done about your h and how haaaaard your life is, I sometimes think you shouldn't have had any kids.
I'm breaking up with my upper cervical chiropractor. I started going because I was having migraines, and he was recommended by several of my friends who have had great relief after seeing him routinely. I feel no differently now than I did the beginning of September. And I hate getting the actual adjustment - the punch feeling and pop. Not for me.
This also makes me give my friends the side eye a little.
Have you heard of craniosacral massage therapy? It's a little hippy-dippy but can provide some amazing relief.
Now that you mention it, I remember back in September when I started looking at alternative options I read something. I'll have to look into that again. Do you go to that masseuse weekly? monthly?
My H just texted me that DD is being a "terror" right now, and I seriously just want to punch him in the face. He has no clue. I took care of her all weekend, mostly by myself, so he could enjoy his football crap, and he got to go out for a few hours yesterday while I stayed home with a baby who wouldn't eat or nap. I am thankful he picks her up from daycare and takes care of her in the afternoons, but he doesn't have half the patience I have with her sometimes and it makes me livid.
I realize this isn't a confession, but a vent.
And I feel bad because he is so good with her most of the time, but stuff like this just drives me crazy.
With as much bitching as you have done about your h and how haaaaard your life is, I sometimes think you shouldn't have had any kids.
When have I bitched about how hard my life is?
You're a goddamned moron. Stop hiding behing that ridiculous AE.
I'm a terrible person and I have no intention of correcting their mistake
Wow.
That is surprising? Really? I mean, I bet most people would claim that they would go back up there and fix the mistake that the grocery store made (for the 2nd time might I add) but in reality, most people would not.
my h has been ordering prepper stuff. like seeds, a field medical kit, a machete that can chop wood, mini tools that can attach to a belt, those outdoor foil-looking blankets, etc. he doesn't watch t.v. so i have no idea where this stuff is coming from.
((kit)) I'm in the same spot right now. I've just recently reached out for help. If you don't mind me asking, why aren't you interested in therapy?
I just...I don't know. I've been to therapy before. It didn't work for me; that's not how I heal, ya know? I just sort of internalize it. It's horrible, I know. But I don't know of another way.
Therapy is a weird thing. I always feel awful immediately after, but I think it helps in the long run. It sucks to talk about this kind of shit, but it really helps.
If there's a specific issue that has been bothering you, have you tried reading any self help books? I know they're not for everyone, but I'm trying to think of other things, lol. Have you talked to a PCP or someone about depression?
Oh, totally. She bitched about how tacky I am because someone asked me on fb if I was pregnant, and I said yes . And that I stole her thunder because I got pregnant the same month they started trying, when I had absolutely no idea that they were even trying in the first place. And apparently I'm a bad person because I didn't call her up or tell her to her face that I was pregnant, and that she had to learn from another family member.
Oh AND she started posting on the bump at the same time at I was posting on the nest/bump. That's just a liiiitle too close for comfort for me.
The same one that only served triscuts at the kids birthday party?
Post by ThirdandLong on Dec 10, 2012 15:54:51 GMT -5
Poppy, don't listen to that comment. The first year with a new baby is very hard - hard to adjust to many of your freedoms being gone and hard to adjust to what's expected of your H and you. It's perfectly normal to be frustrated with both your new role and your H's complaints. You'll get through this.
Post by thelongroad on Dec 10, 2012 15:54:53 GMT -5
I am so annoyed with a woman in a leadership role of a group I volunteer quite a bit with. Between her children and her position she over commits herself like mad and is typically in a shitty mood. She does not have to do all she does, she just likes, "Everything to be perfect." Meanwhile, her family suffers and she is irritable and she doesn't not look like a hero!
I really get peeved when I try to have a balance between home and the group, and she starts with the, "And you don't think I have stuff to do?!" Um, then go home and spend time with your family!
Oh, totally. She bitched about how tacky I am because someone asked me on fb if I was pregnant, and I said yes . And that I stole her thunder because I got pregnant the same month they started trying, when I had absolutely no idea that they were even trying in the first place. And apparently I'm a bad person because I didn't call her up or tell her to her face that I was pregnant, and that she had to learn from another family member.
Oh AND she started posting on the bump at the same time at I was posting on the nest/bump. That's just a liiiitle too close for comfort for me.
The same one that only served triscuts at the kids birthday party?
I love Josh Groban. Like I would leave my life if he asked. His version of O Holy Night is the bestest.
Also, I am 37 years old and tried to use a tampon for the first time. I failed miserably.
I too love him and his verison of O Holy night is my all time fave.
My confession, The movie The Town? I have people in my life that were just like the thugs in that movie. In an offbeat way I have lived that movie. Just a lot longer ago.
Second The town confession, I normally don't like him, but Ben Affleck in that movie.. I want to jump his bones. And as in I went to bed last night dreaming about him.
no, he owns everything needed for normal camping. this is extreme situation stuff. he said he is going to make an emergency tote in the case of an EMP. i'm just like, okaaaay. ::continues watching real housewives::
My H just texted me that DD is being a "terror" right now, and I seriously just want to punch him in the face. He has no clue. I took care of her all weekend, mostly by myself, so he could enjoy his football crap, and he got to go out for a few hours yesterday while I stayed home with a baby who wouldn't eat or nap. I am thankful he picks her up from daycare and takes care of her in the afternoons, but he doesn't have half the patience I have with her sometimes and it makes me livid.
I realize this isn't a confession, but a vent.
And I feel bad because he is so good with her most of the time, but stuff like this just drives me crazy.
With as much bitching as you have done about your h and how haaaaard your life is, I sometimes think you shouldn't have had any kids.
My H just texted me that DD is being a "terror" right now, and I seriously just want to punch him in the face. He has no clue. I took care of her all weekend, mostly by myself, so he could enjoy his football crap, and he got to go out for a few hours yesterday while I stayed home with a baby who wouldn't eat or nap. I am thankful he picks her up from daycare and takes care of her in the afternoons, but he doesn't have half the patience I have with her sometimes and it makes me livid.
I realize this isn't a confession, but a vent.
And I feel bad because he is so good with her most of the time, but stuff like this just drives me crazy.
With as much bitching as you have done about your h and how haaaaard your life is, I sometimes think you shouldn't have had any kids.
I just...I don't know. I've been to therapy before. It didn't work for me; that's not how I heal, ya know? I just sort of internalize it. It's horrible, I know. But I don't know of another way.
Therapy is a weird thing. I always feel awful immediately after, but I think it helps in the long run. It sucks to talk about this kind of shit, but it really helps.
If there's a specific issue that has been bothering you, have you tried reading any self help books? I know they're not for everyone, but I'm trying to think of other things, lol. Have you talked to a PCP or someone about depression?
It's just a lot of different things. Ideally therapy would be the best thing and I WANT it to work, but it just doesn't.
My medicine that I take daily for migraines is actually technically an antidepressant so I am on something. It's hard to explain how I'm feeling. I hope it blows over soon.
I just...I don't know. I've been to therapy before. It didn't work for me; that's not how I heal, ya know? I just sort of internalize it. It's horrible, I know. But I don't know of another way.
I know we say "go to therapy" a lot around here but it really did help me change how I think about things. I stopped beating myself up as much or internalizing things that happen to me.
Part of me says, if this works for you keep it up . But I also don't want you hurting
Thanks, Nama. I am sure it will pass. If not, maybe I consider some other options. Like I told Snickerdoodle, I really want therapy to work for me. It's a relatively "easy" solution. It just doesn't.
Therapy is a weird thing. I always feel awful immediately after, but I think it helps in the long run. It sucks to talk about this kind of shit, but it really helps.
If there's a specific issue that has been bothering you, have you tried reading any self help books? I know they're not for everyone, but I'm trying to think of other things, lol. Have you talked to a PCP or someone about depression?
It's just a lot of different things. Ideally therapy would be the best thing and I WANT it to work, but it just doesn't.
My medicine that I take daily for migraines is actually technically an antidepressant so I am on something. It's hard to explain how I'm feeling. I hope it blows over soon.
Maybe ask about switching your dosage? Sorry you're having a tough time. Feel free to pm me whenever you want!
I love Josh Groban. Like I would leave my life if he asked. His version of O Holy Night is the bestest.
Also, I am 37 years old and tried to use a tampon for the first time. I failed miserably.
I too love him and his verison of O Holy night is my all time fave.
Second The town confession, I normally don't like him, but Ben Affleck in that movie.. I want to jump his bones. And as in I went to bed last night dreaming about him.
YES he is super hot in that movie. Esp the scene where he's doing pullups and working out!! I also love the Groban, though I don't find him hot.
It's just a lot of different things. Ideally therapy would be the best thing and I WANT it to work, but it just doesn't.
My medicine that I take daily for migraines is actually technically an antidepressant so I am on something. It's hard to explain how I'm feeling. I hope it blows over soon.
Maybe ask about switching your dosage? Sorry you're having a tough time. Feel free to pm me whenever you want!