IVF ladies - updated at end thanks!

[knitty]

Are there any other REs in a reasonable distance from you?

The questions to ask when considering triplets are more along the lines of

how long were you on bedrest for? How much of that was in the hospital?
was your terbutaline delivered via a pump?
how long were they in the NICU for?
when did you adjust reflux med dosage?
what sort of speech therapy do you use?
how do you keep glasses on your baby?
how soon was the cerebral palsy diagnosed?
did your CP kid ever gain bladder control?
when all three are hungry, how do you choose which ones to feed first?
when all three are crying, how do you choose which two to hold?
could you ever pump?
how to cope with a reading delay?

That's not to say no-one dodges the bullet, but having twins increases your risk for everything from loss of the whole pregnancy to cerebral palsy to academic delays, to low birth weight and premature birth, having triplets increases it by even more. And many of the issues aren't obvious when they're babies, because it doesn't take much to be a baby.
www.msnbc.msn.com/id/17937811/ns/health-pregnancy/t/-for--no-baby-bargain-doctors-say/

Even if they're healthy and 37 weeks (you don't go 40 weeks with trips) you have the issue of two arms and three babies. Imagine how it would feel to not be able to pick up your sweet crying newborn because you need both arms for the two you're holding. Does that fit with your dreams of snuggling a little baby?

Sorry, I know this is harsh, but of all the IF blogs I followed when I was ttc, not one triplet family was without at least some ongoing disability, and from the twin pg on up the stories of bedrest, preterm labour and NICU stays were just awful. I know five twin families IRL and every single mother was traumatised by the newborn period. Luckily only a couple of them have delays.

At the moment your choice is not between HOM or no baby ever, so save this horrendous risk for when it truly is that or nothing. Your odds of getting pregnant over the next year of treatment are somewhere around 80% or more. Don't take foolish risks now.

[changedname]

Hey Knitty,

Thanks for your response. My triplet stroller question was kind of unrelated to my post, just reading the links etc that people mentioned made me wonder how they go about their daily life as I don't think I have seen any triplets out and about. (I am not planning in having triplets anytime soon and totally get the risks of HOM).

I will definitely not be triggering again with more than 2 follies despite what RE says. I really appreciate all your responses and the information you guys have given me.
I did have a second opinion with another RE last month but decided to stay with this one due to scheduling/ease of treatments etc. That may change.
Hopefully I will be posting a bfp soon!

[knitty]

Yeah, I hope it's a moot point soon. And I'm glad to hear you might switch REs. The goal is a take home baby, not losing three at 22 weeks, right?

[changedname]

Dec 14, 2012 16:22:15 GMT -5 knitty said:

Yeah, I hope it's a moot point soon. And I'm glad to hear you might switch REs. The goal is a take home baby, not losing three at 22 weeks, right?

Exactly. I have seen so much heartbreak on TB/TN. Thanks for your input and advice.

[knitty]

But moot point in two weeks!

[egishere]

I'm glad you got some answers today from your RE. I have triplets. The pg was not horrible and I was never on bed rest until the final week before I delivered. My babies were in the nicu one month for eating and growing and reflux. I consider my situation very lucky though as a lot do have issues during the pg and after but I just wanted to say its not all bad stories associated with having HOM! For strollers I had a triple decker which is like a snap and go when they were little. Now we use a Valco twin tri mode with Joey seat for walks or our choo choo wagon for trips to the dr, we took it to see Santa and even parked it at a restaurant and gasp...took then out to lunch!