I think TOTS is trying to make it seem like she posted as Ash's AE.
GBCN operates a leetle bit differently than TN. Nice try, tots.
I think you're right, after I posted I was like "damn it, what if she's just pretending to be to make ashbride look stupid?" Then I had a tiny moment of lols for TOTS.
If I feel strongly about something, I do lash out, yes.
Stuff with kids just.....I can't even. Anything tragic having to do with children cuts me like a knife, regardless of if it directly affects me or not.
So if you had seen me walking around with my son, who had 80 stitches in his face and mits on his hands it would have personally affected you? Or would you have judged my parenting skills not knowing of his condition?
If I feel strongly about something, I do lash out, yes.
Stuff with kids just.....I can't even. Anything tragic having to do with children cuts me like a knife, regardless of if it directly affects me or not.
So if you had seen me walking around with my son, who had 80 stitches in his face and mits on his hands it would have personally affected you? Or would you have judged my parenting skills not knowing of his condition?
My mind does not immediately go to "OMG CHILD ABUSE!" I like to give parents a little more credit than that...My heart would hurt for him though.
But when a mother comes out and says "I don't love my child, I am giving her up." THAT makes me want to cry for that poor baby.
I'm not saying I'm not an asshole. Could I have been more tactful about it? Sure. But I'm not really worried about being tactful toward a bunch of people who will always find fault in anything I say/do simply because of who I am.
To my (untrained) eye, this note looks like it was written by a young woman, not a dude or an older person. Do you have any ideas at all who it could be?
So if you had seen me walking around with my son, who had 80 stitches in his face and mits on his hands it would have personally affected you? Or would you have judged my parenting skills not knowing of his condition?
My mind does not immediately go to "OMG CHILD ABUSE!" I like to give parents a little more credit than that...My heart would hurt for him though.
But when a mother comes out and says "I don't love my child, I am giving her up." THAT makes me want to cry for that poor baby.
Dude, it's not like JLM just dumped her child in a dumpster, she went and found her a family and made sure her child was well taken care of.
Do you not like people who adopt their new born babies out? It doesn't mean they don't love them, it means they couldn't keep them for whatever reason. Yah, JLM kept her daughter because she really wanted to feel for that child what she feels for her other. I 100% believe she loves her child, but in a different way then how she loves her first child. I feel like she did the best she could with the situation she's in. She cares enough to give her to a family who is close to her, so I assume she wants to see her child grow up, but cannot offer that close bond due to how her daughter came about.
I struggled with how I feel about JLM and what she did, BUT I give her huge huge props for not aborting that child and for not giving her up for adoption ASAP, but for trying to do all she could to keep her a part of her family.
Sometimes life just deals a really shitty hand and JLM got it and she is doing her best with what she was handed.
I am 100 thousand % for adoption. It's the route I wish jlm would have taken right after J was born.
I am a bit confused as to why she didn't. IMO, if you're pregnant and thinking "Well, maybe I can *try* to love this baby" you don't have any business raising that child for any amount of time. Unpopular opinion? I am sure of it. But I would much rather see that child go to a loving home right away, rather than bond and love their birth mother, only to be given up months later.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Ash, she was still married at that time, I believe. I don't think it was an option, given the difficult circumstances. I recall J saying at one point that it was something that had crossed her mind.
I am 100 thousand % for adoption. It's the route I wish jlm would have taken right after J was born.
I am a bit confused as to why she didn't. IMO, if you're pregnant and thinking "Well, maybe I can *try* to love this baby" you don't have any business raising that child for any amount of time. Unpopular opinion? I am sure of it. But I would much rather see that child go to a loving home right away, rather than bond and love their birth mother, only to be given up months later.
Both parents need to give consent in order for a child to be placed for adoption.