I am amazed that people who went to college did not get high or just try it once
I worked full time while in college to help out my parents while they were both on disability so I didn't really have time or inclination to ever try it.
I still have never smoke weed.
But i have helped grow it hydroponically and harvest it within the last few years. Some day i'll try it out.
I've never smoked up, although I lived with people who did on the regular. It just never interested me.
This blows my dad's mind. He doesn't get high anymore, but well into my 20s and early 30s, he'd offer to score me some weed.
I think it's great you're having open discussions like this with her.
I'm rolling my eyes at you!
Your last sentence.
She isn't just discussing it, right? Frkles is planning this. Am inright?
Frkles...whyyy? What is your point innthis?
I am guessing her daughter came to her and asked about it.
Frkls did not tell her daughter not to smoke (because that never works). She did not ignore her daughter or shame her for being curious. She didn't lie to her, either.
Instead, never having smoked before, she consulted with people who have to get recommendations for safe and smart ways to get high when her daughter is 18 (2 years from now).
It is not imminent. She is having an intelligent and mature conversation with her daughter and creating a safe and comfortable environment for her.
I think this is preferable to her hiding her head in the sand on the issue. It's not like she and her daughter have matching bongs in hand gearing up to smoke right now.
Post by sailorgray on Dec 27, 2012 17:50:59 GMT -5
Cville really did say it best.
This post definitely smells of someone who wants to be the "cool" SM. I see nothing wrong with smoking pot, but, like cigarettes, it's not something I am going to introduce to my kids.
Post by hisno1girl on Dec 27, 2012 17:57:19 GMT -5
This is not her daughter, it's her stepdaughter. Who is still currently a minor.
Those things are the main points that should not be overlooked.
I don't know many people who would be happy to know that their child (which she still technically is) is being potentially schooled in the ways of illegal drug use (it's still illegal there).
Post by underwaterrhymes on Dec 27, 2012 18:01:34 GMT -5
With all due respect, his, my STEPfather IS my father. (As is my real father, of course.) But he's been more like a dad to me than my real one has. Stepparents can play a very special role in their children's lives.
It sounds like Frkls is very close with her stepdaughter and vice versa. She is having a discussion with her, not providing her with paraphernalia.
With all due respect, his, my STEPfather IS my father. (As is my real father, of course.) But he's been more like a dad to me than my real one has. Stepparents can play a very special role in their children's lives.
Of course, stepparents play an important role in a child's life. IMO, that just supports how irresponsible it is for Frkls to be having this discussion with her SD. It's one thing to have an open discussion about drugs. It's an entirely different thing to plan their 1st time smoking it together. To me, it's the equivalent of saying, "Happy Birthday!! You're 18, so these are now legal for you" and handing over a pack of cigarettes.
listen, i am the biggest pothead in this post. and i think people who get high with their kids are super-trashy. so, check yo'self.
Yes. Also, the fact that this is your sd makes me extra squicky. You guys already have issues, what of she happens to mention this conversation to her mom or grandparents? Can you imagine the reaction if someone came on here saying their kids stepmom was discussing future drug use with them?!?
With all due respect, his, my STEPfather IS my father. (As is my real father, of course.) But he's been more like a dad to me than my real one has. Stepparents can play a very special role in their children's lives.
Of course, stepparents play an important role in a child's life. IMO, that just supports how irresponsible it is for Frkls to be having this discussion with her SD. It's one thing to have an open discussion about drugs. It's an entirely different thing to plan their 1st time smoking it together. To me, it's the equivalent of saying, "Happy Birthday!! You're 18, so these are now legal for you" and handing over a pack of cigarettes.
With all due respect, his, my STEPfather IS my father. (As is my real father, of course.) But he's been more like a dad to me than my real one has. Stepparents can play a very special role in their children's lives.
It sounds like Frkls is very close with her stepdaughter and vice versa. She is having a discussion with her, not providing her with paraphernalia.
I guess should have added a disclaimer about the stepparent thing because I'm a SM too, but this isn't about me & my SKs or you & your SD, and it's not even really about her relationship with her SD, it's about what her SD's other parents consider acceptable. Who knows, maybe her mother & father wouldn't even care if her daughter smoked weed? I certainly don't know.
listen, i am the biggest pothead in this post. and i think people who get high with their kids are super-trashy. so, check yo'self.
Yes. Also, the fact that this is your sd makes me extra squicky. You guys already have issues, what of she happens to mention this conversation to her mom or grandparents? Can you imagine the reaction if someone came on here saying their kids stepmom was discussing future drug use with them?!?
People's heads would absolutely explode and anyone who says that's not true is in serious denial.
I think it's a bad idea to plan on smoking it up with a teenager.
It's one thing if your 30 year old kid offers you a bat after a holiday meal, but quite another to smoke with an 18 year old.
agreed!
While legally an adult - 18 y/o's are still stupid and there is no way in hell I would want to be the person who introduces a drug, of any kind, into my child's life.
I think it's a bad idea to plan on smoking it up with a teenager.
It's one thing if your 30 year old kid offers you a bat after a holiday meal, but quite another to smoke with an 18 year old.
agreed!
While legally an adult - 18 y/o's are still stupid and there is no way in hell I would want to be the person who introduces a drug, of any kind, into my child's life.
Are you going to buy her a pack of cigs too?
I don't think cigs are really comparable; they're far more addictive. I see it more like buying your of-age kid a drink.
It's easy for me to be all whatevs about it since I'm not a parent. Who knows how I'd feel if I were having kids.
Of course, stepparents play an important role in a child's life. IMO, that just supports how irresponsible it is for Frkls to be having this discussion with her SD. It's one thing to have an open discussion about drugs. It's an entirely different thing to plan their 1st time smoking it together. To me, it's the equivalent of saying, "Happy Birthday!! You're 18, so these are now legal for you" and handing over a pack of cigarettes.
I'm sorry, but I disagree.
You know, I think the thing that does bother me most is that Frkls is planning this with someone else's child. From what has been posted in this thread (I do NOT know the situation), her SD's mom is in the picture. I would be freaking pissed if I spent my life discouraging drug use, legal or not, and someone who my child looked up to (in this case Frkls) planned on doing drugs with them. It would kill me.
While legally an adult - 18 y/o's are still stupid and there is no way in hell I would want to be the person who introduces a drug, of any kind, into my child's life.
Are you going to buy her a pack of cigs too?
I don't think cigs are really comparable; they're far more addictive. I see it more like buying your of-age kid a drink.
It's easy for me to be all whatevs about it since I'm not a parent. Who knows how I'd feel if I were having kids.
but, for some, weed is such a motivation killer. Who would actually take the chance and start that snowball down the hill for their own child?
With all due respect, his, my STEPfather IS my father. (As is my real father, of course.) But he's been more like a dad to me than my real one has. Stepparents can play a very special role in their children's lives.
It sounds like Frkls is very close with her stepdaughter and vice versa. She is having a discussion with her, not providing her with paraphernalia.
But I don't think that's the case here. Also, this didn't sound like a 'discussion', I mean the title says her and dsd are looking for a weed tutor, lol.
I'm still curious if her mother and father are cool with this? I'm guessing yes but still want to know for sure.
Right, but she also says when she is 18 and it is legal.
Neither of which are the case right now. So it IS just hypothetical for the time being.
I get the concerns people have because it is entirely possible that her stepdaughter's mom is not okay with this, but presumably her father is.
Anyway, I think it's far more responsible to have this conversation with her stepdaughter than to ignore it or direct her to her mom.
I guess I just come from a really open family and have always felt so blessed to be able to talk to all of my parents (with the exception of my stepmother) about things I had questions about.
Coming from the tool that schools us on the correct usage of bowl? Stfu weirdo!
Why so nasty Angela?? I wasn't schooling anyone, just having fun on a forum in which you shouldn't take so seriously!!
Ohhhhhhh my bad. I didn't realize you spouting off like some poindexter spicoli was you just willy nilly having fun. Noted. And please watch for multiple pms from those of us that need guidance on what should or shouldn't be taken seriously here.
Why so nasty Angela?? I wasn't schooling anyone, just having fun on a forum in which you shouldn't take so seriously!!
Ohhhhhhh my bad. I didn't realize you spouting off like some poindexter spicoli was you just willy nilly having fun. Noted. And please watch for multiple pms from those of us that need guidance on what should or shouldn't be taken seriously here.
I'm with Stellas on this - have the thread deleted. You are in an ongoing contentious custody dispute with her mother. It doesn't matter that you are only proposing doing it when legal. Documentation of legal actions cause problems in custody battles all the time. And right now it isn't legal. A conversation like this could be used against you. It could leave your husband in the position of defending you and explaining context instead of demonstrating what a great dad he is. Sure, the chance she sees this is slim. But if she does, it comes with your photo.
I'm with Stellas on this - have the thread deleted. You are in an ongoing contentious custody dispute with her mother. It doesn't matter that you are only proposing doing it when legal. Documentation of legal actions cause problems in custody battles all the time. And right now it isn't legal. A conversation like this could be used against you two and leave your husband in the position of defending you and trying to explain context instead of demonstrating how he is a great dad. Sure, the chance she sees this is slim. But if she does, it comes with your photo.
I always love hearing your thoughts on different posts.