s/o internet liars

[Deleted]

This is such an odd concept to me. I do not have a good enough memory to lie. I would be found out immediately when I said something contradictory to something else. I have enough trouble not contradicting myself when I'm telling the truth, lol.

Back in early HS when AOL chatting was a new thing, my friends and I used to talk to guys online and make up our personas. It would be a 1 time chat and it was a great party game but I can't imagine doing that as an adult and as someone who is a "member" of a community of regular posters. Thanks for the reminder that there are a lot of crazies/shitty people out there.

[pugz]

CJ and I joked that vanillacourage wasn't real since she hadn't come to any GTGs but we just met her last month and now we're pretty sure she's real Unless she sent a body double.

[RandZB]

We had a woman who faked a baby on another Bump off board. She even had GTGs with people. That was a fun few weeks when she got found out.

[pitterwoo]

<------------------ this is not a picture of me. just wanted to clear that up in case anyone thought I was lying about being Gwen Stefani.

I don't have the patience to lie and assume the same of most people. I wouldn't be surprised though if some stretch the truth or misrepresent some of their circumstances though.

[pugz]

On a bump spin off FB group I'm in a mom lied about her daughter being blind and also said she had to take her nephew in because her sister was depressed and neglecting him. People gave money to help her with travel costs to get him, clothes for the kid, etc. Came out several months later that it wasn't true. Someone met the sister and she had her son and confirmed the little girl was not blind, she just wore glasses.

She got called out on her crazy and did pay all the money back over a course of a couple of months. No idea if her H ever found out what she did or if he was in on it. I wonder if her sister still talks to her after the horrible things she told the world about her.

[alleinesein]

Jan 9, 2013 22:56:25 GMT -5 Stan said:

I met a Nestie who was completely lying. She said her H was military and wasn't, all the way to making posts about how she liked getting saluted when she drove on base, that her H was deployed and she had a knock on the door (which can be frightening for a mil spouse), etc. She met a whole bunch of us and it was pretty freaky when it was exposed.

You are in San Diego right?? If so, I know who you are talking about and she posted different things on the local board and the MN board. I met her a few times and even met her FI shortly before the wedding. I know that there was major drama on the local board when the MN board jumped all over her. Thats pretty much when the local board died a slow painful death.

[anna7602]

I have met a few nesties IRL and they are who they say they are, as much as anyone I met through other ways represented themselves. People can always play up certain aspects of their lives and hide other aspects, can't they? It takes a while to really get below the surface.

I am not especially paranoid about someone making up an entire online persona. Although sometimes I wonder if V is, in fact, Kate Middleton IRL.

[Lucille Bluth]

Wouldn't you think that those catfish types don't go to meet ups or if they are really committed they find out where meet ups are and lurk there, too? How do people spend that much time with it?

I'm realizing more and more there are a lot of mentally ill people out there who get off on manipulating other people and really not having any qualms with it. There truly must be a lot of desperate to connect types who want to belong at any and all costs.

The people I've met online IRL have been who they say they are, but it's still unsettling to really not know.

[Deleted]

I'm sure people do. I used to think Bliss was fake although now I think she might be real. There was someone on PCE who admitted to creating fake profiles for fun to stir the pot. To be fair, we all like the drama right? Seems hypocritical to denouce someone for giving people what they want.

I just can't see having that much time available to dedicate to it.

[Deleted]

Jan 10, 2013 4:37:51 GMT -5 anna7602 said:

I am not especially paranoid about someone making up an entire online persona. Although sometimes I wonder if V is, in fact, Kate Middleton IRL.

I wish I was! But LittleSpitfire and cilantro can attest that I am not. :-(

[dr.girlfriend]

I think also you don't have to be a liar, you can make the smallest thing dramatic. There was someone on a mommy board like this. Like, if you ask me how my kid was born, I'd say "I had a c-section because my fluid was low." If you asked someone who is all about the drama they might be like, "The baby wasn't moving! So I had a stress test and they said go straight to the hospital -- don't even stop for gas! I had almost NO fluid!!! And then they told me I had a 1 in a thousand chance of delivering vaginally! So I had to have an emergency c-section! OMG!!!"

[badtzmaru22]

There was a chick on the loss boards on the bump who under several different names made up that she got pregnant with twins and lost them. She always worked in an emergency services field, like being a paramedic or something. You have to be really f-ed up to mess wih people who really have had losses and try to evoke sympathy from them.

[njohnson1972]

On my BUMP month board, when all of our babies were around 4 months old, a regular posted that her baby just did of SIDS.

Turns out it was a lie. She had a baby, but it was fine.

It was horrific. Who makes up a lie about their baby dying?

[jigsy]

Jan 9, 2013 20:40:46 GMT -5 carrotsmakemefat said:

Jan 9, 2013 20:37:31 GMT -5 jjwritergirl said:

I'm a little paranoid. I met some people tonight and they were normal and fine. I won't lie though, I was extra cautious and almost chickened out.

I really wish I could have gone! Being sick is no bueno. I almost chickened out meeting an MMer a couple months ago, but it was 1 on 1. I never did that before. I definately prefer a group setting.

I'm glad you didn't chicken out

[mbcdefg]

I was friendly with some girls on one of the national Knot boards back in the day, and a few of them flew in for my wedding. And we try to meet up if any of them happen to travel to my area.

[funnygirlglee]

I think it is ridiculous to create a fake life. It's one thing to want to keep identifying information personal, but to make up fake life events is nothing but an attention getting ploy.

[Deleted]

Jan 9, 2013 20:25:48 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

Most people are neither dedicated nor smart enough to execute an extended charade.

This.

Who have I met, let's see. Bnchanums, Womet, BAMFMrsB, Charky, and Choco. They all appeared to be legit.

[magdala9]

Jan 9, 2013 20:41:38 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

I will meet anyone.

If I'm packing heat.

A close friend of mine has professional, fake internet profiles. She is in law enforcement and specializes in catching child predators looking for victims online. And yes, she is packing heat when she meets those internet "friends."

[dr.girlfriend]

Oh, I met an IRL faker too...so awkward. She was a friend-of-a-friend who was a last-minute fill-in at a beach house we rented because someone else no-showed. She said that she was a doctoral student in what happened to be my area of study. I started talking to her in a "cool, me too, what's your dissertation topic...?" kind of way and she got really odd and nervous and it became apparent that she was not in grad school at all and didn't even seem to know what would be involved in being one. And then we spent the whole weekend avoiding each other. Major awkward turtle.

[cjeanette]

Jan 9, 2013 22:11:19 GMT -5 pugz said:

CJ and I joked that vanillacourage wasn't real since she hadn't come to any GTGs but we just met her last month and now we're pretty sure she's real Unless she sent a body double.

We should have made her show ID and quizzed her on some of MMs best moments

[Becca]

Jan 10, 2013 11:30:12 GMT -5 njohnson1972 said:

On my BUMP month board, when all of our babies were around 4 months old, a regular posted that her baby just did of SIDS.

Turns out it was a lie. She had a baby, but it was fine.

It was horrific. Who makes up a lie about their baby dying?

Unfortunately, lots of people do. I have caught a number of people on the bump's loss board. But I never call them out in fear of the .1% chance that I am wrong.

With all the crazy drama and unbelievable crap that goes on in my life, I am always afraid that people will think I am making it up.