My dad had a stroke.

[eav2c]

I got a call from a social worker about an hour ago and apparently my dad had a stroke. He's been there since yesterday? My brother who is a mile down the road not only didn't know but when I called him was all "Oh, okay, cool." :@ I asked if he was going to go see my dad and he said "MAYBE."

I'm 650 miles away. Kind of clueless what I'm supposed to do. Some of you might remember me talking about having problems with my dad and a younger woman who I suspected was stealing his pain pills well I found out today SHE MOVED IN WITH HIM. I talked to him last week and he said he was overdrafting on his bank account. Bitch isn't even paying rent or helping in any way.

I just called my husband and said we have to do something, anything. I wanted to do something back in September when I realized things were getting bad but then C started having seizures. Not to play the woe is me card, because I realize it could/can be worse, but I feel I keep getting slapped in the face every few weeks with something new that requires my attention with no help from fucking anyone.

The bright side is, I talked to the SW and told her all my concerns. I said his apartment was disgusting and poor living conditions, she said it was enough to open a case with elder services. She gave some good advice but more or less said there might not be much we can do about this younger woman if my dad isn't actually at the point of incompetent yet. She said he might just be at the stage of making "poor choices."

I hope my husband will leave work early and tell me we can go up and see him. I don't know how we'll swing it financially but I feel we need to do something now or things will only get worse.

[dojo]

That is such a tough position for you to be in! I'm so sorry to hear all this and also, I want to tell your brother to get his shit together!

[Dorothy Zbornak]

Oh man. I'm so sorry!

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[lolaburns]

((( hugs))) I really do wish I could hug you. You have been through so much.


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[Regina Philange]

Sorry eav.

And is this woman your dads girlfriend or something? She's gotta go.

[creamsiclechica]

I'm so sorry, eav, especially since it's been one thing after another for you. Hugs, and lots of hope you can get home to help straighten things out and get things in order. Thoughts and prayers your way!

[Deleted]

Oh my gosh! My heart really hurts for you and your dad. When it rains, it really does pour and 2011 was that year for my family and I hope this chain of illness is over for you soon. I don't know what I can do for you besides keep you close in thought and in prayer. I think you are taking the right steps by going through social services, but you might just need to step in and tell little hooch to GTFO and really be willing to take steps to make that happen if you need to and you brother needs to get on board too.

Is he normally a flake?

[ruby412]

Aw, Eav, I'm so sorry you are going through this. I'm glad you opened up to the SW and I hope she can help. You must feel helpless being so far away but it sounds like you are doing everything you possibly can. Hugs, lady.

[musiclover]

So sorry eav

[bebeetmoi]

I'm so sorry to hear this

[jenbelle]

I'm so sorry eav, it sounds like the SW knows a lot, so hopefully she can help. Good luck and lots of hugs!

[eav2c]

Jan 10, 2013 15:27:32 GMT -5 Regina Philange said:

Sorry eav.

And is this woman your dads girlfriend or something? She's gotta go.

He said they "dont have sex" and that they are just good friends and she is down on her luck.

I want to scream at her and tell her to go be down on her luck with someone who isn't fucking 80 years old.

My dad says he didn't have a stroke and that he's been in the hospital for 4-5 days.... The SW heard that so hopefully she can see that he's not with it. She said its not 100% stroke and are waiting on tests?

And, my H is coming home and we're gonna try and get a plan together.

[Faevantastic]

I hope you can help him!

[charlielove]

eav, I'm so sorry. I've been wondering how your dad was doing.

On the plus side, having an open case may help him get some services he really could use and possibly get that freeloading chic out of his apartment. Keep us updated.

[lauranicole91]

Ugh. So frustrating. Big hugs to you!! I hope you can swing a visit!

[claralou]

I'm so sorry Eav. hugs.

[eav2c]

Jan 10, 2013 15:30:34 GMT -5 dragonflybelle said:

Oh my gosh! My heart really hurts for you and your dad. When it rains, it really does pour and 2011 was that year for my family and I hope this chain of illness is over for you soon. I don't know what I can do for you besides keep you close in thought and in prayer. I think you are taking the right steps by going through social services, but you might just need to step in and tell little hooch to GTFO and really be willing to take steps to make that happen if you need to and you brother needs to get on board too.

Is he normally a flake?

Flake would be a nice way to describe my brother. He's a 33 year old child (I'm 25) and its all just a fucking mess. My brother is a known drug user, not sure if he uses anymore, and has always been selfish. Stole from my parents for years, stole from my mom when she died (went to her house before we could get there). Has an enabling wife too.

I'm not trying to pawn this off on my brother but the least he could do is take some iniative to help given we are so far away. My husband and I will do whatever we can long term, just wish my brother would help in the short term.

[Deleted]

I'm so sorry. I hope you can get there to get stuff sorted out.

[kdrake8]

Eav. I'm so sorry. I feel like its one thing after. Another for you as well any way I can help - even if it's just PM support - please feel free.

Love ya lady. <3

[devonpow]

I'm sorry, this sounds really tough

[erniebufflo]

I am so sorry! It's time for life to lay off you for a bit!

[katie]

I am sorry to hear about this. I know you have had a lot going on lately... It's good that you talked to the SW about your concerns.

[TrudyCampbell]

I am so sorry, this sounds really hard

[Deleted]

Want me to come give him the old Cleveland Steamer?!?

[sunshineluv]

I am so sorry. Perhaps you can become his power of attorney and gain some control over his finances? If he would be open to that. I can't imagine how sad, and frustrated you are right now.

[sno&2peas]

I'm so sorry EAV!! Praying your dad got medical attention quickly to minimize the stroke! That is awful about this woman who is taking advantage! Hugs to you I definitely understand being slapped continuously and it never seems to end! i hope things get better soon for you and you can find a way to see/help your dad!!

[christidee]

I'm so sorry, eav. Is there anyway that you can take control of his assets and have her ordered to move out?

[thedahliharpa]

I'm sorry to hear this news. I hope you can visit. *hugs*

[EnchantedSoul]

I'm sorry to hear about the stroke. Hoping you get to make a visit to check on him soon.

[cat19]

I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I wish there were a magic way to go *poof* all better for you. ::hugs::