Post by thinkofthesoldiers on Jan 22, 2013 9:56:39 GMT -5
Autumn, you are wrong the definition of single mom. Evee, you aren't going to ask for support, but your H will because he has no job. You are being naive.
Autumn, you are wrong the definition of single mom. Evee, you aren't going to ask for support, but your H will because he has no job. You are being naive.
Sorry Evee but I kind of agree. Watch your back. It's early in the process and I get that you want to trust. But put your guard up, ok?
Also, massive at you ALREADY playing the "single mom" card...... You said you will be sharing custody with your ex-husband.
I may be wrong, but to me single mom means no input from the father at all, if you are switching weeks, I would say you have a decent amount of support.
see, I thought single mom meant that you were single, and a mom.
Ugh, quit trying to play the single mom card in your favor, bam. (I would insert the eye-rolly emoticon here (directed at autumn), if I could see the emoticons in the new format!)
Yes he does. The courts will force him to give me equal share of it though. Currently, XH won't. But again I don't want to fight him. I just want this over and done with this so I can get on with my life.
I'm not saying fight to the death or anything, but be careful just wanting it to be over.
My aunt did this, she just wanted out, and assumed ex would help out as needed. He didn't at all, and he would basically laugh at her when she would ask for $$ for something like braces for their youngest. Or he would give "some of it" and hold it over her head for ever.
I think that is another concern for it going so fast. Are you making the best decisions about what you have agreed to? I think he has taken advantage of you for so long by not working/letting you be the breadwinner, and that isn't going to change because of a divorce. Be smart and careful!
Yes, you are a single mom now. But 50/50 custody is fantastic if he can hold up his end of the custody arrangement and it does not bother you to split that time. See my post above about how it worked out for someone I know. It will certainly give you time to work on yourself.
Ugh, quit trying to play the single mom card in your favor, bam. (I would insert the eye-rolly emoticon here (directed at autumn), if I could see the emoticons in the new format!)
Good luck to you, evee.
Like I had said, I could be wrong on what the definition is. The single moms I know don't have close to that amount of shared custody, not even close.
how about overreaction? you familiar with that definition?
Post by missuselmore on Jan 22, 2013 10:20:14 GMT -5
Evee, I was a single mom for years, and dealt with 50/50 custody, and just spent $3000 recently getting it changed. Add in there that he is responsible for half dental, half medical, half first car, half college, etc. If your son is in childcare, he should pay half. I will be more than happy to chat if you want to PM me.
I think Evee's only mistake here is being naive enough to think that some of you will support her, and although most of you are, some of you really need to get over it. She has come a long way from what I can see and this bashing Evee thing is getting old.
Post by daisyheadmaizie on Jan 22, 2013 10:21:42 GMT -5
And, for Autumn,
Single Mother n (Sociology) a. a person who has a dependent child or dependent children and who is widowed, divorced, or unmarried b. (as modifier) a single-parent family Also called (NZ) solo parent
ditto dobs. Find yourself the sharkiest attorney possible and get everything.
Good luck Evee! My mom divorced my dad when I was very young and it was the best decision she could have made. There are times where having a single mom who is loving and stable is way better than 2 parents trying to work it out.
1. Good for you Evee 2. A single mum is a mother that is single. Period. 3. Do make sure you get what you need to get off him, for your son's sake. And because it's only fair. missuselmore has good advice.
Good luck Evee! And I agree, get everything spelled out in your divorce/custody orders. Disability, child support, medical costs, daycare expenses, etc. As amicable as it seems now, your XH does not have the best track record.
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