Now what?

[Deleted]

I posted this on the original site and then saw the post about the mass migration, so I thought I'd double it here. Can't find a 9-5 board so I hope you all don't mind.... It is sorta money related.

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So I got fired today.   I'm still within my three month initial probationary period, so I knew it could happen, but I've been doing a great job with my clients (I work in mental health), I was up to date on all my paperwork, and even the boss - who doesn't mince words - said I was known to her as a hard worker.

So why did they fire me?  My boss said it's cause the team felt I wasn't a good fit.

What does that mean, anyway? A good fit? I'm friendly, social, polite and respectful.  Did any of them try to get to know me, or even ask me a thing about myself? No.  Did any of them ask me to lunch or show any interest in me? No.  Did I invite them to lunch and try to initiate social contact? Yes, several times.  What did they do?  They said no thanks.  I honestly feel they didn't even bother giving me a fair try.  And now the boss has promoted a worker from within, a worker who had previously applied for my job but was denied.  If she wasn't qualified then, what makes her qualified now?

I'm mad.  Not sad, really, but mad.  If this is how is team treats their team members, I'm not surprised they've had three people in my position over the past less-than-a-year.   I'm so tempted to tell them to look for the problems within their organization.  And I honestly believe I'm better off.  My bank account will miss the income, and I'll miss my clients (still debating if I want to do the last two weeks they've offered me, working with those back stabbers, or not) but I think I'm better off.  

I'll be fine.  H has a great job and they love him there, and I'm going to use this time for my own personal development before I restart the job hunt, but to be honest, I'm just freaking pissed off right now and I had to share.  

Support, advice or just a virtual handholding would be lovely. 

[Deleted]

I would be pissed off too. On the other hand, if your former CW are that clique-y, would it have been a good environment for you long term? You sound very clear headed about this and like you will land solidly on your feet. Good luck with your next step, and hugs for the crappy part now.

[UMaineTeach]

I think they were trying to drive anyone out until their friend got the job.
I would be mad too. It sucks that the boss loved you, but that you weren't there long enough to get a rec. letter.
Plus, being fired is hard to explain at the next interview.

[Brie]

I would give zombie hugs if I could.
Seriously, though, it sounds like they're just cliquey a-holes, and you're probably better off in the long term not having to deal with their BS.

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May 11, 2012 17:57:43 GMT -5 UMaineTeach said:

I think they were trying to drive anyone out until their friend got the job.
I would be mad too. It sucks that the boss loved you, but that you weren't there long enough to get a rec. letter.
Plus, being fired is hard to explain at the next interview.

I don't think I'm going to put this position on my resume at all. Better to be unemployed another two months than try to explain a firing.... I think. Although, the clinical experience is worthwhile and I don't have a comparable on my resume without it.

Damn. Another thing to debate. *sigh*

[ejpint]

Boo for them. Sadly, the "probationary period" sometimes gives employers an out when there really isn't just cause. I suspect there may be more there than they are telling you.

They do sound like a bag full of assholes, though, so go on and move on. Hugs to you, and good luck!

[Deleted]

Fuck, I'm so sorry. I hope you find something better.

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May 11, 2012 18:06:20 GMT -5 ejpint said:

Boo for them. Sadly, the "probationary period" sometimes gives employers an out when there really isn't just cause. I suspect there may be more there than they are telling you.

They do sound like a bag full of assholes, though, so go on and move on. Hugs to you, and good luck!

It could be that there's more to it, but I'm dumbfounded as to what it would be. My boss herself said I was a hard worker, and she knew I'd do the job and do it well, and if she's firing me anyway, why not tell me the truth? So weird.

But yes, they are a bag of assholes - very High School, very backstabby - and I'm better off without them. My brain knows that. My heart, however, is hurt.

Thanks for the good wishes and hugs. I appreciate it.

[rex]

This sucks, I'm sorry.

[CallingAllAngels]

I am so sorry. My H had a similar situation a few years ago, and being fired ended up being fantastic for his career. He landed a new job almost immediately. I hope your luck turns out to be just as good.

[Pom]

Sorry, that sucks. You are probably better off long term. It still sucks though and if I could offer you a shot of tequila, I would.

[Deleted]

I really appreciate all you guys' support and encouragement. Thanks so much for the feedback. I'm in the process of deciding if I want to send a "this is what's wrong with your organization" email or not. I've written up a scathing, horrible letter and it would be wonderful to send it, but also very much of the "burning bridges" type and I don't think that's a smart decision.

I'm also wondering if I should leave this place of employ off my resume, in spite of the fact that I got experience there that's not comparable to anything else on my resume. I'm just not certain that my boss will give me a good reference... Thoughts?

[jigsy]

If you have a solid career history otherwise, and you talk to the boss before leaving about getting a good recommendation, I would put it down and be honest about the reason, it wasn't a good fit for you. I have been on a couple of hiring panels and I have realized through that experience how much personality and fit is important in an office. Being able to do a good job goes beyond being competent, fitting in is essential. It wasn't your fault, and it sounds like your better off, but being able to recognize when the fit isn't good is not a bad thing.

[litasail]

That really, really sucks, I'm so sorry.

[MrsAxilla]

May 12, 2012 11:51:08 GMT -5 suzubell said:

May 12, 2012 11:24:50 GMT -5 @joesther said:

I really appreciate all you guys' support and encouragement. Thanks so much for the feedback. I'm in the process of deciding if I want to send a "this is what's wrong with your organization" email or not. I've written up a scathing, horrible letter and it would be wonderful to send it, but also very much of the "burning bridges" type and I don't think that's a smart decision.

I'm also wondering if I should leave this place of employ off my resume, in spite of the fact that I got experience there that's not comparable to anything else on my resume. I'm just not certain that my boss will give me a good reference... Thoughts?

I wouldn't send the letter. It might make you feel better, but they aren't going to take it seriously. They likely already know what's wrong with their organization.

I would leave it off your resume if you aren't sure you'll get a good reference.

Sorry about this sucky experience.

Ditto. Don't send the letter. You'll feel better soon anyway. Being fired sucks donkey balls, but you'll be ok!