Furniture shopping - observation by salesman

[meandhim]

Last week I went by myself to a local furniture store.  I was looking for end tables and briefly talked to a salesman.  I noticed there was a lone man looking at furniture also.  Monday, DH & I both went to the store so I could show him what I liked and see if he liked it too.  While we were looking, I noticed a different lone man walking around looking at furniture. The same salesman was there and recognized me.  We decided to buy some furniture so while we were waiting to pay we were talking to the salesman.  He said that he has noticed that normally the man comes in by himself first and then will bring the woman in later to look and we did the complete opposite.  After the salesman said that, I started thinking about those lone men
walking around and wondered if that was the case with them.

What's normal in your relationship?   DH couldn't care about what kind of furniture I picked out as long as it's not too expensive and looked decent.  I almost had to beg him to come with me Monday so I could show him the furniture before we bought it.  He just wanted me to buy it but I refused to spend that much money without him seeing it first.

[ddi741]

Whenever we've had to buy furniture we've just picked a weekend that worked for both of us and gone together.

[Deleted]

My H would never look at furniture by himself. If it was up to him, we would probably have no furniture and huge tvs. But he generally does not buy anything over $100 without me anyways. It is a combination of him not wanting to spend money and not trusting his own tastes..lol

[dexteroni]

I can't really picture my DH stopping in a furniture store to browse by himself. Historically, we have either gone together or I've done the preliminary shopping and then bring him to see the finalists.

[Deleted]

I cannot imagine my husband EVER walking into a furniture store by himself.

Usually we go to stores together, or I pick out something online, show him the picture, and he says whether he likes it too.

[Deleted]

For our couch we looked together several times before we picked something out - also together.

I did buy a dresser by myself once and even lugged it into the apartment all by myself which was an amazing feat of strength btw.

[kadams767]

My husband has terrible taste and knows it would be a complete waste of his time to look at furniture or any other home decor item without me. He does not have an eye to pick out anything that would even remotely look nice in our house and he admits that. We always go together or sometimes I will browse on my own.

[Deleted]

DH has never gone to look at furniture alone. Either we go together (50% of the time), I find something and suggest it to him (30%) or he comes up with an idea and I go find something similar and show him (20%). He has never been the one to actually find the furniture. At least not that I remember.

[froggy76]

That is really strange. I either go by myself or we go together. I really can't imagine DH going to look at furniture alone.

[drloretta]

Whoever has time might go alone, and then we go together at some point. DH was very particular about what kind of MBR set he wanted, so I'm pretty sure he stopped at at least one store alone. He also stopped at the furniture store next to DDs preschool without me.

[sporky]

We always look at furniture together. I sometimes browse by myself online, but when we actually go to a store, it's both DH and I together.

[Deleted]

DH doesn't go shopping for anything besides food without me. He certainly wouldn't go furniture shopping alone.

[Deleted]

DH doesn't really shop by himself because he ends up becoming super obsessed about finding the best deal and ends up driving across town to 5 different stores before he finally buys something. If I don't have any intention of buying right now, I don't waste my time looking. Furniture takes 2 trips because we go test out the furniture and get all the dimension and then go home and tape it out to make sure we like the flow. I love online shopping, but unfortunately it doesn't work for furniture.

[meandhim]

Okay - you guys are confirming what I thought. I thought it was weird for a man to go furniture shopping by himself.

[Susie]

Jan 23, 2013 13:53:30 GMT -5 ddi741 said:

Whenever we've had to buy furniture we've just picked a weekend that worked for both of us and gone together.

+1

[Deleted]

Before we were even married, I furnished DH's entire house with almost no input from him (except for the mattress and the couches in his "man room"). He would NEVER go to "scout things out without me first.

[mbcdefg]

We bought the bulk of our furniture together. MH was the one to actually pick out a lot of our furnishings, but he likes to consider every option and visit multiple stores whereas I just like to get it done quickly. I have no problem letting him make those decisions, but he always consults me.

The bedroom set is mine from when I lived alone, although I think I took him along to help me decide since we were dating at the time. He bought a chair this weekend from a thrift shop that he plans to renovate, but he sent me photos beforehand to ask if I liked it ... I didn't really care too much since it'll be his project, not mine.

I'm just lazy.

[Deleted]

I just send DH. He cares. I don't.

[raangoli]

Jan 23, 2013 13:55:41 GMT -5 v said:

I cannot imagine my husband EVER walking into a furniture store by himself.

Usually we go to stores together, or I pick out something online, show him the picture, and he says whether he likes it too.

We are the same way. And it's usually my idea that we need to get new furniture or new whatever else for the house.

[Deleted]

If it were something small that DH would use alone (e.g. folding tables for his man cave) then he'd go alone. But otherwise, we shop together; it makes it more fun!

[madringal]

Depends on the furniture. If my husband expects to be able to nap on it, then he wants input. Otherwise he couldn't care less what I bought.

[Deleted]

Unless H were looking for a man chair...oh, wait, even then I would pick it out and ask if he liked it. I just don't see him going furniture shopping instead of me.

[halfpint]

We only go to the furniture store together. He did once go to a consignment store to look for crap for his "man loft" above the garage by himself.

[mrssandro]

DH and I like to shop together for furniture.

[mrssavy42112]

DH doesn't have the motivation to furniture shop on his own. For our apt, I did all the research & showed him what I found. He all of a sudden had a whole lot of opinions when I showed him my choices. So I told him that if he wanted a say, then he needed to come alone. He begrudgingly did.

[morningmania]

I could defintely see my H going into a furniture store without me. I can not say that it has ever happened since we have been together though. We just go together when we have time. We have the same tastes 99% of the time.

[aspentosh]

Jan 23, 2013 13:53:30 GMT -5 ddi741 said:

Whenever we've had to buy furniture we've just picked a weekend that worked for both of us and gone together.

:Y: I can't imagine H shopping for furniture on his own. 

[definitelyO]

Furniture I go first - narrow it down to the 3 I like best and then DH will come and provide his opinion. basically for a couch that means he will sit and lay down on it. A mattress we go together b/c I don't care what kind of mattress we have and he is more particular.

[imojoebunny]

I just all to DH about budget before hand.  If I can, I will snap a picture and text it to him, but often he doesn't see that until I have bought the piece.  I try to get idea of what he doesn't like and likes by showing him what I like on line before I shop.  

[macmars45]

Jan 23, 2013 13:59:50 GMT -5 froggy76 said:

That is really strange. I either go by myself or we go together. I really can't imagine DH going to look at furniture alone.

H and I do the same.