Where in MI? When someone says "cottage" I think Up North. Up North is much more than 4 hours from Chicago.
I don't think you need to cancel but I think your meeting should be public and you should stay at a hotel.
If this guy is as nice as you say, he wouldn't have a problem with that.
How would you feel if your best friend was doing what you want to do? You'd probably think she needed to be a little more smart about it, right? I think that's what everyone else here is saying too.
Just be a little more smart about this.
I'm just a lurker but am originally from Michigan and I 100% agree on the cottage/Up North/much more than 4 hours from Chicago thing. Unless he has property on the lowest portion of Lake Mi shoreline. Grand Haven MAYBE.
False. I can easily get to the northern coast of michigan in 5 hours. It's not out of the realm of possibility to get to a lake town up there in 4 hours
Also, cabin/cottage is a normal term in northern michigan for a lake house. I've seen million dollar houses that people call their "cottage."
I met a few guys online that I went to see (in the same town, no bus trips), in their homes. I am glad I wasn't put in the torture chamber of a basement.
I was also 19 and stupid. The only one I was smart enough to meet in a public place turned out to not be the nice, normal guy he seemed to be. Just out of jail, unkempt, and smelly. So...yeah. Cancel.
Also, a PP mentioned something about her knowing he's real via a FB page - those can be made up and fake, you know.
apalettepassion.wordpress.com/ WHO IS BONQUIQUI!?!?!?!??!
"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
I haven't read all of the responses, but these are the stories I hear about at work day in and day out when the cops are trying to locate a missing person. Usually the girls are a lot younger and pretty naive. Don't do it, the fact that he is ok with you spending 12 hours on a bus to get to him is sketchy enough in itself. I also agree that if a guy is genuine and really cares about a woman, he would pretty much do whatever it takes to get to her.
Post by dominique12i9 on Jun 1, 2012 12:56:13 GMT -5
I'm a lurker but am too shocked that a grown woman who is considering this option is still alive in the first place to not respond:
Besides the fact that you will most likely have your very own Dateline NBC special if you do this, even if he doesn't kill you...would you really want to meet someone for the first time after sitting on a bus for 12 hours in June? Does this cabin even have running water for you to shower? Meet somewhere neutral, in public. Don't step into his secluded lair. This guy sounds like a doucher to even expect you to do this.
Post by chedominique on Jun 1, 2012 13:21:24 GMT -5
I'm glad that you updated and decided to get a hotel. I would still let people know your every move and go out to eat in public places. Update us when you get back.
and obviously a friend/family member has your hotel information AND the information he gave you about him?
Yes, I've got this all covered. I realized how ridiculous I was being after I got 6 pages of posts. I knew in my gut something was wrong, I guess I just needed someone to yell at me and question my hair.
and obviously a friend/family member has your hotel information AND the information he gave you about him?
Yes, I've got this all covered. I realized how ridiculous I was being after I got 6 pages of posts. I knew in my gut something was wrong, I guess I just needed someone to yell at me and question my hair.
I know a guy who has a place in MI, and LA, and is a lawyer. He's married, though! If he has black hair and brown eyes and skin like butta, don't do it!
I'm so glad to hear you're getting a hotel room and I hope you have a great time while visiting him.
And thanks for explaining the hair dye thing, I didn't get the joke. It also seems weird that everyone is so concerned about whether or not you dye your hair. I've seen some women who don't dye their hair but it looks like they do, which i'm super jealous about that. Does it have natural highlights which makes it looked dyed?
I'm so glad to hear you're getting a hotel room and I hope you have a great time while visiting him.
And thanks for explaining the hair dye thing, I didn't get the joke. It also seems weird that everyone is so concerned about whether or not you dye your hair. I've seen some women who don't dye their hair but it looks like they do, which i'm super jealous about that. Does it have natural highlights which makes it looked dyed?
Yeah the sun lightens it. Here is the original post:
make sure to check dontdatehimgirl.com before you go and have a background check done. maybe i watch too many shows on investigation discovery, i'm now convinced everyone is either a hoarder or a killer.
I'm so glad to hear you're getting a hotel room and I hope you have a great time while visiting him.
And thanks for explaining the hair dye thing, I didn't get the joke. It also seems weird that everyone is so concerned about whether or not you dye your hair. I've seen some women who don't dye their hair but it looks like they do, which i'm super jealous about that. Does it have natural highlights which makes it looked dyed?
Yeah the sun lightens it. Here is the original post:
Oh yea! I remember seeing that post and yea you do have some beautiful hair. You do have some dark roots so I wouldn't think you necessarily dyed it. Now i want someone to braid my hair like that! I don't think i could ever braid it by myself.
This seriously sounds like the beginning of a stupid teenage slasher movie.
You mean awesome teenage slasher movie.
This sounds sketchy as fuck. Call me traditional, but if a guy from the internet wants to meet up and bone, he has to do it on the lady's turf. It's called fucking manners. Cottages aren't real things. They're tiny houses that MM rich renamed to justify paying a ridiculous amount per sq ft because it's "quaint". It's a house. A house for midgets. Also, heterosexual men who don't eat flesh don't own cottages.
Remember everyone thought Jeffrey Dahmer looked/seemed normal.
Just saying that there is too much ick going on to make this a sound decision. And he should be making the grand gesture to visit, not you, and he should have done it awhile ago.
I have to say that the bolded part is probably the most amazing thing I have ever read on the interwebz.
apalettepassion.wordpress.com/ WHO IS BONQUIQUI!?!?!?!??!
"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"