I'm worried that mother's day is going to suck

[julesf84]

I asked H what we're doing this weekend for mother's day, aside from the day we're spending with his family, and he basically said he doesn't know. He asked me what I want to do. I was like, "I was hoping you'd figure that one out since it's the first mother's day in our house." I had always thought I would plan something nice or a nice gift for his first father's day.

This won't always be a big deal or anything, but it IS the first one, so I was at least hoping for something nice in general. I don't need bells and whistles, but not having to tell him what I want/want to do would be great. lol

[dowagercountess]

Tell him now to get his shit together before Sunday.

[lucky513]

luckily mothers day is first
hopefullky he will take you out for a nice breakfast and buy you a gc for a massage

[margotmacomber]

DH didn't even acknowledge it last year. He literally had no idea he was supposed to. So I showed him up hard on father's day and made him feel like a chump. I don't know what's going down this time, but he keeps mentioning the day.

Except today is his birthday, tomorrow is DD's birthday. So by Sunday I feel like we will be all celebrated out. Who knows.

[julesf84]

I was a bit icy when I said that I thought he was going to figure something out. Even taking the kid out for a while would be perfect. He lets me sleep in once during the weekend and I do the same for him on the other weekend day. Some time alone would be amazing, but I'm not going to tell him that. I really want him to come up with an idea. I'll obviously reciprocate on father's day.

[eddy]

Dont play this game. Tell himspecifically what you want. No one wins by playing coy and hoping he will figure out your expectations

[peachykate]

It is a big deal and I agree you need to tell him today to come up with a plan.

DH's head was so far up his ass last year, I think worrying about his mom being mad any attention was on me so he did absolutely nothing for me. He only got me a card once I started crying in the car because he got her a card and flowers.

The whole day was fucked and I had total anxiety about it this year. My family apparently had a little "talk" with him and this year has been great so far.(we did our mother's day tonight)

[lucky513]

my b-day is Sunday I bet my husband will be at Macy's tomorrow probably about 30 minutes before they close

[Deleted]

I agree with Eddy. I've learned it's better to spell things out than to be disappointed. And if he doesn't come through you can always get him a nose hair trimmer or something equally as crappy for Father's Day.

[julesf84]

May 11, 2012 19:32:08 GMT -5 @griffster said:

I agree with Eddy. I've learned it's better to spell things out than to be disappointed. And if he doesn't come through you can always get him a nose hair trimmer or something equally as crappy for Father's Day.

Yes, I agree with giving him some ideas to go on, but I don't want to "spell it out" for him. He knows what I like. I'm not opposed to giving him a few suggestions, but I would appreciate him being a bit thoughtful on this one.

He is a great guy and treats me well. I'm not playing games with him, I would just like to feel appreciated without having to tell him exact details and all that. I save that for my birthday. hahaha

[pittsmcgee]

May 11, 2012 19:31:26 GMT -5 lucky513 said:

my b-day is Sunday I bet my husband will be at Macy's tomorrow probably about 30 minutes before they close

I'm sure it will beat the scratch tickets I got on my b- day Tuesday

[peachykate]

May 11, 2012 19:34:23 GMT -5 pittsmcgee said:

May 11, 2012 19:31:26 GMT -5 lucky513 said:

my b-day is Sunday I bet my husband will be at Macy's tomorrow probably about 30 minutes before they close

I'm sure it will beat the scratch tickets I got on my b- day Tuesday

Haha, I LOVE scratch tickets.

[julesf84]

May 11, 2012 19:36:54 GMT -5 peachykate said:

May 11, 2012 19:34:23 GMT -5 pittsmcgee said:

I'm sure it will beat the scratch tickets I got on my b- day Tuesday

Haha, I LOVE scratch tickets.

Me too! hahaha Especially Bingo and Crossword.

[pittsmcgee]

Oh me too, but I won like $6 on $30 worth of tickets. Fucking bullshit

[julesf84]

Yeah, that really is bullshit, but $6 is better than nothing I guess. lol At least you had the feeling of winning, even if you didn't break even.