Speaking for myself, NONE of my family members would drive 3-4 hours to for to me provide proof so I could cross the border. They'd be like "uh no, I'm not making a 6-8 hour trip just so you can get laid!"
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Post by makemineadouble on Jun 3, 2012 12:40:25 GMT -5
Why isn't this guy changing plans to meet you where you are? It sounds like you're 80-90% of the way there, so how hard would it be for him to get to you? Your friend is driving 4 hours to meet you, while he sits on his ass and waits for you to get to where he is? This is ridiculous.
I bet he understands... and he's probably a bit relieved since his other booty call can still make it tonight, and she's only driving 5 minutes.
FWIW, it's probably not MUD - yes, a woman can definitely be this narrow-minded and low in self-esteem to go to these lengths for someone to make her feel wanted for 15 minutes.
And it makes me sad to think the OP looks like her avatar picture and still believes she has to go to these lengths for temporary emotional relief.
As they say, he's just not that into you. Otherwise HE would be making the trip. Joining the throngs who agree you dodged a bullet. Or at least some serious humiliation.
Yes he does. He knows that if I can't get across the border, I'm not coming. He's ok with that. Disappointed, but he understands.
WTF. He should be offering to meet you in Windsor or nearby. If he lets you go to this much trouble to just turn around without him making any effort to still make this work, then he's a dick. Don't try to get across the border again. If he's not offering to come to you now, then turn around because he's not worth the effort.
ETA: I did forget that he was traveling from LA to his cottage, so may not have his passport.
I met my husband online, via match.com. We lived in separate states, and he offered to come to me. Once we'd talked on the phone for a while, had an awesome first date, and talked a lot more, only then did I agree to come to him. Oh, and on our first date, I had him meet me in a public place, and when we left there, I drove him in my car. That's not being rude, that's being SAFE with someone you just met.
Consider this a sign. Go home and tell this man that you tried, it didn't work out, and that if he'd like to see you, you'd be happy to give him info on good hotels in your hometown.
1. People are being paranoid. There is no reason to believe he's a serial killer.
3. Whomever said an LA lawyer wouldn't be into a 22 y/old student clearly doesn't know any LA lawyers.
I agree with both of these. I don't know any LA lawyers, but I know plenty of male lawyers who have gotten with women waayyy younger than themselves (including quite a few partners who have dated and some who married really young women, some who started dating a partner during a summer clerkship - ick). I don't think it's unlikely that this guy is attractive and even successful. If he doesn't find a way to get to her, though, then he is a douche.