I signed in to his FB because he has flirted with someone on there before, and I didn't completely trust him when he said he blocked her. This was a recent message in his inbox. He doesn't know that I know his password.
No, I'm not comfortable confronting him. But what else am I going to do. I just think I'm done. I will always be finding things like this. I need to go look into some things.
i know that grown up people are supposed to calmly assess such email exchanges and think of plausible, non-romantic explanations, but i, personally, would flip my everloving shit to see an email like that to/from my husband. especially if i had no idea that he and this person had "intertwined" lives before.
flip.my.everloving.shit.
i am not mature.
Yep!!
Oh, helllll no. I'd be pist! Even without the history.
I signed in to his FB. And the reason is he's flirted on FB before. Got caught, told me it was just a stupid thing he did to feed his ego, he was sorry. Blocked the other person and told me he was going to work on us reconnecting.
If he was serious, he would've deleted his FB to maintain your trust.
Ok, I don't think they are necessarely looking to reconnect. I think it is more of a "I will always remember you" kinda thing. Which would break my heart if I were you, but it doesn't mean he is cheating, or planning to cheat, or anything like that.
This is embarrassing, but it made me think of an Emily Giffin book, about the one that got away. But the girl does stay with her husband in the end, so that is good?
Have an honest conversation with him about it if you haven't yet.
Since he has done this before, I think he's just reaching out to whoever he can trying to get some attention. That is not okay. Confront him. It's ok to be done, but you need to confront him.
Papie, thanks. Yeah, I guess that is good except it makes me a stand in. I appreciate what you're trying to say. You are sweet. I don't think he's actually planning anything with her either. The distance makes it not likely. But still. The flirting I can't deal with anymore. What happens when its soneone who lives closer?
Ok, I don't think they are necessarely looking to reconnect. I think it is more of a "I will always remember you" kinda thing. Which would break my heart if I were you, but it doesn't mean he is cheating, or planning to cheat, or anything like that.
This is embarrassing, but it made me think of an Emily Giffin book, about the one that got away. But the girl does stay with her husband in the end, so that is good?
Have an honest conversation with him about it if you haven't yet.
This is making me purse my lips (both sets, probably).
Post by mamasaurus on Feb 26, 2013 16:34:44 GMT -5
It sounds like he's had a warning from you about this shit before. He's not taking it seriously since he is apparently doing it for a third time. You need to make it so there are consequences, or he's going to keep shitting on your feelings, disrespecting your marriage, and (possibly) exposing you to STIs.
Ok, I don't think they are necessarely looking to reconnect. I think it is more of a "I will always remember you" kinda thing. Which would break my heart if I were you, but it doesn't mean he is cheating, or planning to cheat, or anything like that.
This is embarrassing, but it made me think of an Emily Giffin book, about the one that got away. But the girl does stay with her husband in the end, so that is good?
Have an honest conversation with him about it if you haven't yet.
This is making me purse my lips (both sets, probably).