Vote Please! Mom-Sub board - yay or nay?

[lauren9317]

Jun 5, 2012 12:40:41 GMT -5 alzi said:

Lauren for President!

;D

[mrsjenrn]

Wow, there has been all kinds of drama since I've been gone the past week or 2! I voted for the sub board, and I like the option of being able to view all posts in the same place. I am cool with whatever though because if I have a mommy question I can usually ask it on FB. Some people here have unfriended me probably because of all my mommy talk, lol. But, we have no family down here so FB is how I communicate with a lot of family and close friends so I don't really care about AWing Zoe. One of the reasons I haven't been on here much is because a lot of what is on my mind is BR and I figured people got tired of hearing about it on here, and because it is nearly impossible to get on the computer while the little monster is roaming around.

I love you picture, moonstone, lol! Glad you voted!

[mrsjason]

Jun 5, 2012 9:56:50 GMT -5 pinkwillow said:

Jun 5, 2012 9:35:03 GMT -5 sara76 said:

Pink, girl, when did you become so ornery? I probably would have liked your angry version if it wasn't directed right at me, but it just doesn't seem cute right now. You have gotten a couple of apologies already and believe me, I've gotcha LOUD AND CLEAR. Please go down the list of threads and see if kids are a part of every topic and then continue to alienate yourself.

Well, about 8 weeks ago when I was faced with a major medical decision. I've gotten one apology from you (which I've been debating on how I want to respond- as in publicly on here or privately via FB message) and then attacked by all the mommies simply because I stated my feelings. Oh well.

Not that I really want to get into this mess, but I feel the need to speak up a tad for Jenny. I have been TTC for 2+ years and for most of that time baby talk never bothered me, even after my last miscarriage it was a non issue. Did I wish the board was more diverse and was less about kids, sure, but baby/pregnancy posts did not bother me one bit. And that being said, I didn't really contribute many posts about non-baby topics myself.........

But the day I stopped posting here was the day my doctor told me I would need to have to go through radiation to kill my thyroid (and radiation is not great on egg quality). The good news is radiation is not recommended for me as of now (after thousands of dollars of testing), but I am on the SLOW road to recovery trying to fix my hormonal problems through medication. It will be months before I can even think of TTC again.

Anyway, what I am trying to say is, having to take a mandatory medical break from TTC was very tough on me. Yes, it's totally not the end of the world, but seeing post about pregnancy was wearing on me. So yeah, I had to take a break from the board. I missed posting here, but every time I came back to lurk I was sad. Had nothing to do with you guys, but I was sad about what was going on in my life and I didn't want the reminder so I stayed away.

I hope no one thinks I am being a drama queen by talking about how I felt, I am just trying to offer my POV on why Jenny could have "her panties in a wad" regarding pregnancy/baby post. I know some of you think this is all dumb, but opinions and thoughts were asked for, and well, this was my reasoning for my leave of absence and from what I gather, Jenny's as well.

That being said, I hate the fact that people feel guilty about posting baby stuff. They totally shouldn't. This board should be about anything and everything. Shit, when I was pregnant with Macy I was the worst offended with pregnancy/baby posts.

I am totally rambling here, and I am not really sure where I am going with my post at this point so I will awkwardly cut my post off here.......

[mrsjason]

Oh, and I should add that since things are looking up for me medically and I don't have to go through radiation, pregnancy posts are bothering me less and less. Honestly, I really don't mind them anymore so the sub-board is kinda a non-issue for me.

But I did want defend Jenny and explain why someone MIGHT be sad by pregnancy post.......since of course, opinions were asked for.

[sara76]

Kathy, I am so happy to hear that thing are looking up for you! I don't remember hearing about radiation but that must have been stressful.

[amellis2]

I can understand why she is upset by them. That was why I voted for the sub-board.
Even though my kids were blessings, I lurked the shit out of TTTC and Infertility because I anticipated issues with TTC.

I know how we hurt when there is something your heart wants so much, and your body won't let you have it. I know that sometimes we just need to check out, and take a break.
I don't think that means that one should have to be censored - It's sort of like that internet picture that I've seen: it has a picture of an Rabbi, and it says, "Can't eat pork...doesn't make it illegal." I feel like we can tone it done, but we (and our questions, and our kids) shouldn't be banned to a seperate board. I'm not forcing anyone to look/read, and I know you who are having TTTC hurt when you see it. I'm sorry for that. Just like it's not fair that you must wait or are having trouble, it's not fair that we would be banned to another board.

Like I said, I did vote for a sub-board, but that is because I'm not big on confrontation, and if that is what keeps the peace, then so be it. But I really wish it wasn't so.

[amellis2]

Kathy, I am so excited that you don't need radiation!

[mrsjason]

Jun 5, 2012 22:50:44 GMT -5 sara76 said:

Kathy, I am so happy to hear that thing are looking up for you! I don't remember hearing about radiation but that must have been stressful.

Ehh, I hate to say stressful. On the grand scale of world problems that seems to be pretty low on the catastrophic meter, LOL.

What started everything is for YEARS I have been questioning the doctor if I had a thyroid condition. My mom has Graves Disease (as well as my Aunt and Grandma) which is an autoimmune disease that effects the thyroid and is hereditary but my doctor would test me an tell me my numbers were within the normal range and I was fine.

Then my miscarriage happened and my RE decided to run some tests, specifically targeting my thyroid. The test came back saying I was SUPER hyperthyroid, so it was assumed I had Graves Disease and I was sent to a specialist. I was told that radiation would be the best option for treatment, which is what my mom, my aunt and my grandma all had done. After further testing, it was decided that while yes, I am hyperthyroid, I do NOT have Graves Disease. My hyperthyroid was caused by my late miscarriage. However, I have another autoimmune disease, Hashimoto's, which means I am hypothyroid. So that means I am HYPOthyroid and HYPERthyroid at the same time, which I am not really sure how that's possible and they do not cancel each other out, LOL.

Anyway, the cure is to let my Hyperthyroid run it's course, which it will fizzle out on it own (who knows when) and treat my Hypothyroid through medication. The medication is slow to take effect, so they give me a small dose, have me come back 8 weeks later to check my blood then they determine if I need more medication. This is done until my levels are correct. And I will be on medication for the rest of my life.

But to complicate things, since it's Hashimoto's vs plain old Hypothyroid, sometimes I will have periods of hyperthyroid due to my body attacking itself. So when and if I ever get pregnant, I will be having to have blood tests done every week to test my levels.

It's nice finding answers, but come to find out after looking at my blood tests throughout the years, I have had Hashimoto's for about 4 years. It kinda pisses me off that it wasn't caught before, but ehh, what can I do?

I feel like a new person since I started my medication. I know it's not the right dosage because I still have the symptoms but I can't believe how bad I felt before without knowing it! This is the answer to why I had trouble TTC, why I had my miscarriages, why I have PCOS, why I haven't lost ANY of the baby weight from Macy, why I have major hot flashes, why I am freaking tired all the effing time, and the list goes on!

So yeah, I just made this post all about me Sorry for the long novel on what my medical issues are. Not that really anyone cares, but I got a little carried away typing and I am too lazy to go back and shorten my post, LOL.

[amellis2]

I think I need to get mine checked by a real Dr. - I had it checked after I had the girls, but that Dr. said mine was normal (it was just a walk-in clinic). I have lost a whopping 3LBS in a year. My knees and joints creak like a haunted house, and other symptoms like you said.

I assumed it was just postpartum thyroiditis, but he told me I needed to lose weight.

No shit, Sherlock. I came here because I couldn't lose weight!

[mrsjason]

Jun 6, 2012 9:53:25 GMT -5 amellis2 said:

I think I need to get mine checked by a real Dr. - I had it checked after I had the girls, but that Dr. said mine was normal (it was just a walk-in clinic). I have lost a whopping 3LBS in a year. My knees and joints creak like a haunted house, and other symptoms like you said.

I assumed it was just postpartum thyroiditis, but he told me I needed to lose weight.

No shit, Sherlock. I came here because I couldn't lose weight!

Yes, you should if you suspect you might have it. And if that blood test comes back within the "normal range" have more blood work done a few weeks later. Hashimoto's is a roller coaster ride for your hormones, lots of highs and lows. So if you are tested at the wrong time, you could come back as "normal" when in fact you are in the middle of the pendulum swinging.

That's what happened to me, although my Endo was trained enough to see that the big picture of my "normal" readings showed that I was on a hormonal roller coaster.

I kid you not, I haven't lost a single lbs in 4 years regardless of the fact I diet and exercise. Pretty discouraging, so I totally understand how you feel.

[mrsmew]

I'm staying out of the whole sub-board debate because I really don't care and can see both sides so I'll go along with whatever. I haven't had much time to join in lately anyway so whatevs.

I did just want to say that I'm glad to see you around here Kathy, and to read your update. I'm so, so glad you're getting answers at last, even if it will push TTC off longer in order to get things fixed. I feel like you've had so many question marks for so long - making progress towards a solution must feel pretty refreshing.

[jen812]

Jun 6, 2012 12:45:43 GMT -5 mrsmew said:

I did just want to say that I'm glad to see you around here Kathy, and to read your update. I'm so, so glad you're getting answers at last, even if it will push TTC off longer in order to get things fixed. I feel like you've had so many question marks for so long - making progress towards a solution must feel pretty refreshing.

Agreed. Welcome back ;D