Post by dragonfly08 on Feb 28, 2013 20:34:57 GMT -5
I'm Jewish, DH is Greek Orthodox. Put those together and a church wedding wasn't even a possibility (assuming we'd wanted one, which nobody did). Jewish ceremonies and receptions tend to be held at the same site, either both in a synagogue (also not possible for us) or, more likely, a reception site.
As for the "sacred" thing...depends on your definition. Sacred in a religious sense? Well, since a legal marriage in this country is a civil designation, religion has nothing to do with it. Technically, in Judaism a couple marries themselves in the presence of two "kosher" witnesses. There is no *religious* need for a rabbi or cantor or any other officiant; that's something the civil government requires to rubber stamp the legal aspects. Nothing spiritual or sacred about that.
So traditional Islamic weddings where the bride's father is in the mosque with the groom and his family, giving consent for the bride and representing her, while she is elsewhere, feel more legitimate to you than two adult saying vows to a rabbi under a chuppah at a hotel? Or two atheists at some wine caves? Oooookay, Stella.