"'No one else was feeling this pregnancy the way that I was. No one else could feel her kicking and moving around inside," she said. "I knew from the beginning that this little girl had an amazing fighting spirit, and whatever challenges were thrown at her, she would go at them with every ounce of spirit that she could possibly have.'
'No matter what anybody told me, I became her mother.'"
Yeah, surrogacy is not for you, lady. I really hope she doesn't do this again.
I can't access the article, but I'd contribute to a fund to raise $20,000 to keep the baby.
This is why article reading is important. Baby is born and has probably cost millions in care already. Also, I don't believe you'd really spend 20k on some random baby with numerous health defects.
Post by Velar Fricative on Mar 4, 2013 19:47:57 GMT -5
Holy clusterfuck.
The idea of forcing someone else to have an abortion makes me squicky, even if the fetus belongs to another couple genetically. On the other hand, I can't fathom bringing a child into the world with those severe health problems. Honestly, I really don't know who to sympathize with besides the little girl and her adoptive family.
So she agreed to termination, in writing. And she agreed to terminate if they were willing to pay $15,000 instead of just $10,000. But when they said no to $15,000, suddenly she became hugely principled and attached to the baby.
Here's the surrogate's blog. I'm sure you can contact her and have 20k$ wired to the adoptive parents or the state of MI medicaid fund.
Get a receipt and post it, pretty please?
wait...this is in MI? (ok, I didn't read the whole article either....then I saw overture's quote and agreed). I was under the impression that surrogacy was illegal in MI.
"Not gonna lie; I kind of keep expecting you to post one day that you threw down on someone who clearly had no idea that today was NOT THEIR DAY." ~dontcallmeshirley
Post by earlgreyhot on Mar 4, 2013 19:58:29 GMT -5
That's messy. So messy.
But ditto whoever said it, surrogacy is not for this woman. I think she totally overstepped by fleeing the state. I don't agree with her being forced to abort, but handing the baby over to the state would have been a good compromise. Baby S seems to be in good hands, though I wonder who is footing the bill for all this.
I read the article and I am relieved that the baby lived. It's a miracle that the baby survived. My motto is it's all about the baby. Who are we to decide who should be born? Where do you draw the line on who should be aborted? Down's Syndrome? Cleft palatte? Wrong eye color?
I read the article and I am relieved that the baby lived. It's a miracle that the baby survived. My motto is it's all about the baby. Who are we to decide who should be born? Where do you draw the line on who should be aborted? Down's Syndrome? Cleft palatte? Wrong eye color?
Why is it a miracle that the baby survived?
Are you OK with your personal insurance premiums going up every month to pay for the millions of dollars in care for this baby?
I read the article and I am relieved that the baby lived. It's a miracle that the baby survived. My motto is it's all about the baby. Who are we to decide who should be born? Where do you draw the line on who should be aborted? Down's Syndrome? Cleft palatte? Wrong eye color?
gpointe, she chose to go to MI when 7 months pregnant precisely so that the genetic parents couldn't make a claim. Oh, and to apply for their medicaid and use their fancy pants hospitals. You're welcome!
The baby survived not due to a miracle but to extensive (and expensive) medical care and expertise. She may not survive for very long, but, hey, at least she got to experience being born and having more surgeries in her short life than many adults ever get!
And, yes, major medical problems are totally equivalent to eye color. Thank you for your robust thinking on this subject.
I read the article and I am relieved that the baby lived. It's a miracle that the baby survived. My motto is it's all about the baby. Who are we to decide who should be born? Where do you draw the line on who should be aborted? Down's Syndrome? Cleft palatte? Wrong eye color?
Uh, well, the parents chose surrogacy, so they had a very deft hand in deciding how and if the baby should be born. Or not.
And 90% of those with a pre-birth Down Syndrome diagnosis do choose to abort. It's legal. I mean, up to a certain extent.
I agree with others that this woman should not have been a surrogate.
ETA: the baby had a 25% chance of surviving, so not really a miracle.
gpointe, she chose to go to MI when 7 months pregnant precisely so that the genetic parents couldn't make a claim. Oh, and to apply for their medicaid and use their fancy pants hospitals. You're welcome!
yeah...I just got through it....and am supremely annoyed. I just can't. It's such an abuse of our system and our laws (or lack thereof, in this case).
"Not gonna lie; I kind of keep expecting you to post one day that you threw down on someone who clearly had no idea that today was NOT THEIR DAY." ~dontcallmeshirley
I read the article and I am relieved that the baby lived. It's a miracle that the baby survived. My motto is it's all about the baby. Who are we to decide who should be born? Where do you draw the line on who should be aborted? Down's Syndrome? Cleft palatte? Wrong eye color?
No, it was actually multiple surgical intervention paid for by the state of Michigan that caused this child to survive; not a miracle.
Who are you sending the 20k$ to again? The state or the foster parents?
I read the article and I am relieved that the baby lived. It's a miracle that the baby survived. My motto is it's all about the baby. Who are we to decide who should be born? Where do you draw the line on who should be aborted? Down's Syndrome? Cleft palatte? Wrong eye color?
No, it was actually multiple surgical intervention paid for by the state of Michigan that caused this child to survive; not a miracle.
Who are you sending the 20k$ to again? The state or the foster parents?
As a resident of MI, where we are broke as a fucking joke, could I please request it be sent to the state?
"Not gonna lie; I kind of keep expecting you to post one day that you threw down on someone who clearly had no idea that today was NOT THEIR DAY." ~dontcallmeshirley
The idea of forcing someone else to have an abortion makes me squicky, even if the fetus belongs to another couple genetically. On the other hand, I can't fathom bringing a child into the world with those severe health problems. Honestly, I really don't know who to sympathize with besides the little girl and her adoptive family.
This is where I'm at. Just a random "for what it's worth" but the baby has many more problems than the initial ultrasound at Hartford Hospital had indicated. I think the surrogate had the best intentions......ugh....such a disaster and so, so sad.
I can't imaging being the genetic parent. You wanted to spare your child from having severe special needs - only to have to worry about her being raised by a woman with no job and no place to live on top of it. No wonder they'd rather her be raised as a ward of the state. At least then they would know she was getting a minimum level of care. =/
The idea of forcing someone else to have an abortion makes me squicky, even if the fetus belongs to another couple genetically. On the other hand, I can't fathom bringing a child into the world with those severe health problems. Honestly, I really don't know who to sympathize with besides the little girl and her adoptive family.
I agree.
I think it's pretty convenient that the surrogate solidified her decision not to abort after her counter-offer for $15K was rejected. That makes me not trust a damn thing she says.
And is being a professional surrogate a thing? I am just wondering why someone with 2 kids depends on such a fairly unpredictable line of work for income. (I know...judgey mcjudgerson...but really?)
eta: I just re-read and saw that she had just lost her job as a nanny.