Confession...

[Dory1988]

I've been going to the gym for about a year now and I'm still really uncomfortable there. I feel like when I go I put on my little girl panties and feel really self conscious. Does anyone who goes to the gym feel like this as well or should I be sucking it up and putting on my BGP's?

[honeybadger]

I've had a small glass of red wine on two or three occassions (after my doctor's OK) this trimester. I think the majority of my friends would judge the fuck out of it. I tell myself I don't care if people have a problem with it, as I've discussed it with my OB, but it bothers me to think that people think I might be doing something wrong in the way of my child.

[Jam]

OP,
I hate going to the gym. Even with other people, I can feel people looking at me and it makes me very uncomfortable.

I also don't do what some girls do where they go to the gym in something cute and colorful with their hair all in a cute pony and makeup on. I go looking like a walking turd. Don't match, no makeup, hair is probably in a frizzy fro because I'm not gonna straighten my hair just to sweat later on. That's probably why I'm so uncomfortable. I don't like for people that don't know me to see me like that LOL

[brandienee]

Jun 5, 2012 16:02:10 GMT -5 Jam said:

OP,
I hate going to the gym. Even with other people, I can feel people looking at me and it makes me very uncomfortable.

I also don't do what some girls do where they go to the gym in something cute and colorful with their hair all in a cute pony and makeup on. I go looking like a walking turd. Don't match, no makeup, hair is probably in a frizzy fro because I'm not gonna straighten my hair just to sweat later on. That's probably why I'm so uncomfortable. I don't like for people that don't know me to see me like that LOL

Seriously all of this. I am not "overweight" but I feel that people are judging me because I am struggling through a workout or something.

I have to keep telling myself that it isnt supposed to be pretty and no one really cares, they are all more focused on themselves than being overly judgy. (this is what I tell myself anyway)

[misshark122]

Jun 5, 2012 16:06:17 GMT -5 brandienee said:

Jun 5, 2012 16:02:10 GMT -5 Jam said:

OP,
I hate going to the gym. Even with other people, I can feel people looking at me and it makes me very uncomfortable.

I also don't do what some girls do where they go to the gym in something cute and colorful with their hair all in a cute pony and makeup on. I go looking like a walking turd. Don't match, no makeup, hair is probably in a frizzy fro because I'm not gonna straighten my hair just to sweat later on. That's probably why I'm so uncomfortable. I don't like for people that don't know me to see me like that LOL

Seriously all of this. I am not "overweight" but I feel that people are judging me because I am struggling through a workout or something.

I have to keep telling myself that it isnt supposed to be pretty and no one really cares, they are all more focused on themselves than being overly judgy. (this is what I tell myself anyway)[/quote]

I really think this is what is going on. Everyone is being too critical of themselves to pay attention to anyone else! hah.

I really screwed that quote up.

[basilosaurus]

I, too, feel self conscious in the gym. I feel like someone's judging my pitiful workout. I can't use the excuse that no one looks b/c I look, and I judge.

I mostly judge the man grunts and their pathetic attempts to appear macho, slinging around big weights, though, not someone's size or the speed of their treadmill. Mostly b/c everyone pretty much runs better than I do, even if they are overweight, and I'm not (which goes right back to thinking they judge me for being thin but having a pathetic workout).

[verycontrary247]

This is why I only work out at home. Problem solved.

[Dory1988]

I make use of too many of the machines at the gym to stop going there. I don't have the money or space to have all that in my home.

[beans]

My non workout confession is: I don't really care about underwear. Like, I'm completely just content to wear tan, black or white bras. I've always been like that with underwear. My mom used to make fun of me for being so boring. DH went shopping with me and was like "why don't you get one like this?" since he cared more than I do I let him pick out my bras. (also relating to the other post about spending money on clothes where I don't buy clothes often- I had to buy new bras because the wire was poking through). It's my girly fail.

[Jam]

Jun 5, 2012 17:59:34 GMT -5 verycontrary247 said:

This is why I only work out at home. Problem solved.

I've tried to workout at home but it's so easy for me to come up with excuses not to. I'll end up taking a nap or watching something on Netflix instead lol.

I also don't have anything other than 3 lbs weights.

[texaswildflower]

Today was a rough day with the LO. Its days like this that make me wish DH decides not to reenlist.

I've been in my pjs all day and I don't even care.

I'm kind of annoyed that the poll I made over the weekend has over 100 views and less than 20 votes. I feel that way about all the polls that have similar stats.

[sookie]

Jun 5, 2012 16:02:10 GMT -5 Jam said:

OP,
I hate going to the gym. Even with other people, I can feel people looking at me and it makes me very uncomfortable.

I also don't do what some girls do where they go to the gym in something cute and colorful with their hair all in a cute pony and makeup on. I go looking like a walking turd. Don't match, no makeup, hair is probably in a frizzy fro because I'm not gonna straighten my hair just to sweat later on. That's probably why I'm so uncomfortable. I don't like for people that don't know me to see me like that LOL

I'm the same way. I throw my hair up and go in mismatched clothes and no makeup. I've never understood the girls who get all dressed up for the gym. The point is to sweat and look gross after, not come out of it with your mascara perfect.

[sookie]

I'm sad that I can't watch Venus transverse live and I feel like a nerd for that. Instead, I caught some of it on random websites earlier.

I didn't get the job I was going for, and I just applied for one on base. I don't think I'll get it thanks to not getting preference (I'm not on his orders here) and I hate that I'm sad about that fact. I'm even more mad that I'm sad about it because I have a ridiculously expensive education and it's for a secretary position, and I feel snobby for feeling that way too.

[prettyinpink]

Jun 5, 2012 19:37:28 GMT -5 sookie said:

I'm sad that I can't watch Venus transverse live and I feel like a nerd for that. Instead, I caught some of it on random websites earlier.

I didn't get the job I was going for, and I just applied for one on base. I don't think I'll get it thanks to not getting preference (I'm not on his orders here) and I hate that I'm sad about that fact. I'm even more mad that I'm sad about it because I have a ridiculously expensive education and it's for a secretary position, and I feel snobby for feeling that way too.

Dr and I went out and watch it for a bit today. Its nothing too exciting it looks like a cookie with a very tiny chocolate chip on the very edge.

And as far as the job front Hugs! I feel the same way about my education and I'm really starting to get annoyed that I make FAR less than DH and he doesn't even have a degree yet.

[honeybadger]

Jun 5, 2012 19:37:28 GMT -5 sookie said:

I'm sad that I can't watch Venus transverse live and I feel like a nerd for that. Instead, I caught some of it on random websites earlier.

I didn't get the job I was going for, and I just applied for one on base. I don't think I'll get it thanks to not getting preference (I'm not on his orders here) and I hate that I'm sad about that fact. I'm even more mad that I'm sad about it because I have a ridiculously expensive education and it's for a secretary position, and I feel snobby for feeling that way too.

I'm sorry about the job stuff, S. BUCKETS OF DUST!

[amaristella]

Jun 5, 2012 17:59:34 GMT -5 verycontrary247 said:

This is why I only work out at home. Problem solved.

Same here. I lack coordination in anything that requires movement which most forms of exercise do.

Sing, dance and exercise are three things I pretty much only do when nobody is watching or listening.

[Dumbledork]

Jun 5, 2012 18:37:49 GMT -5 Jam said:

Jun 5, 2012 17:59:34 GMT -5 verycontrary247 said:

This is why I only work out at home. Problem solved.

I've tried to workout at home but it's so easy for me to come up with excuses not to. I'll end up taking a nap or watching something on Netflix instead lol.

I also don't have anything other than 3 lbs weights.

This is one of the reasons why I work out at home. Today I watched Burlesque while I worked out. The other day I watched Dirty Dancing. Movies that are either so crappy or ones I know so well that I don't care if I miss a few minutes while I'm focusing on getting through one part of the work-out.

Plus I get too bored during work-outs if I don't have something to distract me.

[Dumbledork]

Ooo. Plus, Netflix has all those mini work-out movies up on Instant. When I get tired of my normal work-out I do one from there. I like how the trainer in the kickboxing one says 'uppercut.'

And my own confession. We cancelled cable and switched to just whatever channels we can pick up over the air. I'm annoyed that we get at least two Christian channels but not ABC or PBS. Annoyed enough that I've almost convinced K to get a flat outdoor rooftop antenna so we can get those two measly channels.

[twoslicehilly]

I don't go to the gym because I don't understand how the things work, and I don't like people to see me working out/ trying something new. I'm good with classes, though, like group exercise.

My Confession: I told H I would go to see his parents/ family while I was visiting mine. After they came to visit, I really don't want to. They left such a bad taste in my mouth with their over the top attitudes and over judgmental suggestions, that I can hardly bring myself to make a plan for when to go there. And they want to drive all the way down and pick us up, and drive us all the way back. I don't think I can spend that long in the car with them and DD. And, then things will be on *their* schedule, which will leave them with the ability to change things on a whim, like they tend to do.

When we skyped with them the other day, they acted as if we were coming to the states to see them and them only. Like we were not even visiting my parents ( my parents surprised me with the tickets to visit for a month) when they were talking to DD.

I'm just over them.

[sookie]

Jun 5, 2012 21:01:04 GMT -5 prettyinpink said:

Jun 5, 2012 19:37:28 GMT -5 sookie said:

I'm sad that I can't watch Venus transverse live and I feel like a nerd for that. Instead, I caught some of it on random websites earlier.

I didn't get the job I was going for, and I just applied for one on base. I don't think I'll get it thanks to not getting preference (I'm not on his orders here) and I hate that I'm sad about that fact. I'm even more mad that I'm sad about it because I have a ridiculously expensive education and it's for a secretary position, and I feel snobby for feeling that way too.

Dr and I went out and watch it for a bit today. Its nothing too exciting it looks like a cookie with a very tiny chocolate chip on the very edge.

And as far as the job front Hugs! I feel the same way about my education and I'm really starting to get annoyed that I make FAR less than DH and he doesn't even have a degree yet.

I got that was with S the other day, and then I had to remind myself that he's been working a lot longer than I have in his career and works hard for what he does get. It's still frustrating, but hopefully soon I'll have a new job and can at least contribute.

[sookie]

Jun 5, 2012 21:42:07 GMT -5 honeybadger said:

Jun 5, 2012 19:37:28 GMT -5 sookie said:

I'm sad that I can't watch Venus transverse live and I feel like a nerd for that. Instead, I caught some of it on random websites earlier.

I didn't get the job I was going for, and I just applied for one on base. I don't think I'll get it thanks to not getting preference (I'm not on his orders here) and I hate that I'm sad about that fact. I'm even more mad that I'm sad about it because I have a ridiculously expensive education and it's for a secretary position, and I feel snobby for feeling that way too.

I'm sorry about the job stuff, S. BUCKETS OF DUST!

Thanks. Hopefully this one or at least one of the others I applied for will work out.

[Dumbledork]

I'm amazed by people who hang out without their in-laws without their spouse around. K doesn't even join me for the weekly Skype-date with my parents, and I think it'd be weird if he did. He talks to them when we visit them at the house, but that's really it. I'm going back to our home state this summer, but I have zero plans of even telling Kev's family.

I know ya'll are the normal ones and we're the weird ones, but I'm still just in awe of you.

[sookie]

Jun 5, 2012 23:48:07 GMT -5 Dumbledork said:

I'm amazed by people who hang out without their in-laws without their spouse around. K doesn't even join me for the weekly Skype-date with my parents, and I think it'd be weird if he did. He talks to them when we visit them at the house, but that's really it. I'm going back to our home state this summer, but I have zero plans of even telling Kev's family.

I know ya'll are the normal ones and we're the weird ones, but I'm still just in awe of you.

I love my SIL but hanging out with my MIL and/or FIL without S there? Oh hell no. No. N-O... NO.

[twoslicehilly]

Pumpkin, it would not, absolutely, positively not be happening if I didn't have DD with me. When I was pregnant with DD I visited home for a few weeks and never saw them... there was no reason. Now, if I go to the country with her, with out taking time to see them, I will get the redneck lashing out from hell.

However, his Mom will not even know I am visiting the country. No way in Hell.

[Dumbledork]

I'm lucky that K doesn't really like his mom, so he doesn't care if she sees Bean. We've been back to our home state a few times since she last saw Bean nearly two and a half years ago, but we still have no plans to visit her, even if K travels with me.

We do try to visit his Aunt and Uncle if we're in their area, but even that's nixed if I'm their by myself.

[Jam]

Jun 5, 2012 23:48:07 GMT -5 Dumbledork said:

I'm amazed by people who hang out without their in-laws without their spouse around. K doesn't even join me for the weekly Skype-date with my parents, and I think it'd be weird if he did. He talks to them when we visit them at the house, but that's really it. I'm going back to our home state this summer, but I have zero plans of even telling Kev's family.

I know ya'll are the normal ones and we're the weird ones, but I'm still just in awe of you.

I wonder if this is cultural. I am called some not so nice things because I don't call my in-laws, I deleted them off Facebook AND I've gone home twice within the last year and haven't even told them.

I'm supposed to contact my MIL at least once a week to say hi and I should be visiting her when I go home. I'm an asshole (according to my Hispanic family) because I did neither. Even when my H talks to his family on Skype, I always vanish. I think my in-laws probably think I dislike them lol

[Dumbledork]

Jun 6, 2012 0:19:54 GMT -5 Jam said:

Jun 5, 2012 23:48:07 GMT -5 Dumbledork said:

I'm amazed by people who hang out without their in-laws without their spouse around. K doesn't even join me for the weekly Skype-date with my parents, and I think it'd be weird if he did. He talks to them when we visit them at the house, but that's really it. I'm going back to our home state this summer, but I have zero plans of even telling Kev's family.

I know ya'll are the normal ones and we're the weird ones, but I'm still just in awe of you.

I wonder if this is cultural. I am called some not so nice things because I don't call my in-laws, I deleted them off Facebook AND I've gone home twice within the last year and haven't even told them.

I'm supposed to contact my MIL at least once a week to say hi and I should be visiting her when I go home. I'm an asshole (according to my Hispanic family) because I did neither. Even when my H talks to his family on Skype, I always vanish. I think my in-laws probably think I dislike them lol

Well, I do dislike his mom. Like, a lot. She's crazier than most MILs, the stories I could tell you!

I don't know how the rest of his family feels about me. MIL kind of cut K off from his family when he was growing up because they weren't Christian enough, so he finds consistent communication with them kind of odd anyway. I try to be nice when I talk to them, but the whole situation is way too awkward to deal with on my own.

I have been deleting the family from his bio-moms side of the family off my facebook. I don't know any of them, K barely knows his bio-mom and has never met the rest of them, and she doesn't have a great background. They may not like it, but I don't really care.

[basilosaurus]

I guess I don't have normal il's. When my mil was alive and going through cancer treatment, she'd call me. Sure, h was overseas, but her sister, a nurse, lived as far away as i. She had me stay with her in icu (her husband called, and I was in a plane a day later) when she didn't have her own local mom visit.

I'm deeply appreciative she trusted me, right down to the week she died, when she didn't allow even her sons to care for her.

Forgive me, I'm reading a book on cancer and feeling rather emotional from it. Both of our moms died from it, and I'm frustrated at how baseless their hope was. Makes me feel guilty.

Eta: I don't want to be a hosebeast bc I know ils can suck, but I flew to see my mil many times without h. I don't think it's weird; I was honored by her request for me.

[krista]

I'm an exercise science grad student, a certified personal trainer, and I've been going to the gym religiously for my entire adult life, and I'm still self conscious at times.

[beans]

If you guys knew my ILs you'd probably want to hang with them, even if you weren't married to the family. They're fun people in general. I lucked out with mil and fil. Theyre Irish and drinking with them is always a good time.