My mom is planning a weekend trip for the family. J and I will not be allowed to sleep together. Neither will my younger sister and her bf. They've been together for 3 years. My mom just suggested that J and sister's bf share a bed. I suggested J and I get our own room, lol.
ETA- I should mention, J and sister's bf are, like, third cousins. So, they're not strangers, but they're not close.
Post by pantsparty on Mar 19, 2013 13:05:53 GMT -5
Ha ha! Once, when H and I were not yet engaged, we went up north to visit my grandma and aunt and do some snowboarding. We knew my super religious aunt would not approve of us sleeping in the same room, so we got a hotel. Turns out later she even complained about THAT - one of my younger cousins asked why we were in a hotel and I guess it was a BIG DEAL because we weren't married.
This is how it was with my mom. Brother and SIL lived togehter for 3 years before they go married but my mom made them sleep in separate rooms at her house. lol!
My mom is planning a weekend trip for the family. J and I will not be allowed to sleep together. Neither will my younger sister and her bf. They've been together for 3 years. My mom just suggested that J and sister's bf share a bed. I suggested J and I get our own room, lol.
Can you afford to pay for your own hotel room? I would if you can lol.
This reminds me of my BFF's grandparents. BFF's mom was getting remarried she was over 40 and they were living together. Mom and fiance go to visit grandparents a few months before the wedding and grandparents put fiance on an air mattress in the office lol. We still laugh and laugh about that. BFF is about to go visit them with her fiance and their child and I have been teasing her about the sleeping arrangements.
my then-fiance had to stay on the pull out couch in the living room when we went to my parent's house over winter break. about 3 months before we got married.
i gotta tell you guys, at 35 i drew a line. midway between 20 and 50, i decided that i'm old enough to always have my own bed, and never to drink cheap beer. we can share a hotel room and booze up with some microbrews, and then each retire to our own queen bed.
Related/friends or not, two grown men sharing a bed seems odd.
Why though?
I share beds with my girlfriends all the time, it doesn't mean we are having naked tickle parties.
Lol.
This is what I was thinking to. When DH had his bachelor party they went out of town and only got 2 rooms. There was 10 guys. One room had 2 beds the other had 2 beds and a pullout couch. Is that weird? I didn't think so.
At a friends bachelorette party there was 9 girls and we slept in the same situation as above.
Edit: OP if the guys don't know each other well then I think it's ok for them to say no. Other wise I don't see the big deal.
Post by Saint Monica on Mar 19, 2013 13:48:46 GMT -5
See what bothers me is if I brought RB home he wouldn't be allowed to sleep in the same room. BUT if we got a hotel room- that would be considered to be rude.
Post by walterismydog on Mar 19, 2013 13:52:44 GMT -5
This is just so completely bizarre to me. I would laugh at my mom if she said such a thing. Hell, even my super conservative grandma is cool with 2 consenting adults sharing a bed. I mean. It's not like I want to get it on in their houses anyway.
ETA - I wouldn't laugh at my mom in an asshole way, I would laugh because I know she would be joking.
My MIL is like that. BIL and his husband always get a hotel room, and tell her that they get it for free thanks to coupons. If she finds out that they're paying good money for the hotel she'd be offended. Free coupon = fig leaf in this family.
i gotta tell you guys, at 35 i drew a line. midway between 20 and 50, i decided that i'm old enough to always have my own bed, and never to drink cheap beer. we can share a hotel room and booze up with some microbrews, and then each retire to our own queen bed.
I drew this line a few years ago. I just feel uncomfortable about it.
I was planning a trip with my two SISTERS and when it came up that there would only be two beds I immediately blurted "I'MSLEEPINGBYMYSELFYOUGUYSHAVETOSHARENOTME" before anyone had a chance to mutter another word.
To me, it's not that they're guys, it's that they're not close friends or anything.
A few months after I got married, we had to go on a cruise with H's entire (extended) family. Initially, we were put in a room with his cousin and her boyfriend. I was obviously going to be sharing a bed with my husband but this bothered me like crazy. I didn't want to share a room with my husband's cousin's boyfriend. no.
To me, it's not that they're guys, it's that they're not close friends or anything.
A few months after I got married, we had to go on a cruise with H's entire (extended) family. Initially, we were put in a room with his cousin and her boyfriend. I was obviously going to be sharing a bed with my husband but this bothered me like crazy. I didn't want to share a room with my husband's cousin's boyfriend. no.
I get what you're saying.
On a cruise don't the beds also only breakdown into twins? I can't sleep on a twin alone and 4 people in a cruise ship room sounds like hell.
I haven't shared a bed with anyone other than a bf/husband in over 15 years and I wouldn't want to share one with anyone at this point in my life. I am not saying it's ok for women and not men. My sentence would apply to 2 grown women, too. It's odd to me to think that 4 adults would want to break up and share beds based on gender.
A few months after I got married, we had to go on a cruise with H's entire (extended) family. Initially, we were put in a room with his cousin and her boyfriend. I was obviously going to be sharing a bed with my husband but this bothered me like crazy. I didn't want to share a room with my husband's cousin's boyfriend. no.
I get what you're saying.
On a cruise don't the beds also only breakdown into twins? I can't sleep on a twin alone and 4 people in a cruise ship room sounds like hell.
I think you can take two of the twins and make a regular bed, but the other two come out of the ceiling and remain twins. I'm not really sure, but we ended up with our own room anyway so it didn't matter. thank God.