More people are pissing me off these days

[murdock]

KaraOrNot and lola better late than never, right! I'm still internet/computer defunct though, I'll learn how to upload pics from my camera and post them, etc... eventually. Thank god for the apps pic upload.

ETA: discogranny ((hugs)) 109 days, that's rough.

[rugbywife]

Here's mine...I finally got pregnant (randomly) after 12 months and 8 cycles of trying, only to miscarry.

I know people are trying to be nice, but saying "well at least you know you can get pregnant" doesn't really help. I got pregnant randomly, didn't even know I was pregnant until I was 7 weeks pregnant, only to start miscarrying the same day as my first US, it took me 12 months to get pregnant. I am 35, I have a pituitary tumour that they say is not impacting anything, and PCOS and it took me 12 months to randomly get pregnant, to then lose it. I don't have enough years left to keep this up, so telling me that at least I can get pregnant doesn't help, I need to get pregnant and stay pregnant.

Sigh, I know they are just trying to say something nice, but it sucks hearing it over and over again.

ALSO, WTF to random chick at church who stopped me as I was leaving to congratulate me on 'being with child', um, no, you are about a week late lady, and why would you EVER say that to someone (I don't look pregnant at all).

[lola]

I'm so sorry rugbywife.

People suck, and they say the most thoughtless and hurtful things. I don't understand, and never will.

In (really, seriously) good news - you look fuckin' fab in your picture below! Daaamn gurl!

[G22]

How awful, rugbywife! I'm sorry people are stupid.

"If you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all" works well here.

[KaraOrNot]

Hugs rugbywife

[azurely]

I'm sorry rugbywife.

[BNL2]

rugbywife Hugs. That woman was horrible.

lola, I'm not sure dedication is the right word. I tend to consider it a sad indication of my lack of social life. Maybe "pathetic" would be a better word.

KaraOrNot and murdock, I'm glad to be in good company. I almost didn't want to admit to being around so long. It's amazing how much of my life I wasted reading these boards.

[melindafelinda]

I never look on the regular getting pregnant board and I pretty much can't deal with even ML lately because I hate everyone and everything right now.

[murdock]

(((Melinda)))

[kershnic]

Apr 2, 2013 20:44:49 GMT -5 rugbywife said:

Here's mine...I finally got pregnant (randomly) after 12 months and 8 cycles of trying, only to miscarry.

I know people are trying to be nice, but saying "well at least you know you can get pregnant" doesn't really help. 

I'm sorry about your miscarriage.    My RE has said to me a few times that it's positive that I've had two chemical pregnancies/early miscarriages.  The second was after IVF, with no frosties.  Kind of hard to see the positive in that...  

[HoneySpider]

I haven't been on the boards as much lately so I'm (luckily?) missing some of these threads. But in general I'm definitely in the bitter camp lately. I'm trying to be positive, but it's hard.

[genet313]

Thank God I missed that post.  Ugh.  Normally I'm on MM and there's little baby talk.  Go there ladies!

I'm so sorry to hear about everyone's struggles.  In a way, it just breaks my heart.  But in another way, it helps me feel less broken and bitter about myself.  I hate that we're all going through it, but I'm glad we don't have to go through it alone.  

[discogranny]

Hugs to you rugbywife. My RE told me the same thing. He said that getting pregnant after IVF is a victory even if it didn't end well. Which really since I never got pregnant before, I guess I can his point, sort of, but damn, really, a victory?!? I'd like some sort of trophy to show for it if so.

melindafelinda - So many hugs. You are very welcome just to be here and hate everyone, vent and be mad.

[changedname]

rugbywife - so sorry to hear about what has happened to you and same to melindafelinda. Hugs guys.

I honestly find this board cheers me up, not just because we are all in the same boat but because it's nice to be able to vent, chat about life and not be on edge that someone is suddenly going to blindside me with a pg announcement out of the blue. I feel relaxed on here.

[discogranny]

Apr 3, 2013 10:23:43 GMT -5 changedname said:

I honestly find this board cheers me up, not just because we are all in the same boat but because it's nice to be able to vent, chat about life and not be on edge that someone is suddenly going to blindside me with a pg announcement out of the blue. I feel relaxed on here.

Agreed. I am hoping for a pregnancy announcement or two soon though. I am pulling for some TTTC BFPs.

mofongo - I spent two years being a teetotaler. I have blown that out of the water in the last couple of months and it has been the best. DH and I had a long "so what does the future look like IF-wise" discussion on Monday and I told him I am 100% confirmed for a FET in August if we can spend May, June and July pretending like we are 21 and 24 again. I envision drinking on patios, live music on weeknights and dancing on the weekends. I cannot wait.

[changedname]

Yes - Let's have some tttc bfps, girls!!!

[azurely]

Apr 3, 2013 1:17:22 GMT -5 melindafelinda said:

I never look on the regular getting pregnant board and I pretty much can't deal with even ML lately because I hate everyone and everything right now.

::hugs::

Do whatever you have to do to stay sane. There are some days I can't even get on GBCN because it's baby baby baby all over the place. I don't like the child free boards either, because IF is not the same as choosing to be child free.

[G22]

Nothing says "hey your old and infertile" like a former player on a team I coached a few years ago announcing she's pregnant.

This girl isn't even a year out of high school. And has been dating her boyfriend for even less time than that.

And I have been trying for that entire time. I know life isn't fair, but this is one of those moments I want to whine "its just not fair" anyways!

[murdock]

Oh my gosh! Hugs everywhere! Or hair pats; whatever you prefer. People have such a weird way of down playing or 'poo-poo'ing IF.
Well, people are slowly recognizing certain things that they shouldn't be so...maybe the right word is 'light' about? Let's hope it doesn't take too long with this.

(((hugs))) (((hugs)))) (((hugs))))

[azurely]

Apr 3, 2013 17:58:43 GMT -5 G22 said:

Nothing says "hey your old and infertile" like a former player on a team I coached a few years ago announcing she's pregnant.

This girl isn't even a year out of high school. And has been dating her boyfriend for even less time than that.

And I have been trying for that entire time. I know life isn't fair, but this is one of those moments I want to whine "its just not fair" anyways!

I know the feeling. I teach high school and probably 10-15 girls I taught in the last couple years are now pg. I was TTC when they were in my class and I'm still TTC now. Life is not f-ing fair.

[KaraOrNot]

Apr 3, 2013 17:58:43 GMT -5 G22 said:

Nothing says "hey your old and infertile" like a former player on a team I coached a few years ago announcing she's pregnant.

This girl isn't even a year out of high school. And has been dating her boyfriend for even less time than that.

And I have been trying for that entire time. I know life isn't fair, but this is one of those moments I want to whine "its just not fair" anyways!

I found out that two people I work with are pregnant.  One made an off hand comment about how this is her second baby due in September and how she will again have to be pregnant in the summer.  It was all I could think about on my drive home.  It's just not fair.  

[thatgirl2478]

I know what you mean.  I feel the same way.

[melindafelinda]

I love all of you people.