well.. i still don't know.

[sarack]

so i had a different tech today. she was really impersonal and i mentioned that my doctor said she'll tell me the sex today! i was so excited, and she seemed annoyed. she said no, we don't normally call sex until 20 weeks. ok. i know that you normally don't do it, because normally people have ultrasounds at 20 weeks for their a/s, but if you can tell you should tell me. she said a few other things about me being heavy.. and then i was over it. she wouldn't even try to tell gender.

then, i saw a different doctor than normal who basically told me that for my height, i should only be eating 1200 calories a day, 1300 at the most. and I've gained 10lbs and he is concerned. since he isnt' my normal doctor, i told him that I've lost a bunch of weight and then he was like, oh, well then i'm not so concerned, but if i continue then i'll gain 80lbs. i couldn't fucking believe he said that. ok, i'm 16 weeks pregnant, 10lbs so far, i know this is a lot, and i'm swollen so i know i have extra water weight. but, whatever. the doctor said that even 1/2 lb a week is pushing it. then he also said that i probably shouldn't be exercising because at 4 months pregnant my uterus is the size of 6 months. (i don't want to hear, well your doctor is looking out for your best interest. of course he is. but i'm doing so much good stuff on my end, i have no idea what else to do. i'm starving all of the time. i probably shouldn't even post this part on here.. i just on't want to hear anything about how fat i am.)

on a good note, the babies looked great. this doctor did a better job to tell me what to expect. he said most twins go into labor at 35 weeks, and if they do come, then we'll let them come. if by 34ish weeks, baby a is head down, he'll set my induction for 38 weeks, unless I've gone into labor naturally. he said if not, they'll schedule a c section for end of august or first of September. he said that i have the best kind of twins, so he was excited about that, but he said they're growing identically, so he is still unsure if they're fraternal or nt. he said no matter how their sacs/placentas are, you can't tell until they're born.

i can't decide if i want to wait, or just find a place. i was so excited to know. i'm more upset with the tech being a b and then being told i'm fat. tell me something i don't know.

[sarack]

oh also, he said i should eat one thing ever two hours. so half an English muffin with half a tbsp. of peanut butter (um, so this is like 100 calories) for breakfast, two hours later an orange. he said i couldn't have more than 2 fruit a day and he thinks that could be causing me to gain weight. he said i can't eat anything that isn't non fat or low fat. i'm hungry just thinking about this. i'm gonna try it.

oh, he also said if i have morning sickness it's exaggerated, and if i'm tired that is exaggerated.. so when my body is telling my i'm hungry, it's exaggerating. FUCK, i'm so screwed.

[jennlin]

i'm sorry you had a bad experience!! if you reeealllly want to find out before you announce your pregnancy, i'd find a place...i think it's only like $150? i'm about to run to a meeting, but i'll search places when i get back.

[sarack]

april 25th.

i just feel so disgusting and horrible. seriously. and i'm not looking forward to the next apt, except trying to figure out a way to lose weight and be healthy. otherwise, i just don't want to go.

[sarack]

Apr 4, 2013 15:20:38 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

I'm so sorry you didn't find out when you were expecting to. But, it is only 16 weeks. I wouldn't go out and pay for one yet, when they might not even be able to tell.

As for your Dr., WTF?!? I am no Dr. but I cannot imagine how 1200-1300 calories/day when pregnant w/ twins is healthy. That is what you try to eat when you are trying to seriously lose weight, and that is the bare minimum. He is crazy pants.

i know it's only 16 weeks. but my doctor has been sure the whole time we'll find out 'early' by 14-16 weeks, so i think i got my hopes up. i talked to the receptionist about the lady.. she made comments about my fat stomach. and the people said she is new but no one has reported her as being rude. i dunno.. it's crazy because most people I've encountered here are super nice. today obviously just isn't my day.

i won't pay for an ultrasound right now.. plus, most places want you to be over 20 weeks. but i was just so excited to go buy Something for my babies.

[jamer]

I'm sorry that sounds like a terrible experience. 1200 calories a day while pregnant with twin cannot be healthy. Do something to make yourself feel better. Maybe a pedicure or something...

[thatsmypurse]

Apr 4, 2013 15:19:47 GMT -5 sarack said:

i just feel so disgusting and horrible. seriously. and i'm not looking forward to the next apt, except trying to figure out a way to lose weight and be healthy. otherwise, i just don't want to go.

I am so sorry he made you feel this way. Is this doctor someone you are seeing normally or is this a one time deal? This is not the time to worry about your weigh.  Yeah, you need to make sure you are eating healthy and I do agree with his eating every couple hours but 1300 calories is insane.  Honestly this doctor makes me so angry.  You really cannot control a whole lot in terms of weight. I gained nine pounds in a week and I didn't do anything different. Augh, I hate that he made you feel this way.

[niq]

Ugh. I'm so sorry. 1200 cal doc isn't even living in the real world. Also it would, you know, be nice if the motherf***ers would look at your history! It's a bummer that your tech wouldn't tell you the sex. I guess even with twins it's hard at 16w?

Also I don't understand, if you've gained 10 lbs but are 40% of the way through your pregnancy, aren't you on pace to gain 25 lbs? Or do you gain more weight later in pregnancy?

Was your u/s appointment normal length or do they give the tech longer for twins? If it's the same length as for a single pregnancy, I can totally see not wanting to hunt around for two peeners if you've got to look for four eyes, two hearts, etc. Our tech had like 3 minutes to spare to check our baby's height against the growth charts and that was it. Still that's no excuse for being a B about it.

Msniq invited me to the last obgyn appointment. So far it's always been her regular doc. The u/s techs are all random, but they've been pretty nice so far.

[InBetweenDays]

I'm glad the babies are doing well! But I'm sorry that overall it wasn't a fun appointment. I can't imagine sticking to 1200 calories when not pregnant, not to mention when pregnant with twins! And 10lbs at 16 weeks doesn't seem like a lot to me. FWIW I gained most of my weight early on in my pregnancy. I think I was up 8lbs by 8 weeks. But slowed down near the end and gained 30 overall (with both kids going overdue by 9+ days).

[jennlin]

sarack

this is the one that was really popular on TB when i was ktfu with bjl.

www.babypicturesultrasound.com/rates.html

$70 ($90 for twins) for gender check only. $95 ($115 twins) if you want pictures and a dvd, too.

[jennlin]

oh also they do not schedule you before 17 weeks, so wait one more week!

[karebear219]

For me I gained the most weight my second trimester. I gained 5lbs right away then was steady until months four through seven, then I only gained maybe another two pounds.

I'm sorry you had such a disappointing experience. Make sure to eat a lot of small healthy meals. Full good fats and protiens will keep you full and help prevent you from running out and eating unhealthy because you are starving.

[cdmay]

Apr 4, 2013 15:02:44 GMT -5 sarack said:

so i had a different tech today. she was really impersonal and i mentioned that my doctor said she'll tell me the sex today! i was so excited, and she seemed annoyed. she said no, we don't normally call sex until 20 weeks. ok. i know that you normally don't do it, because normally people have ultrasounds at 20 weeks for their a/s, but if you can tell you should tell me. she said a few other things about me being heavy.. and then i was over it. she wouldn't even try to tell gender.

then, i saw a different doctor than normal who basically told me that for my height, i should only be eating 1200 calories a day, 1300 at the most. and I've gained 10lbs and he is concerned. since he isnt' my normal doctor, i told him that I've lost a bunch of weight and then he was like, oh, well then i'm not so concerned, but if i continue then i'll gain 80lbs. WTF?  i couldn't fucking believe he said that. ok, i'm 16 weeks pregnant, 10lbs so far, i know this is a lot, and i'm swollen so i know i have extra water weight. but, whatever. the doctor said that even 1/2 lb a week is pushing it. then he also said that i probably shouldn't be exercising because at 4 months pregnant my uterus is the size of 6 months. (i don't want to hear, well your doctor is looking out for your best interest. of course he is. but i'm doing so much good stuff on my end, i have no idea what else to do. i'm starving all of the time. i probably shouldn't even post this part on here.. i just on't want to hear anything about how fat i am.)

on a good note, the babies looked great. this doctor did a better job to tell me what to expect. he said most twins go into labor at 35 weeks, and if they do come, then we'll let them come. if by 34ish weeks, baby a is head down, he'll set my induction for 38 weeks, unless I've gone into labor naturally. he said if not, they'll schedule a c section for end of august or first of September. he said that i have the best kind of twins, so he was excited about that, but he said they're growing identically, so he is still unsure if they're fraternal or nt. he said no matter how their sacs/placentas are, you can't tell until they're born.

i can't decide if i want to wait, or just find a place. i was so excited to know. i'm more upset with the tech being a b and then being told i'm fat. tell me something i don't know.

If you weighed 100lbs to start with and didn't exercise, maybe (that's a random #, btw).  The non-pregnant recommendation is never less than 1250/day (i think, maybe it's 1200), and after the 1st tri, an additional 300 c/day (plus more if you are exercising).  But that's 300 more than you were consuming to begin with (and since you were losing weight before BFP, that seems like a conservative #).  Overweight/obese women are recommended to not gain more than 1/2 lb/wk in second tri, and a little more than that (i think it's 2lb/3 wk, but i don't remember) in 3rd, so his rec there isn't off base for a single-baby pregnancy.  No idea for twins. 
Can you swim?  6-month-pregnant women swim all the time; it's good exercise, doesn't strain the body and even takes pressure off the cervix, etc.

Is there a way you could stick to one dr. so they know what your plan is (exercise, nutrition, etc.) and can better track your progress to give you more pertinent advice?

I hope this made sense.  I'm pretty mad about the bedside manner (and some of the advice) you rcv'd.
Glad the babies are ok!

[Deleted]

I know I'm hormonal and PMSing right now, but OMG this makes me so angry and upset I want to go bitch them out!! U/S tech should NOT have complained about your "fat stomach" nor the rudeness of the desk clerk to slough you off with "No one has complained about her before." So? There's a first time and that doesn't mean she WASN'T rude to others! And the doctor is BEYOND crazy pants!! I can NOT imagine how 1200 cal a day with twins is safe, no way! Like PP said, 1200cal/day is more a gear for crazy weight loss...and you've done SO amazing on your weight journey, why the hell do you need to worry about trying to continue LOSING weight during this time?! GGARGGHARHG

[niq]

Apr 4, 2013 15:02:44 GMT -5 sarack said:

i can't decide if i want to wait, or just find a place. i was so excited to know. i'm more upset with the tech being a b and then being told i'm fat. tell me something i don't know.

Does your insurance cover more than the usual two ultrasounds because it's multiples?

[ashleyp728]

I am so sorry you had such a crappy experience today!! Honestly, I've gained more than you, and I have a singleton!! Tell that doctor to eff off.

Also, my a/s is the same day as yours!! What time is yours at? Mine is 11:10 and I cannot wait!!

[jennlin]

as for the new care provider that kooshball and spunbutterfly mentioned...she likes her dr, and has a good long term relationship with him (her?). i think she just had another dr that was in the practice today working with her that didn't know her history. right sarack?

[picksthemusic]

Apr 4, 2013 15:11:10 GMT -5 @lauralynne said:

I would seriously report anyone who commented on a 10 pounds weight gain at 16 weeks. That's ridiculous. And 1300 calories is - to the best of my understand - downright dangerous when you're pregnant.

I've got a story about dieting and pregnancy but I'll spare you.

Being aware of what you eat, making mostly good choices, slowing down exercise for a high risk pregnancy - that I would understand. But the rest, I would find another doctor/tech. I would be seriously pissed.

I'm glad the babies looked good!! When's your next u/s - at 20 weeks?

ITA with LL here. I'm so sorry about your experience, and I'm sorry, but when you're growing two humans, you need to freaking eat. Period. I don't care how heavy you are when you start your pregnancy.

*hugs*