I'm going to go ahead and reiterate that a phone is a privilege and not a right. Take that shit away if she is abusing it (which includes giving your number out to randoms).
I'm confused. Within 15 minutes of what- was your H pretending to be her?
No he looked at the time stamp on the first message until the message where is person asked to meet her. He took the phone from her right after she told this person what city we live in and a nearby park
I'm confused. Within 15 minutes of what- was your H pretending to be her?
No he looked at the time stamp on the first message until the message where is person asked to meet her. He took the phone from her right after she told this person what city we live in and a nearby park
1. Um, lose phone privilege. She's old enough to know not to give that information out and she can't handle the responsibility of a phone with Internet/apps.
2. I dunno if this really happened, because I kind of think you're nuts.
I'm confused. Within 15 minutes of what- was your H pretending to be her?
No he looked at the time stamp on the first message until the message where is person asked to meet her. He took the phone from her right after she told this person what city we live in and a nearby park
Guess she can only handle the responsibility of an old fashioned dumb phone with no internet access. As a teenager my parents and I watched way too much 20/20 and dateline about girls killed who met strangers off the internet for me to ever want to try.
Her world imploded when her sd got baptized, and then chaos ensued for 20 pages.
ok, this might be really ignorant of me, but isn't baptism in a christian faith all the same at the end of the day? does it really matter? am i an idiot?
Her world imploded when her sd got baptized, and then chaos ensued for 20 pages.
ok, this might be really ignorant of me, but isn't baptism in a christian faith all the same at the end of the day? does it really matter? am i an idiot?
Her world imploded when her sd got baptized, and then chaos ensued for 20 pages.
ok, this might be really ignorant of me, but isn't baptism in a christian faith all the same at the end of the day? does it really matter? am i an idiot?
Welll.... you're not an idiot. Most of us thought the same
StormyDixon, are you sure that your SD thought it was some girl from an app? I mean, at 13 I was dying to be, you know, an official teenager and grown up and everything. I don't think I would have been caught dead talking to a 10 year old.
Either way, your DH needs to have a serious talk with SD about privacy and giving out info to people you don't know. Perhaps maybe you should delete the apps that allow talking with other people to go unmonitored until she can prove that she understands how dangerous it can be.
Yes we spoke to her and she really thought she was talking to a 10 year old. I guess since she has a 10 yo sister it isn't such a big deal to her, especially since she is also a one direction fan. Dh is going to delete the apps, but he disagrees with me that the phone needs to be taken away. A least he is going to make a police report when we get back, at least that is what he tells me.
Jokes aside, that is pretty fucking scary. Her phone privileges would be revoked indefinitely.
I suggested she lose the phone for a month, her father disagreed. I suggested he speak to her biological mother about it, he disagreed. I am a little miffed about both her parents right now. I have a dh problem, she has a parents problem
I think you both need to grow some balls when it comes to parenting your SD.
Now this is good advice, but I can only do so much as a stepparent. I can't legally discipline them ( yes it is actually in the court order that a step parent can't discipline them) and my dh and I aren't on the same page. If it were up to me, she would not have been given a smartphone at 13, but she has one. If it were up to me she would have lost the phone for more than a few days the first time she gave out our address to a stranger, this is the 3rd time now she has done something like this, but no one is listening to me when I say she needs to lose the phone for at least a month. Dh says he will file a police report when we get home, but I doubt it
I am frustrated here to say the least. My husband wrings his hands over the baptism thing (and yes i know everyone here thinks i am crazy over that, but i really was just coming here to vent since he was so upset about it) I am the one who gave her a bible, blessed medallion and spoke to her about how she felt about not getting baptised. Dh just ignored it and never even acknowledged her intent. People can call me all the names they want, I know I have a good relationship with my step daughter and I live with the tension of trying to keep the peace between her and her father. She sobbed to me about how her mother ignores and neglects her. She is so angry at her father and all he did yesterday was yell at her instead of calmly tell her why yet again she shouldn't give out her personal info to strangers
yes I have a dh problem,but my sd has a father problem and that is troublesome to me
Therapy, seriously. Your DH needs it, your SD needs, and you need it to deal with them, and then you all three need it together in order to get along with each other. Yes your SD is a teen and being a teen entails some snottiness and misbehaving, but as far as I can tell, no one is disciplining her, and you need to tell DH that he is not being a good parent and not doing his daughter any favors by allowing her to behave as she is and get away with these things. She doesn't get to go to therapy and not talk and not do other things you ask of her and still get big time privileges like having a nice phone.
Does he not see that giving out her personal information is a HUGE safety issue? She may have already been meeting up with strangers without you guys knowing about it. You need to come a come to Jesus talk with your DH about his parenting styles. It doesn't matter what SD's mother is doing, he needs to step up. And this no disciplining them being in a court order is HILARIOUS. How is she ever going to respect you if you can't set ground rules for her and actually enforce those rules?