And also to be totally fair, the only child my future child is likely to ever go to a party with is Kirkette's. So I'm pretty sure the threat of a McDonald's party is minimal where I live. The McDonald's here have roaches.
If your kid is going to school spouting off that mc d's is gross and that people that eat there are gross your kid is going to get his ass kicked daily.
You can allow the child to go to the party and politely eat a piece of cake for ffs. I understand being veg but thinking you are better than that is total bs.
I swear some of these moms are so full of shit.
WTF? My kid is not going to get her ass kicked for saying fast food is gross. DD hates pizza or anything with cheese on it. Do I agree with her? No. But dude I am going to make sure she steps up to what she thinks is gross at every occasion. She is entitled to her opinion. I hope she is brave enough to stand up for herself.
I am not totally against fast food. I grew up eating the shit. I think I probably even had McDonald's birthday party. I just think there are so many better options to offer in this area that DD probably won't ever want that.
Really? You want to encourage your kid to tell other people that their choices are gross? That seems really great. And good luck to you when "gross" extends to the food you cook for her.
I'm not reading all these responses. yes I'd take my kid, but no I wouldn't host a party there. I could throw a party at home on $50. It's only as complicated as you make it and I'd rather have it at home.
Yeah but you have to clean your house if you want to do that.
I am not totally against fast food. I grew up eating the shit. I think I probably even had McDonald's birthday party. I just think there are so many better options to offer in this area that DD probably won't ever want that.
How old is your DD? Because you might be surprised. I've given DS lots of other options - the frozen yogurt place, the public sprayground, our back yard with a dinosaur theme, a little arts center where they would do a craft and then have music time. Nope, he wants McDonalds.
DD is 3 going on 4. Her favorite foods are fish and broccoli and of course french fries. She does not like hamburgers or chicken nuggets enough to want eat at places like McDonald's. She likes places like BounceU and Going Bonkers. She also like playing at parks or having a backyard bounce house party. (which she has last year) She liked the Chuckie cheese party I took her two when she was 2. But she didn't eat at all. She just liked all the games and stuff. My daughter does change her likes from to day to day. Discussion for her 4th birthday has not come up.
How would you feel if no one showed up to your kid's party because you are serving kale salad from Whole Foods for lunch and someone doesn't shop at Whole Foods because they are outspoken against the ACA and providing health insurance for all employees?
Speaking of a WF party, I actually looked into it. Our WF has a community room and regular activities like decorate your own cupcake that we do with DS. I thought something like that could be fun. They actually have some neat party packages, but not for kids as young as my son. Maybe we'll do McDonald's this year and then Whole Foods next year, lol.
WTF? My kid is not going to get her ass kicked for saying fast food is gross. DD hates pizza or anything with cheese on it. Do I agree with her? No. But dude I am going to make sure she steps up to what she thinks is gross at every occasion. She is entitled to her opinion. I hope she is brave enough to stand up for herself.
I am not totally against fast food. I grew up eating the shit. I think I probably even had McDonald's birthday party. I just think there are so many better options to offer in this area that DD probably won't ever want that.
Really? You want to encourage your kid to tell other people that their choices are gross? That seems really great. And good luck to you when "gross" extends to the food you cook for her.
DD is extremely opinionated. I tell her to be nice when she explains what she likes and what doesn't like but I am not going not encourage her to have her own opinions.
McDonald's was the place to be when I was little. A lot of people had birthday parties there. Yes, I would bring my kid to a party there. It seems pretty stuck up to not go to another kids party because it's at McDonald's. Don't let your kid eat there if you don't want them to. I remember the cakes for the parties with the pure sugar McD's figurines.
Yes, this cake!!! Exactly what I remember. They were SO good!
Christ people. It's a fast food birthday party for children, not the best little whorehouse in TX. Sometimes just reading all the restrictions people live by is exhausting.
I'm not reading all these responses. yes I'd take my kid, but no I wouldn't host a party there. I could throw a party at home on $50. It's only as complicated as you make it and I'd rather have it at home.
Yeah but you have to clean your house if you want to do that.
LOL.
Seriously, though, having a party at home is always a big production. I obsess over how the house looks. We have to set up folding chairs. I can't help but obsess about things looking like stuff I've pinned on Pinterest. We have to crate the three dogs and hope they don't bark and carry on. A home party sounds simple but never turns out to be - at least not for us.
Unless there is alcohol involved kids bday parties suck. A McDonalds bday party sounds like the worse kind of suck. That being said if you were a good friend I would suck up the suck and go. But I might bring a flask.
WTF? My kid is not going to get her ass kicked for saying fast food is gross. DD hates pizza or anything with cheese on it. Do I agree with her? No. But dude I am going to make sure she steps up to what she thinks is gross at every occasion. She is entitled to her opinion. I hope she is brave enough to stand up for herself.
I am not totally against fast food. I grew up eating the shit. I think I probably even had McDonald's birthday party. I just think there are so many better options to offer in this area that DD probably won't ever want that.
I don't really understand this. So, if you brought her to a party at McD's you'd be happy if she told all of the other kids how gross and disgusting it was? strong work
Obviously I worded that poorly. But I am going to respect my choices of food she doesn't like. I freaking hated onions as a kid. Like with a passion. I hated when my mom would push me to eat them. Etc...
mrssandro I'm quite positive that none of us want to shove food down our kids throat that they don't like. We're not talking about everyday toddler pickiness. We're talking about kids regurgitating their parent's judginess about things that don't or shouldn't matter when they are celebrating their friend's birthday. Okay, so your daughter doesn't like the filth that we feed our poor children. But does she like climbing and sliding and having fun with her friends? Yes? Then she should be able to go to a kid's birthday party without your own judgements or preferences that you've taught her coming out of her mouth. That is not polite. Pack her a cooler full of salmon and broccoli while her friends dine on fried foods and let her have a good time.
Yeah the house parties I have thrown are harder than just renting a gym play area. And I don't even do pinterest crap. There is a certain level of vulnerability in letting people in your house, especially if you don't know them well. This year we had Jack's bday at our house and invited 5 of his preschool friends. Some of the parents stayed as well who I only marginally knew. That was a million times harder to prep for versus the year before when we rented a gym play area and served pizza in one of the activity rooms.
And while lessons are important, a three-year-old isn't going to understand your politics and will only see that he can't have his birthday party where he wants to have it / can't go to his friend's birthday party, even though it seems to be (and is) a reasonable choice for a little kid.
I think most three year olds can understand "we don't eat at McDonald's because they are not kind to the animals". Maybe that is my vegetarian household talking, but my kids know exactly why we don't eat animals, and they also know the different between "happy chickens" and battery cage chickens (not that I use the phrase battery cage with the kids).
Yeah the house parties I have thrown are harder than just renting a gym play area. And I don't even do pinterest crap. There is a certain level of vulnerability in letting people in your house, especially if you don't know them well. This year we had Jack's bday at our house and invited 5 of his preschool friends. Some of the parents stayed as well who I only marginally knew. That was a million times harder to prep for versus the year before when we rented a gym play area and served pizza in one of the activity rooms.
Yesssss, I so agree. Now that we've started having our parties outside of our home, I'm never going back. I'm a stressed out spazz with all of those people in our house. Is this clean, omg, did they open that cabinet, kids, don't you dare open our bedroom door! I enjoy our children and our parties much more now that we basically just show up and hang out with our friends.
I think most three year olds can understand "we don't eat at McDonald's because they are not kind to the animals". Maybe that is my vegetarian household talking, but my kids know exactly why we don't eat animals, and they also know the different between "happy chickens" and battery cage chickens (not that I use the phrase battery cage with the kids).
I don't understand why it's necessary at age three. Because then you're telling the kid that they have to make a choice between their friends/having fun at a birthday party, or morality. Well, to be fair, you're actually telling them that YOU'RE making that choice for them. This is pretty heavy for a kid who just wants to go have fun at a play place with his friends. Why not just bring your own food and allow them to go, instead of turning your politics into a punishment?
Right. Why should a three year old have to deal with this guilt? Why can't they just have care free kid fun without this burden that you're putting on them to carry out your cause?
Post by vampsterdam on Apr 11, 2013 12:55:18 GMT -5
I can't wait until some of these kids (who are innocently blunt) say something to the birthday kid like, "My mommy said we can't go because she thinks it's trashy" and all hell breaks loose with between the parents, haha.
I say this because I see my friends already do this (like, saying their friend's mommy doesn't care about her because she lets them eat food coloring). It's sad and hilarious at the same time.
Post by fuckyourcouch on Apr 11, 2013 12:58:26 GMT -5
this is dumb. i fucking hate mcdonald's and i would take my kid. it's a party, not a lifetime commitment to fast food gluttony and animal abuse. AND I AM ONE OF THOSE CRAZIES WHO WOULD SAVE MY DOG IN A FIRE
I think most three year olds can understand "we don't eat at McDonald's because they are not kind to the animals". Maybe that is my vegetarian household talking, but my kids know exactly why we don't eat animals, and they also know the different between "happy chickens" and battery cage chickens (not that I use the phrase battery cage with the kids).
I don't understand why it's necessary at age three. Because then you're telling the kid that they have to make a choice between their friends/having fun at a birthday party, or morality. Well, to be fair, you're actually telling them that YOU'RE making that choice for them. This is pretty heavy for a kid who just wants to go have fun at a play place with his friends. Why not just bring your own food and allow them to go, instead of turning your politics into a punishment?
Because kids aren't dumb. We get our farm eggs, and they ask why we don't get eggs at the grocery, so I explain.
Yes, I do get to make that choice for them. If it was a close friend, We would go, I would remind the kids that they cannot have the french fries (they wouldn't want the meat anyway so no issue there, I would have to check the ice cream but I assume it is safe). If it wasn't a close friend, at age 3, I don't think a kid gets much socially out of a birthday party, so if I, as the parent, don't want to go (for whatever reason), I am not going. If we were talking about a school age kid, I would let my kid decide, with the reminder that if they go, some of the food is off limits for xyz reasons.
Now this can spin off into a whole new debate about what age kids should get to make their own food choices, and I am happy to have that debate for 8 more pages, but it should probably be in a s/o post.
kadams767 this is where e lying comes in! At age three, you don't even tell them about the party, you just RSVP no.
Doesn't this contradict your theory that a 3 year old could understand why we don't support McDonalds? Why don't you just show them the invitation or tell them about it and explain that they aren't going because you're against the way they treat animals? Surely, they would get it. No lying necessary.
Because kids aren't dumb. We get our farm eggs, and they ask why we don't get eggs at the grocery, so I explain.
Yes, I do get to make that choice for them. If it was a close friend, We would go, I would remind the kids that they cannot have the french fries (they wouldn't want the meat anyway so no issue there, I would have to check the ice cream but I assume it is safe). If it wasn't a close friend, at age 3, I don't think a kid gets much socially out of a birthday party, so if I, as the parent, don't want to go (for whatever reason), I am not going. If we were talking about a school age kid, I would let my kid decide, with the reminder that if they go, some of the food is off limits for xyz reasons.
Now this can spin off into a whole new debate about what age kids should get to make their own food choices, and I am happy to have that debate for 8 more pages, but it should probably be in a s/o post.
Not snarky but have your kids ever had meat?
Yes, this.
One of my friends brags about how her kids don't eat meat (she doesn't like it so she wasn't giving it to the kids).
Well, her husband doesn't eat meat and her son is getting curious and eating it from the dad all the time. She is FURIOUS.
I guess I don't understand why THAT is your hill to die on for a four year old. If they don't like meat, fine. But what if they do later? Well, some of the parents actually be "cool" with it?
One of my friends brags about how her kids don't eat meat (she doesn't like it so she wasn't giving it to the kids).
Well, her husband doesn't eat meat and her son is getting curious and eating it from the dad all the time. She is FURIOUS.
I guess I don't understand why THAT is your hill to die on for a four year old. If they don't like meat, fine. But what if they do later? Well, some of the parents actually be "cool" with it?
They both have tried meat. DD will eat chicken nuggets according to my dad who has fed her chicken nuggets from McDonalds, lolz. She has tried salmon and doesn't like it, and won't try any other things. DS has tried bacon and won't eat it or any other meat. He asks if food has meat in it, and declines it if it does. If my kids ever want to eat ethically raised meat that is fine with me, but I don't know if I am willing to buy it and prepare it for them.
Really? You want to encourage your kid to tell other people that their choices are gross? That seems really great. And good luck to you when "gross" extends to the food you cook for her.
DD is extremely opinionated. I tell her to be nice when she explains what she likes and what doesn't like but I am not going not encourage her to have her own opinions.
How about a simple "no thank you"? No one in the world, outside of your home, is interested in anyone's list of likes and dislikes.
GoDawg's - if he's that adamant I think I'd do it. I am someone who would hate to be judged and ostracized for having it there - but it's so cute that he wants it that badly! My son rarely eats at any party so I don't know why it would be so hard for people who hate the food to just eat before or after. If you want to be really nice bring a fruit platter.