Are you wary of women who only have male friends?

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Are you wary of women who only have male friends?

[lola]

Yup! I hate when women say, "I just don't get along with other women! I'm one of the boys!" Ugh.

[eb777888]

I've found that I don't typically get along with women who say "I'm only friends with men because I don't get along with women." It's usually followed by something like "most women are jealous of me" or some shit.

[Deleted]

Yes. No one can convince me that hardcore "guys girls" don't enjoy the dynamic that goes along with being the only woman in the room.

[angelaa73]

They have no girl code? Pass!

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[Deleted]

Yes, but probably less so than I am of women who only have female friends.

ETA: I also think that there is likely a difference between the women who are always "I only have guy friends! I'm just one of the guys! Girls are all drama! Girls don't like me because they're jealous!" etc. and those who just sit around quietly with friends who just happen to all be male.  The former is one of the worst subspecies of women IMO, while I'd wonder *why* the other type only has friends of one gender but wouldn't know what I could assume from that.

[Deleted]

This post is brought to you by all of my college guys contacting me recently because our college reunion is at the end of the month.  None of us are going, and one guy suggested that we just do a trip on our own.

And then I thought, "Hmm.  This worked back then, but now it might be awkward for me to go on vacation with five men."  LOL.

I'm a guys' girl AND a girls' girl.  (hot)

[Deleted]

I'm wary of people with a gaggle of friends.

I think I'm down to two friends, and I've been trying to get rid of both of them for like five years.

[winnied]

No.

I'm only wary when they follow it up with something stupid like pps mentioned. If they just only have guy friends I'm not going to make a judgment.

[Kit]

Yeah, I kinda am. It's just weird.

[speckledfrog]

These polls always make me think of bam. I think she's good people.

[Deleted]

But what if it was more circumstances and less of a choice?

For example, friends at work. If you work in a male-dominated industry, wouldn't you be more likely to have more male friends at work? Or what if you happen to live in a dorm that was mostly male for some odd reason?

[speckledfrog]

May 7, 2013 16:30:07 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

This post is brought to you by all of my college guys contacting me recently because our college reunion is at the end of the month.  None of us are going, and one guy suggested that we just do a trip on our own.

And then I thought, "Hmm.  This worked back then, but now it might be awkward for me to go on vacation with five men."  LOL.

I'm a guys' girl AND a girls' girl.  (hot)

That's called being awesome.

[underwaterrhymes]

I find most women who say this are terribly insecure and rely on the attention of men to feel good about themselves.

ETA - I say this as a woman with a good number of close female friends, but also one who used to hang out with a group of guys, often as the only woman. So it is not the idea of mostly hanging out with men that is the issue, but rather the sentiment that female friendships are in some way less worthy or desirable because other women are lacking or jealous that I take issue with.

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May 7, 2013 16:40:51 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

May 7, 2013 16:30:07 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

This post is brought to you by all of my college guys contacting me recently because our college reunion is at the end of the month.  None of us are going, and one guy suggested that we just do a trip on our own.

And then I thought, "Hmm.  This worked back then, but now it might be awkward for me to go on vacation with five men."  LOL.

I'm a guys' girl AND a girls' girl.  (hot)

That's called being awesome.

That's called being lucky!

One reason I really like my current place of employment is that I've made so many great girlfriends.  Our department is over 50% female!

This is also why I loved The Knot/The Nest.  Yay! 

[EmilieMadison]

May 7, 2013 16:30:07 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

This post is brought to you by all of my college guys contacting me recently because our college reunion is at the end of the month.  None of us are going, and one guy suggested that we just do a trip on our own.

And then I thought, "Hmm.  This worked back then, but now it might be awkward for me to go on vacation with five men."  LOL.

I'm a guys' girl AND a girls' girl.  (hot)

This is why we are friends. 

[mariafromnj]

 I am only if they have no female friends. I don't have an issue with anyone with lots of guy friends. It just seems odd if they have not one female they get along and are close with.

[Deleted]

Yes because I have yet to meet one (in real life) who doesn't follow up I'm a guy's girl, with the whole jealousy, not getting along with other women, I'm not one of those girly girls, etc.

[eb777888]

May 7, 2013 16:43:10 GMT -5 nicbreeful said:

May 7, 2013 16:40:50 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

But what if it was more circumstances and less of a choice?

For example, friends at work. If you work in a male-dominated industry, wouldn't you be more likely to have more male friends at work? Or what if you happen to live in a dorm that was mostly male for some odd reason?

I'm not wary of women that have mostly male friends.. Just wary of the ones that say it's because they don't get along with other women.  I think that's the weird part.

Yeah.... this is what I think, too. I guess that chick that says something like "I ONLY have male because I don't get along with women" popped into my mind, first.

[flex]

I'm only wary of women who are mean--not the ones who just hang out with guys.

Most of my basic friends are men; my closest friends are women.

[LaceyV]

May 7, 2013 16:43:46 GMT -5 sameoldash said:

i have several close guy friends, but that's more because i'm a horrible friend and i hate talking to people (lol) and they don't care if i disappear for 6 months and just pop back up like nothing happened. jk. kind of.

and yet. here i am with you fine people.

This is me. Most of my long time friends are guys, because my neighborhood growing up was almost all boys and I remained friends with several of them. But not talk to every day friends, more like see a few times a year at parties. I'm awkward in one on one situations so maintaining super close friendships was never easy for me and therefore most girls think I suck lol. That said my two best friends are girls at least.

I am a little wary of women that are all OMG girls are so full of drama. Most of the women I've met like this are usually super flirts and love the attention. (I say most not all. I do know some that just don't relate to women and chose guys as friends.)

[goaskalice]

May 7, 2013 16:43:46 GMT -5 sameoldash said:

i think it's different to observe someone mostly hanging out with men, then for that person to actually SAY, "i only have guy friends." them announcing it makes it weird. do they not have a sister/cousin/college roommate/SOMEONE who is a close female friend?

i have several close guy friends, but that's more because i'm a horrible friend and i hate talking to people (lol) and they don't care if i disappear for 6 months and just pop back up like nothing happened. jk. kind of.

and yet. here i am with you fine people.

Yep, I agree with this statement. In one facet of my life I hang out with mostly men. That's because the political landscape is slightly skewed to men, therefore when we meet it's usually me and a bunch of guys. We're actually actively recruiting more women for our group. 

Meanwhile, my closest friends are almost all couples so we hang out as a group all the time, men and women combined.

[lucky513]

I'm just wary of sluts

[mariafromnj]

May 7, 2013 16:53:51 GMT -5 AutumnRose25 said:

May 7, 2013 16:44:50 GMT -5 mariafromnj said:

Oh god, do you ever read your posts? 

fixed it for you

[emsumm]

It's funny, I used to have a lot of male friends but now they're mostly female. I didn't think about it until I stopped and was talking to a buddy of mine from the gym and Maya said to me "that's Daddy's friend!" I was like, "oh, no, that's Mommy's friend." And Maya gave me a WTF face. Lol. They were also confused when we went to my hometown and they met my best friend from high school. "Amos is daddy's friend from when he was little!" We had a hard time convincing them otherwise.

[amberlyrose]

I say no, but I have mostly guy friends. I have girl friends, but they live in the next city over, so its hard to see them on a regular basis.
If you saw who I hung out with most weekends, you'd think I only had guy friends. It just works out that most guys like beer, soccer, and dogs, which are my three main hobbies!
I really am trying to make girl friends here, though. It does get kind of lonely being the only girl I'm trying with the whole knitting class with @gypsy, inviting my coworker friend out with us, and the other girls nights we do with the Denver MLers.

[amberlyrose]

May 7, 2013 17:39:03 GMT -5 @gypsy said:

May 7, 2013 17:37:06 GMT -5 amberlyrose said:

I say no, but I have mostly guy friends. I have girl friends, but they live in the next city over, so its hard to see them on a regular basis.
If you saw who I hung out with most weekends, you'd think I only had guy friends. It just works out that most guys like beer, soccer, and dogs, which are my three main hobbies!
I really am trying to make girl friends here, though. It does get kind of lonely being the only girl I'm trying with the whole knitting class with @gypsy, inviting my coworker friend out with us, and the other girls nights we do with the Denver MLers.

I'll totally join your group! They seem really nice!

You should!! I think you'd fit in perfectly with us

[snickers]

I kinda feel bad for them more than anything else...

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May 7, 2013 16:40:50 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

But what if it was more circumstances and less of a choice?

For example, friends at work. If you work in a male-dominated industry, wouldn't you be more likely to have more male friends at work? Or what if you happen to live in a dorm that was mostly male for some odd reason?

Totally fine by they should at least have one girl friend from college, one of the wives, a cousin, something to indicate they have normal female relationships too.

[snickers]

I just think it would be hard to not have any girl friends. I cannot imagine not having at least one close girl friend.