a) she thinks the 15 week old baby cries too much because my sister spends too much time with him. (Like what does she want to do here - have him join a book club?) b) she thinks the 15 week old should be eating bananas and applesauce and drinking juice. c) she tells her that when he cries he is "faking it" and tries to hold the baby away from her, not letting her nurse him.
I'm *almost* convinced that we fall in love with someone, not for who they are, but because their parent will make the worst possible inlaws for our personalities. Kinda like our own personal hells made just for us.
HA! I think the same thing. One of my friends came to me saying that she thought her new boyfriend was "the one." I asked if she got along with his mom. She said no, so I said, "Well then, I think you HAVE to marry him now."
I also have an awful, awful, AWFUL MIL. iamgrace, tell your sister to stay far, FAR away from this woman. She doesn't need this nonsense in her life.
You sister needs to kick MIL out and tell her to come back for the HS graduation. My mom tried to pull some of that crap, but I put my foot down. Then she pulled the "well, I wonder how you kids survived since everything I know about babies seems to be so wrong and you people learn everything in BOOKS now" but I put an end to that as well.
Grace- I didn't know we were related. Hey sis! The juice, the faking it, the not understanding breastfeeding. Oh boy.
MIL got pissy because DS hadn't napped and was clinging to me (he was just over a year) so she decided to start mock whining and teasing him. "ooooooh you want your moooooommmmmeeeeee" It took every fiber of my being to not tell her off. I took him out of the room and the only thing I said was "well is looks like DS isn't the only one who missed his afternoon nap". I considered it a personal victory.
She has tried telling her to back off, but to no avail.
I told her she should very innocently invite her along to the next doctor's appt where she could voice her "concerns" and be told by the dr how wrong she is. I don't know if this would cause more problems or not, because then my sister would have a "crazy" doctor.
She has tried telling her to back off, but to no avail.
I told her she should very innocently invite her along to the next doctor's appt where she could voice her "concerns" and be told by the dr how wrong she is. I don't know if this would cause more problems or not, because then my sister would have a "crazy" doctor.
Does this woman live with them? Why on earth is she spending so much time with her?
She has tried telling her to back off, but to no avail.
I told her she should very innocently invite her along to the next doctor's appt where she could voice her "concerns" and be told by the dr how wrong she is. I don't know if this would cause more problems or not, because then my sister would have a "crazy" doctor.
I think it is time for the "Tell your mom to STFU or GTFO" talk with her H.
ETA: oh and yeah, the doctor thing won't help. Because HER PEDI, back in 1973, told her that kids need to drink juice and eat cereal, and those young doctors nowadays have no idea what they are talking about. Been there, done that. My mom is STILL annoyed that I put my babies to sleep on their backs because they could spitup and choke on it and die. Ugh. But the one time she put my baby to sleep on her belly, I flipped out so bad she never tried that again.
She has tried telling her to back off, but to no avail.
I told her she should very innocently invite her along to the next doctor's appt where she could voice her "concerns" and be told by the dr how wrong she is. I don't know if this would cause more problems or not, because then my sister would have a "crazy" doctor.
Does this woman live with them? Why on earth is she spending so much time with her?
You sister needs to kick MIL out and tell her to come back for the HS graduation. My mom tried to pull some of that crap, but I put my foot down. Then she pulled the "well, I wonder how you kids survived since everything I know about babies seems to be so wrong and you people learn everything in BOOKS now" but I put an end to that as well.
Say more about how you put an end to this. I tried to put an end to this kind of crap with my own mom, and now we haven't spoken in almost 2 months. Sigh. I guess in my own way I put an end to it.
You sister needs to kick MIL out and tell her to come back for the HS graduation. My mom tried to pull some of that crap, but I put my foot down. Then she pulled the "well, I wonder how you kids survived since everything I know about babies seems to be so wrong and you people learn everything in BOOKS now" but I put an end to that as well.
Say more about how you put an end to this. I tried to put an end to this kind of crap with my own mom, and now we haven't spoken in almost 2 months. Sigh. I guess in my own way I put an end to it.
I am sorry that sucks.
I am lucky that my mom is pretty much impossible to offend and doesn't hold grudges (now in her old age anyway).
One of my friends came to me saying that she thought her new boyfriend was "the one." I asked if she got along with his mom. She said no, so I said, "Well then, I think you HAVE to marry him now."
My DH had a difficult home life and ran away when he was 16. He is OK with his parents but not close. They live halfway across the country. It is glorious.
You sister needs to kick MIL out and tell her to come back for the HS graduation. My mom tried to pull some of that crap, but I put my foot down. Then she pulled the "well, I wonder how you kids survived since everything I know about babies seems to be so wrong and you people learn everything in BOOKS now" but I put an end to that as well.
How? I get this all the time, along with a healthy dose of, "Yeah, I get it. I should just shut up and not say anything. You don't want to know what I have to think." In other words, she tries to shame me for not listening to her unsolicited advice.