Need Some Help

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How do you deal with pg announcements when they upset you? Personally, they don't bother me and 95% of the time. MH is a mess, we've gotten two pg announcements this week and he's turned into eeyore that his life will be childless and unfulfilling. We haven't made any decisions on adoption and I'm not ready to explore it just yet. We've had our diagnosis for less than six months. When he gets in these glum moods, I start to feel pressured that I'm not ready to discuss the next steps yet and then I just bc up feeling like a crappy person.

[G22]

I think you'll find everyone reacts differently. So please don't feel too bad about not reacting like he does.

Honestly to me it depends on the person announcing and what I know of their situation. Yes this makes me more judgemental towards some. For example when my BFF told me, she told me privately and as gently as possible because she knows our struggle. I cried after talking to her, but I was genuinely happy too.

When a former girl I coached a few years ago flippantly posted a picture on FB the she and her boyfriend of a few months were expecting, I lost it for a few minutes. I was angry that it worked for her, when she's just out of high school, broke and unmarried.

99% of the time I hear via FB so I usually tear up/cry and allow myself a few minutes of pity partying and then I move on. I also promptly hide people on FB.

[speyedr]

It depends on who it is I guess. When my SIL announced her pregnancy we had been trying for a while but had not pursued any IF testing or anything at that point. I was genuinely happy for them, however when she had her baby on Tuesday I can't say that I had the best reaction. I had a m/c in january and I think that really made it hit home for me that she is getting her baby and I am not. I hear pregnancy announcements all the flippin time at work because I work with a lot of women my age and younger (we have three out on ML right now and a few more pg) and at this point I think I am just so numb that it doesn't phase me.

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Thanks guys, I just feel so helpless. We've dealt with this in very different ways.