Tamb, I can relate to everything in your post. Little kids are exhausting. I only get cuddles from M when he is sick. Otherwise he is move move move!
Eventually it'll get better. At like 4.
LOL I was going to throw the 4 number out as well. I couldn't decide if that would make Tamb feel helpless or not. But you did it so now I am going to ditto you.
Back to my calorie burn thing I noticed a change in my weight once Jack was closer to 4. I realized it was because he didn't need me as much physically anymore. No more carrying, getting into the carseat, removing him from situations etc etc.
@tambcat, don't you want to TTC soon? I feel like I need to be committed on a weekly basis from the amount of crazy going on in my house. I mean, I wouldn't trade it for everything in the world, but having two is no fucking joke.
/slow nod
Every single night I look at H in horror and ask him why we brought this insanity on ourselves. I am not exaggerating. It is fucking nuts.
Our transition to two was really easy. But the ongoing stuff now that they are both mobile is . halp
Tamb, I can relate to everything in your post. Little kids are exhausting. I only get cuddles from M when he is sick. Otherwise he is move move move!
Eventually it'll get better. At like 4.
LOL I was going to throw the 4 number out as well. I couldn't decide if that would make Tamb feel helpless or not. But you did it so now I am going to ditto you.
Back to my calorie burn thing I noticed a change in my weight once Jack was closer to 4. I realized it was because he didn't need me as much physically anymore. No more carrying, getting into the carseat, removing him from situations etc etc.
this is why we waited this long before having our second. i mean, last night, while i was making a GODDAMNED WELL-BALANCED MEAL for my kid, she was out, alone in our (fenced--the pool is also separately fenced for those concerned about her safety) backyard looking at butterflies and running around knocking over rocks with her toy bulldozer. ALONE. i was watching through the window, but she was ENTERTAINING HERSELF. with nature. hell, that's educational as fuck, man. i'm such a good mom.
My DD slept 13 hours last night, woke up at 8am for a diaper change and a bottle. I put her in bed with me and she inspected my duvet again trying to pick up the flowers in the design and made screechy sounds like a animal of some sort for like 45 minutes and then went back to sleep until 12:45. This is awesome because I started AF and my only symptom is I'm tired. I've never had cramps or anything, I just need a nap.
DD is turning 6 months old on the 12th and we are having a half birthday BBQ pool party for her. With cupcakes AND an ice cream sundae bar. It's slightly ridiculous and I don't care. And hella people with come because its already fucking hot here. This weekend the temps will be 110.
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
this is why we waited this long before having our second. i mean, last night, while i was making a GODDAMNED WELL-BALANCED MEAL for my kid, she was out, alone in our (fenced--the pool is also separately fenced for those concerned about her safety) backyard looking at butterflies and running around knocking over rocks with her toy bulldozer. ALONE. i was watching through the window, but she was ENTERTAINING HERSELF. with nature. hell, that's educational as fuck, man. i'm such a good mom.
Yeah, but THEN it starts all over again. That's what I'm worried about.
sure. but i'm more well-rested and only entertaining/preserving the health and life of like 1.5 kids instead of two. that's what i'm telling myself. THERE'S NO GOING BACK NOW.
and i'm totally going to do it duggar-style and train L to care for the newborn so i can go can peaches or whatever. lol.
Yeah, but THEN it starts all over again. That's what I'm worried about.
sure. but i'm more well-rested and only entertaining/preserving the health and life of like 1.5 kids instead of two. that's what i'm telling myself. THERE'S NO GOING BACK NOW.
and i'm totally going to do it duggar-style and train L to care for the newborn so i can go can peaches or whatever. lol.
It really does make it easier.
And we decided to wait because I really love the baby stage. As much as I have complained in this thread having a wee one in the house makes me very happy. I wanted to make sure I enjoyed Leo like I did Jack. Mission accomplished.
The only drawback of the age difference is that Jack is less of a golden god now. I find as they get older they start to have normal human traits thus I start to look at them like they are a human. He annoys me. He makes me mad. I sometimes don't want to be around him. Babies don't do that for me. Even when they are screaming I still can't get enough of them. So I feel bad that Jack is up against this little angel for my attention. It makes me feel guilty.
Yeah, today has been exhausting and I only have one mobile kid. Sofia decided that she wanted to play outside, which is awesome except she thinks that having me chase her down our super steep, super long gravel driveway is the funniest thing in the world. So there I was, calling her in for lunch and she decides to bolt. Fuck sakes. I wasn't wearing any shoes and I had the baby in a sling, head bobbing in the wind, chasing my 2 year old down our rocky driveway.
I just thank god we don't have neighbours to witness this bullshit.
i judge my acquaintance. she gets professional pictures taken of her, her husband, and their kid EVERY SIX MONTHS. for 3 years now (counting her maternity pictures, that's SEVEN professional photo shoots in 3 years). and then she posts all of them on FB.
i've totally stalked the photographer's website. it's $250 just for the session, and then you have to pay for the prints/rights. they're not friends (well, perhaps now they are, ha ha) or family, so likely not a discount.
**WAIT, i just double checked. she had newborn, 3 month, 8 month, and 1 year pictures. so that's TEN sessions.**
:-[We did this with both of our daughters... 1,3,6,9, & 12 month pictures. We just get them every year now for their birthdays. Babies change so much their first year, so it's nice to have. My parents did this for me & my brother growing up. I thought it was normal lol.
My DD slept 13 hours last night, woke up at 8am for a diaper change and a bottle. I put her in bed with me and she inspected my duvet again trying to pick up the flowers in the design and made screechy sounds like a animal of some sort for like 45 minutes and then went back to sleep until 12:45. This is awesome because I started AF and my only symptom is I'm tired. I've never had cramps or anything, I just need a nap.
DD is turning 6 months old on the 12th and we are having a half birthday BBQ pool party for her. With cupcakes AND an ice cream sundae bar. It's slightly ridiculous and I don't care. And hella people with come because its already fucking hot here. This weekend the temps will be 110.
Was DD born 12/12/12? Our babies are birthday twinsies!!
We spent four hours at the pool today. Dd actually willingly floats around in her puddle jumper and ds is completely independent with his on. They're both napping right now and I'm freshly showered and waiting to go eat Mexican food, because it's Tuesday and that's what we do.
Sometimes I sort of regret having a kid. Obviously, I love Joanna more than I can say, she brings me tons of joy, can't wait to see her at the end of the day, blah blah, but ... I miss doing the things I used to do, going out with H, staying up late WITH H. Doing whatever I wanted on the weekends or nothing at all. I know this is somewhat temporary and that I will have more freedom as she gets older but it is pretty depressing right now.
I also think about how I used to shop for myself a lot, and now I have this problem (lol) where it is easy to buy stuff for her, but I have a hard time splurging on personal items for myself. I remember looking online and being like "I think I will buy myself a new purse" or "I think I will buy this new pair of sunglasses" or "I am going to buy some shit at this Banana sale!" Now, I need new clothes, I need to get my hair did... but I have a hard time pulling the trigger on anything. All the individual adult items cost more than individual kid items, so that even though the kid stuff adds up, it's easier to spend a little on it here and there. It also makes it harder to spend on myself because I am like $70 for one dress??? No.
I mean, I guess I did just buy a house. lol
Jesus I am so boring.
Also, I am exhausted. Like, not in a needing to sleep way. You know what I mean?
My DD slept 13 hours last night, woke up at 8am for a diaper change and a bottle. I put her in bed with me and she inspected my duvet again trying to pick up the flowers in the design and made screechy sounds like a animal of some sort for like 45 minutes and then went back to sleep until 12:45. This is awesome because I started AF and my only symptom is I'm tired. I've never had cramps or anything, I just need a nap.
DD is turning 6 months old on the 12th and we are having a half birthday BBQ pool party for her. With cupcakes AND an ice cream sundae bar. It's slightly ridiculous and I don't care. And hella people with come because its already fucking hot here. This weekend the temps will be 110.
Was DD born 12/12/12? Our babies are birthday twinsies!!
sure. but i'm more well-rested and only entertaining/preserving the health and life of like 1.5 kids instead of two. that's what i'm telling myself. THERE'S NO GOING BACK NOW.
and i'm totally going to do it duggar-style and train L to care for the newborn so i can go can peaches or whatever. lol.
It really does make it easier.
And we decided to wait because I really love the baby stage. As much as I have complained in this thread having a wee one in the house makes me very happy. I wanted to make sure I enjoyed Leo like I did Jack. Mission accomplished.
The only drawback of the age difference is that Jack is less of a golden god now. I find as they get older they start to have normal human traits thus I start to look at them like they are a human. He annoys me. He makes me mad. I sometimes don't want to be around him. Babies don't do that for me. Even when they are screaming I still can't get enough of them. So I feel bad that Jack is up against this little angel for my attention. It makes me feel guilty.
I'm so glad other moms feel this way. I thought I was the only one. How did my little angel girl become this annoying creep? She is SOOOO sassy!
Post by ElizabethBennet on Jun 4, 2013 16:00:09 GMT -5
I love my family. I really do. They're great with D and really never criticize my parenting. BUT when I'm with them there are a few that think that they have as much authority over her as H or I do. They'll sometimes correct behavior I think is fine or will jump in when I'm trying to parent. I don't mind that they want to help because honestly sometimes I need it but I HATE that they don't wait for me to ask. It's confusing for her and frustrating for me.
Tamb, I can relate to everything in your post. Little kids are exhausting. I only get cuddles from M when he is sick. Otherwise he is move move move!
Eventually it'll get better. At like 4.
Nope, my DD is five and has not stopped moving.
But they are not in a state of impending danger at all times. I can send the 6 year old into the yard to play - the 2 year old apparently can't even be in the next room without me. He is a danger to himself and others.
But they are not in a state of impending danger at all times. I can send the 6 year old into the yard to play - the 2 year old apparently can't even be in the next room without me. He is a danger to himself and others.
It seems like I don't see you on here often, Jaylea. I'm kinda sporadic in posting though, so maybe that's why. Anyway, I think you're a good mom, so you're one of the ones I look for in parenting posts, for opinions/thoughts.
I have a cold and can take next to nothing due to being pregnant. My nose is so stuffed that my eyes are watering down my face. I sooooo badly want to take 2, just 2! squirts of nose spray to relieve myself for awhile. It cannot be that bad, can it? And now my chest is full and it feels like someone is sitting on top of me. boo!!!!
You can take Afrin, right? My doctor told me it was ok. I've been sick twice now and once I had a fever. Some chick in the bump said my kid will be autistic because I had a fever. So now I don't even want to google what the Afrin has done to him :/
Tamb, toddlers are spazzes. It's totally normal, not hyperactivity or ADHD. Lmao.
You get used to it. I will say though, that I was relatively sane with one kid, and #2 definitely pushed me into crazy territory. I wouldn't wish away either child, but if I could go back and have them ten years apart, I probably would. :/
But they are not in a state of impending danger at all times. I can send the 6 year old into the yard to play - the 2 year old apparently can't even be in the next room without me. He is a danger to himself and others.
My five year is an accident waiting to happen, her head is in the clouds. She can not go outside without me, she needs me to get her water, dress her, blah, blah, blah. I do not do all of these things.
]Any restaurant recommendations? I was trying to have an expensive and a cheap option so we can choose depending on how well we've stuck to our budget. The ones I picked out are Street & Co., and The Lobster Shack out in Cape Elizabeth. Good picks? Any better choices at either end of the price spectrum?
Good choices. Portland Lobster Company is also great for casual, fresh seafood. The Lobster Shack is quintessential Maine - rocky shore, lobster and lighthouses. You really can't go wrong with Street & Co. The owner also owns Fore St., which is amazing too.
But they are not in a state of impending danger at all times. I can send the 6 year old into the yard to play - the 2 year old apparently can't even be in the next room without me. He is a danger to himself and others.
It seems like I don't see you on here often, Jaylea. I'm kinda sporadic in posting though, so maybe that's why. Anyway, I think you're a good mom, so you're one of the ones I look for in parenting posts, for opinions/thoughts.
Thanks, Polka. I haven't been around as much as of late. Nice to "see" you!
I've had the shits all day and I'm still having sex dreams about the so not attractive dude, but I've finally figured out where he came from, it was Weeds.
i judge my acquaintance. she gets professional pictures taken of her, her husband, and their kid EVERY SIX MONTHS. for 3 years now (counting her maternity pictures, that's SEVEN professional photo shoots in 3 years). and then she posts all of them on FB.
i've totally stalked the photographer's website. it's $250 just for the session, and then you have to pay for the prints/rights. they're not friends (well, perhaps now they are, ha ha) or family, so likely not a discount.
**WAIT, i just double checked. she had newborn, 3 month, 8 month, and 1 year pictures. so that's TEN sessions.**
I judge my cousin for this too. Especially since her DH has to work back to back overtime shift to make ends meet. I guess they got a huge package as a gift. But even so it's eyeroll worthy.