i don't remember a moment per se. i do remember one time crying all by myself thinking about how in about 2.5 years he was going into the service and we wouldn't be able to see each other every day. so, clearly by then (about 4 months in) i was certain that A) we'd still be together then and beyond; and B) being away from him would suck. i was right on both counts.
There was a very specific moment that we both remember being "it." It was while we were talking at a club. So romantic (but we met at a bar, so it was fitting I guess.). I don't remember the specifics of the convo but it was a definite "a ha" moment.
We were dating long-distance, and during one of the times I was visiting he gave me a promise ring. When I got back home my friends seemed to think this was a bigger deal than I did, lol. We were out to lunch and one of them was like "so if he proposed today, would you say yes??" I hadn't really been thinking about marriage before that point, but when she asked me I realized that, yes, I would say yes. Then a couple months later, I did.
After just a few dates. We were friends for about a month or so before we went on our first date, and then he dropped me off at my sorority house maybe a month after that. My best friend asked how it went, how I feel about him, etc, and I remember looking at her and saying "I really think I'm going to marry this boy some day."
Post by wildfloweragain on Jun 8, 2013 13:16:30 GMT -5
I was having it out with his sister about the immature way she was treating me (she had been my friend before DH and I dated.) During the conversation I told her we will likely be together forever so we need to work this out. I realized how serious I was. We have been married 10 years.
Post by game blouses on Jun 8, 2013 13:19:17 GMT -5
There were two moments. The first was one our third date, when we were going to a concert after dinner, and he politely told the waitress that we needed to be finished by a certain time because we were going to a show. It was the perfect combination of being a gentleman and being assertive. That was the moment I knew I could have a future with this guy.
The second was his college reunion when people kept mistaking us for being married, when we weren't even engaged yet. We both confessed afterward that we didn't really want to correct people about that anymore. He proposed a few months later.
I knew I wanted to marry H when he first visited my family in Maine. He fit right in. The exact moment it all came together was when we drove to the top of Mt. Cadillac and had a picnic there. It just felt so natural and right to be with him there, in a place I'd visited a million times as a child, that I knew it would work out between us.
Convincing him of that took 3 more years, however.
When we went to Newfoundland to visit his family, and H (who is very shy) got up in front of his entire family and a hall full of random people and sung Amazed to me, lol.
This is one of those ya sure stories, but it is true.
I was a delivery driver by contract to our local major Drug stores. It was my very first day as the permanent driver at this store. I came to work, looked through the back room door, saw this guy leaning on the desk, not knowing if he was married, single, or even knew his name. I stopped for a moment and said I am going to marry this man!!! I had been single for about 3 years and wasn't looking for anything but a job.
I did find out he was married, going through a divorce and dating another employee. Just a little backstory about me, I have a very strong intution, and when things pop into my head they usually come true. So a couple of months go by and I was purchasing a new coffee maker, and knowing he was moving into his new apt, I had offered him this coffee maker, and he said sure, but now I have to invite you for coffee.....
For us, we were dancing in the living room when we'd been living together maybe a month or two (having dated a year prior to moving in).
The song "Whatever It Is" by Zac Brown Band came on, and it got to that line where it says '...and she's gunna be my wife.' H (then BF) was singing the song with me, sang that lyric, and then looked at me, kind of grinning awkwardly.
I grinned cheesily from ear to ear, and not a single word was said, but we both now say that was the moment we knew we were going to be "forever."
..brought to you from just now hearing that song
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So, when did YOU know you were going to marry your H?
I didn't have one particular moment, but this is so sweet and "Whatever It Is" was our first dance song
We were dating for a few weeks, & I looked at him & just had this weird feeling that he was my FAMILY. Like we would be a family together. I never felt that way about anyone before, or since.
Post by sarapocalypse on Jun 8, 2013 14:57:50 GMT -5
After I had jaw surgery and he came over everyday and just sat with me and wiped soup off my chin. That was about 3 months after we had started dating.
After I had jaw surgery and he came over everyday and just sat with me and wiped soup off my chin. That was about 3 months after we had started dating.
After we'd dated for 6 months we both said I love you to each other. The next day we talked about marriage and we both knew that we wanted to end up together.
A few months into dating, I was doing laundry while dancing and singing at the top of my lungs. H walked into the room, and I expected him to laugh or roll his eyes or call me weird... But he stared at me so seriously, walked over to me, cupped my face in his hands and said 'I'm going to marry you someday'.
I nodded and said 'yeah, you're probably right'.
Apparently he loved that I could comfortably be a goofball in front of him.
He went to Ireland for three weeks for school and we only talked a couple of times because it was so expensive. He sent me postcards and one of them said, I can't wait to bring you here.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Mine is dumb but I think it was the first time I thought about it. He invited me to a family friend's wedding and I found out that he had actually RSVPd +1 before he even met me. I was insecure about this and said something like "so if we broke up you'd just have to find someone else to take?" and he got all serious and said "if we broke up I'd be sad for a long time." So anyway, I said it was dumb, but that's when I knew he was serious about me.
On our second date. We were sitting in a coffee shop just off campus, and it was kind of surreal. Everything stopped, and I couldn't hear anything else around me (this was a really loud, busy, coffee shop as it was the only one in our tiny college town), except this little voice in my head that said "Dot, you're going to marry him." Thankfully I wasn't stupid enough to let him in on my little moment of crazy, and saved it for you guys instead. Well, I told him later, but way way WAY later. Like, about a year after he proposed.
Post by sandipluschris on Jun 8, 2013 22:19:46 GMT -5
When we were dating about three months I was talking to a friend about him. I realized then that what I loved best about him was that our relationship was SO easy. There was no drama. I never worried he wouldn't call if he said he would, I didn't wonder what he was thinking or doing. I trusted him and felt myself with him. I just knew that we were connected and good for each other. I have felt like that throughout the last ten years. He is truly my best friend. Our relationship is not always easy but in ten years we've moved cross country (twice), had a child, gained and lost jobs, experienced a pregnancy loss and buried my Dad. Through it all he has been by my side and I feel so incredibly lucky to have him. He is my true partner in life.
I think after I dragged him around eastern europe and he was such an easy breezy travel partner. WHICH WAS A LIE. he catfished my ass! I dragged him around SE Asia after we got married and he showed his true colors!!
Post by georgeharrison on Jun 8, 2013 22:29:27 GMT -5
The first night we met, we talked for three hours. On my way home, I thought to myself, "I think if we ran to Vegas right now and got married and we'd be happy." He proposed one day less than three months later, we were married 7 months after that, and we had our son 9 months and 4 days after our wedding day. It was all crazy fast and foolish. We will be married 9 years in October.
We dated forever. He claims he always knew he'd marry me. It took him going away to basic/AIT for me to realize that not having him around blew hard. I'm not a romantic person so I wouldn't say there was ever a moment that I realized we'd get married, but I think going through a long-distance/minimal communication relationship for those months solidified the idea that I'd like for him to be around for the long haul.