Well, that certainly doesn't seem like anything to GBCN over.
I agree. It's just the last post I remembered Mekia starting.
I guess I remembered it differently than how it really was. My feelings about some of the posters certainly has something to do with it.
I think it's fair to say that Mekia is on the sensitive side, though.
And rightly so.
imoan had a valid point.
But given everything meki's been through this year, I think it's understandable to have anxiety over something positive going on for her. She doesn't need poor poodles, but women who have been through less have shown more anxiety over the early weeks of their pregnancy than meki has
We don't even know if this is the reason she hasn't been around. Mekia has had one hell of a year. I'm feeling icky that this thread looks like it's starting to turn into how "sensitive" Mekia is, and frankly, that's bullshit.
I kinda think it's shitty to be sitting here continuing to talk about how 'sensitive' mekia might be, when she's obviously not here and it might be related to that or it might not be.
Isn't that part of what the Got Pregnant board is for? To voice concerns to others who are and have been in a similar situation? I don't know anywhere more appropriate to ask those questions.
I agree that we shouldn't assume that is why she hasn't been around. Mekia I hope you're doing well.
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
Well, I was trying to not rehash it but worrying about IF after 2 mos of trying when people on the board DO have IF is a bit over the top, imo. That's why I said I just think she has a lot of anxiety, which I get b/c I do to. Thank God for medication!
It's totally normal for someone to worry that they won't be able to have kids, even if there's no cause for it. Judging that is a giant 'at least' and pretty shitty. Just because a bunch of people agreed with imoan doesn't make it right.
Some of us will worry anyway, and reach out. I hate that people like imoan lash out for whatever reason, and people like Ruby Winchester are so lacking in identity that they eat that shit up. What's wrong with being kind to someone when they're scared? I don't think we all need to love each other, but why be a bitch just because you can? She's low.
I love Meki, and she seems pretty tough to me. I hope she's on vacation and laughing at us.
Not to mention that it'd be one thing if Meki lashed out/snarked other people but then was 'sensitive' when it came to herself, but that isn't the case. She is very sweet to others and never negates their feelings, so there even less reason to turn around and treat her that way. So she worries 'too much'...who cares? If you aren't a hair petter, then ignore.
Ugh, you guys, I feel like a giant douche for the comments I made. I feel like a hypocrite because I, too, am pregnant and have worried about things big and small. It has nothing to do with sensitivity. Being a FTM is a mindfuck.
I adore mekiakoo, and I hope she is just busy and will be back soon. But I think imoan's comment was not incredibly bitchy by any means, and mekiakoo handled it just fine.
But it is a bit ridiculous to imply that everyone should always be nice on the GP boards because people are looking for support. When people come in here looking for support about married life, we aren't always rainbows and sunshine either, lol. These boards would be horribly boring if everyone was ALWAYS nice to everyone else.
ETA: um, so I accidentally tagged imoan in here. :::waves::: Hi!
What FTM isn't paranoid about every little twinge in the first trimester? Especially after a bleeding scare.
Sounded like she was just looking for a little support from some other preg ladies. I can't believe this is flame worthy.
This.
She's a FTM and she's entitled to feel however she wants to feel and she should be able to express that, her fears, concerns, what have yous.
Some of what I saw, imoan worst of all (surprise, surprise) is that, well, I went through this, too, or worse, and I was just fine so suck it up, cupcake. Well good for YOU. Do you want a medal or a monument?
And to make matters worse, mekia is one of the sweetest ladies here who would never think of dismissing someone's very real anxiety no matter what the reality actually is.
And yes, IMO, putting "scare" in quotes is that bad and goes beyond hormonal to straight-up bitch.
What FTM isn't paranoid about every little twinge in the first trimester? Especially after a bleeding scare.
Sounded like she was just looking for a little support from some other preg ladies. I can't believe this is flame worthy.
This.
She's a FTM and she's entitled to feel however she wants to feel and she should be able to express that, her fears, concerns, what have yous.
Some of what I saw, imoan worst of all (surprise, surprise) is that, well, I went through this, too, or worse, and I was just fine so suck it up, cupcake. Well good for YOU. Do you want a medal or a monument?
And to make matters worse, mekia is one of the sweetest ladies here who would never think of dismissing someone's very real anxiety no matter what the reality actually is.
And yes, IMO, putting "scare" in quotes is that bad and goes beyond hormonal to straight-up bitch.
listen, what is this place turning into? imoan made a regular bitchy comment and ALL OF YOU are crying about it.
seriously, stfu.
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It's like imoan kicked a puppy. That's why people are upset. I agree that it was par for the course for her and mekia didn't actually seem bothered by it. I don't think she GBCN, I think she just got a life for a week.
listen, what is this place turning into? imoan made a regular bitchy comment and ALL OF YOU are crying about it.
seriously, stfu.
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I think it's because it's imoan, frankly. I think otherwise people would give it just a "eh, that's a crappy thing to say" shrug.
I'm kind of confused about why this was even brought up b/c like PPs have said, Meika wouldn't GBCN over this type of thing at all. And there wasn't even backlash after the fact that would make me think she'd leave. I don't know, it seems weird.
I actually meant that I've seen you around the boards since the second line appeared freaking about every single thing. Well before your "scare". So... yes, it's going to be a long 40 weeks for you given your sheer and utter paranoia. And notice that a good number of people liked what I said... so I'm assuming they agree with me and have thought the same thing of your posts since you got that positive.
Those of you that said it wasn't that bad, did you see this second post she made? This is where I thought it crossed the line. I really thought M had a valid concern, and to say it was fucking paranoia, and a "scare"? That is what I think was bullshit.
It was bitchy. But not OMG.BURNINHELL.BITCH bitchy. Like booby said, regular bitchy.
Lol, Letsgetweird. When has ML ever let anything die? You know better. We don't kill threads and we like speculation. It's like our own personal hell of the twilight zone.