H got up and feels completely fine today. We're thinking it was some sort of food poisoning or just a case of sour stomach. He was really apologetic and said he knows I'm overwhelmed and doesn't want me to have a breakdown (lol). He offered to take M out for a few hours, yay! He's taking her to see ILs and then will come back and take her to the playground or something. He told me to get some rest and he won't bother me, and also that he would talk to ILs about taking her overnight this weekend. So, that's good. Right now I'm sitting in the silence finishing up some coffee and then I'm going to crash. Thanks for everything!
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I'm sorry if my complaining is annoying, but I have no one else to talk to right now.
I am so burnt out and overwhelmed right now. My H is working ridiculous hours and I do almost all of the parenting during the week. It's fine, it's my job and I love spending time with my kid, but it's exhausting. I'm working about 45 hours a week right now, too. Also, one or all of us is sick all the time. It's like the sickness rotates - kid, me, H, kid, me, H. You get it. I haven't slept past 6:30 in 3 or 4 months. H usually gets up with her on Sunday mornings but I've been trying to let him sleep more since he works so much and his sleep schedule is all off. He was actually looking forward to getting up with her tomorrow and wanted to give me a break - he went upstairs an hour ago and started throwing up violently so I'll be on kid duty all day tomorrow as well.
Not to mention, we never get any time together. The last three times we have tried to schedule a date night, we've had to cancel for some reason (kid getting sick, things like that), and we desperately, desperately need the time together.
Ugh. I know this is all part of being a parent, and I know some people have it worse. I love my kid and I love being a mom, but that's like the only identity I have anymore. I don't even feel like a wife because I hardly ever spend time with my husband and when we are together, it's not always sunshiney since I have a lot of built up resentment.
Oh and that's another thing - she's a lot of fun right now and on the move and learning so much and doing so much. It's fun to watch but it's also like "omg, sit down and don't move for like 2 hours!". And I feel guilty for feeling that way.
Oh and that's another thing - she's a lot of fun right now and on the move and learning so much and doing so much. It's fun to watch but it's also like "omg, sit down and don't move for like 2 hours!". And I feel guilty for feeling that way.
We all have the days we regret them learning to be mobile or talk.
The only help we have here are my in-laws. My parents live 3 hours away. My ILs do love seeing her and will take her when we ask, but if she has been sick in the last 2 weeks, they won't. And I totally get that. It just sucks because she's been sick constantly for like 2 months. Lol. My sister lives here, but I don't trust her to watch M. M doesn't really know my SIL and she has never offered to watch her (we aren't close). Maybe I should invest in a babysitter once a month or something? Is she too young for that? Hopefully when all of this sickness clears, my ILs will want to watch her more.
Oh and that's another thing - she's a lot of fun right now and on the move and learning so much and doing so much. It's fun to watch but it's also like "omg, sit down and don't move for like 2 hours!". And I feel guilty for feeling that way.
Totally totally normal.
I'm sorry poppy. We all have stretches like this. It won't last forever I promise.
I wish I was close so I could watch M!
Hang in there. And get some vitamins into all of y'all stat.
Oh and that's another thing - she's a lot of fun right now and on the move and learning so much and doing so much. It's fun to watch but it's also like "omg, sit down and don't move for like 2 hours!". And I feel guilty for feeling that way.
There is ZERO shame in letting kids watch tv all day once in a while.
She is finally starting to get interested in tv, thank god. It only holds her attention for 15 or so minutes at a time, but hey, that's long enough to drink a cup of coffee. Lol.
The only help we have here are my in-laws. My parents live 3 hours away. My ILs do love seeing her and will take her when we ask, but if she has been sick in the last 2 weeks, they won't. And I totally get that. It just sucks because she's been sick constantly for like 2 months. Lol. My sister lives here, but I don't trust her to watch M. M doesn't really know my SIL and she has never offered to watch her (we aren't close). Maybe I should invest in a babysitter once a month or something? Is she too young for that? Hopefully when all of this sickness clears, my ILs will want to watch her more.
Yes. Find a babysitter.
And really? Your in laws won't watch her when she is sick? That's cray cray.
I'm sorry I hope your H feels better by tomorrow and you can still sleep in. Also, it is okay to have these feelings. Complain away, you deserve to be able to vent. Hugs.
H has two cousins that live close and they are really good with babies. One is 18 and one is 14, I think. Maybe I can give them a call. They are the ones who tend to all of the babies/kids at family get togethers.
Yeah, my ILs stay away when any of us has been sick. My FIL is on several medications and I think they're just paranoid.
H has two cousins that live close and they are really good with babies. One is 18 and one is 14, I think. Maybe I can give them a call. They are the ones who tend to all of the babies/kids at family get togethers.
Yeah, my ILs stay away when any of us has been sick. My FIL is on several medications and I think they're just paranoid.
Are you living inside my house?!?!? I am feeling like you- my husband just missed a week long vacation because of work Thankfully my family was with us, but I still felt like I was doing it by myself because I didn't want to wreck their vacation by making them do too much with the girls. They didn't see it that way though and were very involved and helpful :Y:
Everyone tells me it gets better, I trust them. Something has to give
We will get a sitter of some sort next weekend and go out. And I will sleep in and make sure I have some time to myself. It's going to happen. I'll make sure it happens.
She is really good at independent play sometimes and that's helpful. But she's teething and gets really clingy at night, like I can't put her down for 2 seconds without her screaming. Those are the times when I feel like I just need to get away. Thank god she sleeps great at night. I just wish she would sleep past 6:30. Can't have it all, I guess!
We gated off E's playroom, and it's the safest room in the house. We also have two play yards that we use to contain him when necessary. We set him up with a few fun toys, and leave him for a few minutes.
Would something like that work - To give yourself a break?
Post by ginandjucie24 on Jul 6, 2013 20:08:56 GMT -5
I am sorry poppy. . It sucks when you are so looking forward to that break and to some quiet me time and to not get it is devastating. I really hope your H feels better.
that's such crap. can you afford a babysitter for a night? or even a weekend afternoon? just 2-3 hours of you getting to be by yourself.
we don't have family nearby, and we've done this a few times when the other one was busy. it doesn't seem like much, but damn if that 2 hours i spent that one time going to freaking home depot and target ALONE didn't feel like bliss.
ETA: and i totally went to the target with the starbucks inside and bought a trashy magazine and read it while drinking an overpriced, sugary coffee beverage.