On the topic of asshole kids

[Deleted]

that kid is going to grow up to be a serial killer.

[lilybug]

That sounds exactly like the parents I was talking about in the other asshole kids thread. It's like they think NO is a bad word. I'm pretty sure they think that my level of discipline is borderline abusive, and I'm one of the laziest, most lenient parents ever.

[circa1978]

LOL at upset at the word no.

[Deleted]

Besides the obvious never tell a parent they're doing it wrong, You're not going to be able to change the way your friends parent but you can change the amount of time you spend with them. It sucks but that's the reality.

[isabel]

Jul 22, 2013 13:03:29 GMT -5 nuggetbrain said:

I feel SO BAD for his future teachers/bosses/co-workers. At the birthday party of another kid, he had a tantrum because he wanted some of the birthday cake (which hadn't been cut yet since the party just started) and his mom actually asked the birthday kid's mom if SHE COULD CUT HIM A PIECE OF THE BIRTHDAY CAKE EARLY. Like, before the birthday kid even got to blow out the candles.

WTeverlovingF.

What did the birthday kid's mom say!?

[mrsjuleshs]

When the kid ends up with no friends, none of the parents friends will take their calls, and the kid in the principals office every day maybe they will figure it out. They don't tell him no?! WTF!

[Deleted]

Jul 22, 2013 13:03:29 GMT -5 nuggetbrain said:

I feel SO BAD for his future teachers/bosses/co-workers. At the birthday party of another kid, he had a tantrum because he wanted some of the birthday cake (which hadn't been cut yet since the party just started) and his mom actually asked the birthday kid's mom if SHE COULD CUT HIM A PIECE OF THE BIRTHDAY CAKE EARLY. Like, before the birthday kid even got to blow out the candles.

WTeverlovingF.

 Please tell me birthday kid's mom laughed in her face!

[shostakovich]

Ugh. I really do not understand when No became a bad word for some parents. It's so frustrating to watch, because the parents are just allowing themselves to get railroaded constantly, and the kids totally run the show.

That birthday cake thing is seriously, seriously whacked out - like, what reality is this mother living in that she would even ask that question?

[luckyval]

I, uh, kind of laughed in my friend's face when she said she wasn't going to use the word No

[lime]

I would absolutely put distance between myself and these people.

Don't leave us hanging about the cake!!

[W.T.Faulkner]

My goooooodness.

While I believe that kids sometimes just have shitty personalities (because they're people), it sounds like those parents are certainly not helping matters.

[Deleted]

i used no so much it was L's 5th or 6th word. ha.

[vanillacourage]

Jul 22, 2013 13:03:29 GMT -5 nuggetbrain said:

I feel SO BAD for his future teachers/bosses/co-workers. At the birthday party of another kid, he had a tantrum because he wanted some of the birthday cake (which hadn't been cut yet since the party just started) and his mom actually asked the birthday kid's mom if SHE COULD CUT HIM A PIECE OF THE BIRTHDAY CAKE EARLY. Like, before the birthday kid even got to blow out the candles.

WTeverlovingF.

THIS IS MY FACE RIGHT NOW.

[kaybee85]

Jul 22, 2013 13:03:29 GMT -5 nuggetbrain said:

I feel SO BAD for his future teachers/bosses/co-workers. At the birthday party of another kid, he had a tantrum because he wanted some of the birthday cake (which hadn't been cut yet since the party just started) and his mom actually asked the birthday kid's mom if SHE COULD CUT HIM A PIECE OF THE BIRTHDAY CAKE EARLY. Like, before the birthday kid even got to blow out the candles.

WTeverlovingF.

Hopefully school will help a but. A lot of the brattiest kids I know got better with their peers wouldn't put up with the bull shit

[tulip]

Lol

At DDs last birthday party my friends H told me that his oldest son (10) doesn't like vanilla cake for our future parties. In front of everyone, while we are all eating the cake. My DD turned 3 and I bought the cake I knew she'd eat. Wtf?!?

Kid really is an asshole, has been asked to leave one school already.

[meganew]

Holy shit. I'm pretty hippy dippy when it comes to child rearing, and even I say "No! Absolutely not!" at least 400 times a day.

I actually feel bad for the asshole kid. His parents aren't parenting.

[meganew]

Jul 22, 2013 13:20:22 GMT -5 tulip said:

Lol

At DDs last birthday party my friends H told me that his oldest son (10) doesn't like vanilla cake for our future parties. In front of everyone, while we are all eating the cake. My DD turned 3 and I bought the cake I knew she'd eat. Wtf?!?

Kid really is an asshole, has been asked to leave one school already.

WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE??!

[snipsnsnails]

Jul 22, 2013 12:59:32 GMT -5 nuggetbrain said:

"Oh, we don't use the word no, he gets upset at that."

LOL!!!

[tulip]

Jul 22, 2013 13:22:23 GMT -5 meganew said:

Jul 22, 2013 13:20:22 GMT -5 tulip said:

Lol

At DDs last birthday party my friends H told me that his oldest son (10) doesn't like vanilla cake for our future parties. In front of everyone, while we are all eating the cake. My DD turned 3 and I bought the cake I knew she'd eat. Wtf?!?

Kid really is an asshole, has been asked to leave one school already.

WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE??!

LOTS. My H was pissed and almost told him not to worry, your oldest will not be invited to future parties. I am not buying 2 cakes or whatever so your kid is happy. World doesn't work that way.

[luckyval]

Jul 22, 2013 13:28:10 GMT -5 Que? said:

Jul 22, 2013 13:09:49 GMT -5 luckyval said:

I, uh, kind of laughed in my friend's face when she said she wasn't going to use the word No

I actually thought I would parent this way, and then I had a kid and realized that I'm super controlling, lol. I laugh in the face of my formal self.

 I want to double like this :Y:

I was the same way, but I'm finding I'm more old school than I thought. I also have less patience than I thought

[lilybug]

Jul 22, 2013 13:33:53 GMT -5 luckyval said:

Jul 22, 2013 13:28:10 GMT -5 Que? said:

I actually thought I would parent this way, and then I had a kid and realized that I'm super controlling, lol. I laugh in the face of my formal self.

 I want to double like this

I was the same way, but I'm finding I'm more old school than I thought. I also have less patience than I thought

Tritto. I tried going down that road when DS1 hit the toddler phase, but I quickly learned that NO and timeouts are my friend.

[Deleted]

LO-fucking-L at not using "no."

Good luck with that, future parents of serial killers (said somewhat TIC).

I cannot even imagine the whole birthday cake debacle, especially birthday kid's mom. I think my head would have detached from my body if that had been me. Are you KIDDING me? So your kid is a total brat and I'm supposed to cater to your widdle precious above my kid - you know, the one whose birthday we're CELEBRATING?

[thebuddhagouda]

My husband's cousin is like this with her kid. It makes all family gtgs miserable. He's also really really rough with the younger kids, and godhelpme the first time he hurts my kid because he's being an asshole and his parents won't actually follow through with anything they threaten. It's not going to be pretty.

[Deleted]

Jul 22, 2013 13:20:22 GMT -5 tulip said:

Lol

At DDs last birthday party my friends H told me that his oldest son (10) doesn't like vanilla cake for our future parties. In front of everyone, while we are all eating the cake. My DD turned 3 and I bought the cake I knew she'd eat. Wtf?!?

Kid really is an asshole, has been asked to leave one school already.

my friend was dating a total dick right around the time i got married, and he was supposed to be her date to our wedding (he ended up no showing, much to her distress and my joy).  we were all in school together and her overheard me mention that our cake was going to be chocolate, with nutella ganache between the layers and hazelnut buttercream icing.  he said "are you going to have anything else?  i don't like chocolate."  the look i gave him should've killed him right there.  i said "no.  it's our wedding, so we picked a cake we would enjoy."

i predict that the 10 year old is going to BE that guy in about 15-20 years.

[awick14]

Jul 22, 2013 13:40:31 GMT -5 cville said:

Jul 22, 2013 13:20:22 GMT -5 tulip said:

Lol

At DDs last birthday party my friends H told me that his oldest son (10) doesn't like vanilla cake for our future parties. In front of everyone, while we are all eating the cake. My DD turned 3 and I bought the cake I knew she'd eat. Wtf?!?

Kid really is an asshole, has been asked to leave one school already.

my friend was dating a total dick right around the time i got married, and he was supposed to be her date to our wedding (he ended up no showing, much to her distress and my joy).  we were all in school together and her overheard me mention that our cake was going to be chocolate, with nutella ganache between the layers and hazelnut buttercream icing.  he said "are you going to have anything else?  i don't like chocolate."  the look i gave him should've killed him right there.  i said "no.  it's our wedding, so we picked a cake we would enjoy."

i predict that the 10 year old is going to BE that guy in about 15-20 years.

Wtf, I don't like chocolate cake and I just don't have cake at weddings/birthdays that have chocolate cake.

I was told at my wedding that someone was "upset" because we didn't have chocolate cake at our wedding.

My MIL doesn't say no to my SILs kids. They are spoiled brats and now my SIL is having trouble because she never stopped MIL when they kids were young and now they scream if SIL doesn't give them what they want, they also threaten to go live with baba (MIL). :/

[Alyssa]

We have friends like this too, they have no concept of how to discipline.  They have a 3.5 year old son and a 21 month old daughter.

The son is very sensitive and needs constant pats on the back but for the most part he's okay.  The daughter is a little terror and into EVERYTHING. 

Honestly I don't want them over at our house anymore because it's exhausting for me to be the disciplinarian.  While the mother barely pays attention and thumbs through a magazine; the daughter is trying to write on my walls with a crayon in one hand and a colored pencil in the other.  She's also climbing up on my dining room table, trying to break the computer by picking up the mouse and slamming it into the keyboard.  She's climbing up on my entertainment center, breaking toys, chewing the rubber handle off my daughter's play trampoline, chewing the buttons off of the remote control, playing in the toilet and spilling milk on my new sofa (which mom simply smears it off with her hand).  All of that happened in a matter of about 2 hours.

My friend says she feels that if she says "no" to her daughter, it's giving her the attention that she's craving.  So her idea is you simply come over and pick her up and plop her in another area of the room then that will solve the problem.  Only thing is, the child has no boundaries set up, she thinks it's okay to climb on other people's furniture and break other kids toys...most of the time mom can't even be bothered so I'm the one running around and pulling her away from the TV.

Some people just aren't good parents.

[WOT?*]

I'm wondering how my friend's kids grew up. I assume after the divorce dad took them in hand. (We lost touch many years ago. She developed a drinking problem and kind of faded from my life. Then we moved across the country...) I remember a number of occasions where I wanted to knock her little brat of a son across the head (well, wanted is different from actually doing it, right?) to knock some sense and etiquette into it. The kid behaved very well for me but for mom, it was a lost cause.

I remember him punching, yes punching, his little sister in the stomach. His mom put him in time-out and he got up and walked away. She did nothing.

Another time I was driving us to do some shopping, which he loved to do. I had a 65 Mustang and he would climb from the back seat over the console to the front to sit on his mom's lap. After about the third time of him doing that after she put him in back (this was way back in the day) and he climbed back up front, I pulled the car over, looked at him and in my best Mom voice said "You sit down in that seat and buckle up right now and if you get up again I am turning this car around and we are going home. I will not take you shopping or anywhere else unless you are on your best behavior. Now.sit.down.and.buckle." He didn't move and was an angel in the store. She asked me how I got my kids to behave so well (I had four and they were always within a couple clothing racks, within sightline and hearing distance, got out and touched the car until I said it was okay to go...)

It's because they learned the word No at a young age.

I am trying to break Kiddo and Kidlet of some of their behavior issues. Kiddo has developed a tantrum problem. At ten years old it's not okay to break into screaming tantrums if you don't get your way. She almost lost one pony camp last week because of her behavior, she did lose the August YMCA pony camp because of the tantrums and this morning she was quick to button the screaming (we were in a restaurant having breakfast) when I gave her the stink-eye and told her she just lost out on her trip to the children's museum. She can vent and she's allowed her feelings but she can NOT throw a tantrum when she doesn't get her way. I don't roll that way.

[Stingyshark]

My niece acts very similarly, she is 5, and a total terror. Her Mom tells her to stop 5,000,000 times and then just gives up. I hate going anywhere that they will be, and I feel terrible about that, but she is just bad.

I was not there for this, but another sister told me this craziness: Several sisters, and my parents were out to lunch after church. My niece M got mad about something, crawled under the table and proceeded to pitch a fit. Her Mom just sat there. My step-dad dragged her ass out from underneath the table and took her outside.

My step-dad is the calmest,most non-yelling man I have ever met in my life - it makes me laugh so hard thinking of him snatching M out from underneath the table.

It will be a cold day in hell before my kid acts like that and someone else has to intervene.

[Deleted]

These stories are horrifying! I would die of shame if my kid ever acted like that while we were out. He hears no and hears it often. And he is very well behaved when we are out. The one time he started to act up when we were out I shut tha shit right down and left the grocery store. When we didn't have any yogurt for his snack later I reminded him of leaving the store because of his behavior and we haven't had a repeat of that.

[Deleted]

I feel like there are many days where the only word I say is no.