My son is 6wks old - and well over 10lbs. People in the grocery store still say "OMG, he's so itty-bitty! Look how tiny he is!" I think it's just a standard comment for babies that are like under 3m old.
This. I'm always in awe of how tiny newborn babies are and I had two myself. I don't usually comment on other babies but in my head I'm thinking, "Look at that tiny baby! Squeeeeee!", and it has nothing to do with how that baby really measures up. I have no idea where they fall on the spectrum.
DS was born 14" long and 2 pounds 4.5 ounces at birth. He's still very small for his age and I get comments all the time from strangers. I feel like I have to tell them he was a preemie or else they'll think I'm starving him! Trust me, my kid eats like 6-8 meals a day! No starvation here!
Just smile and nod at the comments and remind yourself that they all catch up eventually!
These comments bother me too. We've been having such a hard time feeding dd so when I hear 'Is she a preemie?' or 'hey little peanut', I feel like they're somehow judging or criticizing my ability or inability to feed her. I know it's irrational and I'm a bit sensitive about it all but it's like my fears and worries are being vocalized when I hear those comments.
DD was and still is a bigger baby. She was over 8 lbs when born at 38 weeks. So I may comment at times how tiny babies are. I have also noticed babies now just look tiny to me since DD is bigger.
People often can't think anything else to say. My kids were fat babies, and we heard about it. Now DS is a small kid, and we hear about it.
Yup, this was my experience as well. People would tell me all the time how little DD was. She's never been below 95th percentile for any measurements! I think the general public just loses perspective. Even now I think newborns look soooo tiny, but only because I'm so used to seeing a "baby" that is 19lbs.
People comment on DD all the time but it really doesn't bother me. I don't think they are being critical. My DD is 2% for weight. She IS tiny. She is also very active, very social, and always walking/running. It does catch peoples eye because she is closer to the size of a 9 month old so she appears to be very advanced even though she's pretty typical for her age. I normally just say something like, "yes, she is," and move on. Most people making comments are also smiling and waving at her and being friendly. It is hard to get too worked up over people who are just trying to be friendly to my child.
Post by strawberriquen on Aug 14, 2013 17:31:59 GMT -5
I get comments about Ben all the time. He's at 100% for height and 90% for weight. It's annoying, but I've learned to ignore and move on quickly.
When I was at Target yesterday a 2 year old pointed to him and said, "baby." The mom corrected him and said "That's a little boy, not a baby." I just glared, rolled my eyes and quickly pushed my cart away. People are always going to talk and be rude....sigh.
I get the opposite. Cassidy is over 19lbs at 4 months. Complete strangers have told me that we must be over feeding her. I just say, "No, we're not. She's just thriving." Then I give them a smile that clearly conveys I think they're an idiot and move on. I think people talk just talk when it comes to babies.
Post by imojoebunny on Aug 14, 2013 18:02:25 GMT -5
If you laid her next to my DD, she would have been a giant. She was 5 pounds 6 oz at birth, 16 pounds 8 oz at one year, and 20 pounds at two. She is still tiny at 7 years, 4% for weight and 6th for height. I am 5'9". Everyone thinks she is 5. I have learned to be up front about her age to prevent the comments that she might take personally. All little babies look small, even to people who had petite ones. Don't take it personally. The only reason I tell people her age is to prevent them from treating her like she is younger than she is. She can do things 7 year olds can do. I don't want her treated like a 5 year old because she is their size.