No dammit! I have hope still. Don't dash my hope, hoobs!!
I like AppleBear (even though I'm fairly new and don't know the whole story) but its probably true. She pops in, throws out a martyr comment and then pops out and won't try to change anything.
I feel badly for her, but girl has to help herself someday.
Something that has stuck with me about AB, she mentioned once that she did work in her field of study (I think it was psychology related) but didn't like the work and just stopped working and became a sahw. I don't know, it was more of a give up attitude that left a bad taste in my mouth.
If you don't like your current job, that's fine, but rather than look for something more to her liking it seemed like her answer was just walk away. Maybe I am remembering it wrong, it is completely possible and if I am, I am sorry, AB.
I guess my long winded point is, I am not sure how much of a fighter she is when it comes to getting what she wants. I wish that she would, but I just don't think it will happen.
And to be perfectly honest, I don't think she's all that unhappy. It's attention whorey, the way she throws out these posts about how awful her H is and how she gives up so much of herself for the children and don't forget the occasional "look at how much money I am spending on X" post.
She wants the attention, she gets it, end of story, etc.
Post by eightangryreindeer on Jun 20, 2012 16:07:53 GMT -5
I just lost it in the bathroom because I saw the earrings I was supposed to be wearing now, I might not be able to have company on Friday, either, and I'm dying of the blood poison, I know it.
I just lost it in the bathroom because I saw the earrings I was supposed to be wearing now, I might not be able to have company on Friday, either, and I'm dying of the blood poison, I know it.
But have you used it as an excuse to break up with someone? I did I thought it sounded nicer than "I am finding you annoying and we are teenagers what were we going to get married?!"
I've never been nice enough to provide an excuse.
"I'm constantly worried that you're going to be mad at me and I can't handle feeling like that. Deuces."
"You've been an unforgivable, horribly controlling douchebag of late and I'm pretty sure I can't deal with you now that I know this exists in your personality."
"You never help out, you blame me for everything and expect me to be responsible for everything even though you can't follow through. Also, I'm not in love with you anymore and I don't want to be married to you any longer."
Habs, i hope you dont mind me asking... are you on your second marriage? how did the other(s) end?
I just lost it in the bathroom because I saw the earrings I was supposed to be wearing now, I might not be able to have company on Friday, either, and I'm dying of the blood poison, I know it.
hang in there, man. hopefully this will be over with soon and it will be a distant memory.
Something about Russell Brand always make me wonder if he has a big wang. Maybe it's his confidence level.
Since we are still going here, I harbor a fear that my son will be bullied in kindergarten. He is a sensitive little dude. DH and I fluctuate between guiding him to be more assertive, just observing and letting him figure it out, praising him for the cool kid he is and -- flamefully --- sometimes being angry about how he reacts to stuff. I feel all over the place. All in all, this shit is so hard.
Habs, i hope you dont mind me asking... are you on your second marriage? how did the other(s) end?
Yes, I was married when I was 22 and officially hit three years before the divorce was granted though almost half of that time was spent waiting for him to finalize the divorce. He waited out of spite, btw.
I was young and idealistic and mistakenly believed he was the person he claimed to be. But as I indicated before, he had a habit of making things look good while actually being of no real use. He wanted everything to look perfect from the outside looking in but he wanted me to be responsible for making that happen. I decided if I was going to do everything anyway, I may as well do it on my own.
I remarried not long after and have been with my husband now for five years.
And to be perfectly honest, I don't think she's all that unhappy. It's attention whorey, the way she throws out these posts about how awful her H is and how she gives up so much of herself for the children and don't forget the occasional "look at how much money I am spending on X" post.
She wants the attention, she gets it, end of story, etc.
All'a this. right here. She loves the old 'woe is me' stance.
My flameful: I've been with my SO for 7 years and it's been a constant of ebb and flow. The highs are high but the lows can also be low (long periods of no sex, days without seeing eachother or little communication) and i am personally JUST FINE with the status quo. Neither one of us are overly passionate people, by nature, so I don't expect it to be much more than it is. Having said that, once we do decide to get married, we most likely will because 'it's the natural progression of the relationship'. However, I also wouldn't mind just being together like this forever-without the legal contract. But we will most likely get married because it is what we feel is expected of us and coupled with a side of 'meh, why not?'