Suggestions

[orly]

We are 3/4 way though DH being away. It seems so close but yet so far at the same time. But the huge thing is the end date may extend depending on a job transfer so that makes it worse.

I currently have school going on, but due to surgery kind of stuck on the couch so I really can not get out, so my brains starts go crazy and I come back to my DH and it kind of sucks.

I think I am at the point in this that I just want to scream!

We have been through being away from each other but not with kiddos and me basically helpless at the moment (which sucks btw), and you ladies have experince with this and was hopeing for some suggestions, or anything that may help. TIA

[amaristella]

Is there anybody who can come over and just hang out with you for a little while every couple days? Maybe just having an adult around to chat with will help put your mind back on its normal track.

[nsl]

Jun 20, 2012 0:23:51 GMT -5 amaristella said:

Is there anybody who can come over and just hang out with you for a little while every couple days? Maybe just having an adult around to chat with will help put your mind back on its normal track.

Yes, this.

If it helps at all, we were in extension limbo for a long time too, and the only thing I found that helped was to not think about it at all. Distraction is the name of the game at this point.

[ilovelamp]

When I couldn't go anywhere because I had a broken leg and DH was gone, I bought a shit ton of books and read. It kept me busy and entertained. It also kept me from watching too much TV and turning my brain to mush.

[NomadicMama]

How old are your kids? Is hourly child care on post/base an option? That has been my sanity saver since DH deployed (last week!). What about hiring a mother's helper--a neighborhood tween, for less money than an older actual babysitter, to come play with and entertain the kids?

Have you been in touch with your FRG contact? Might there be people able and willing to come keep you company? Can you afford to fly a friend or family member in to visit for a week? (That would be less expensive for you than multiple plane tickets to go to see them.)

I'm sorry you are stuck on the couch. I hope your DH is home SOON!

[orly]

Thanks ladies for the suggestions. I have a friend here that is helping take care of the boys. I have a 5 year old and a 2.5 year old and the youngest goes to daycare during the day. So that helps.

It just kind of sucks that I am stuck on the couch all day you know. It makes your mind wonder.

[audette]

Do you have any hobbies you can work on while you are recovering? I'm an avid knitter, and know I'd go batty without my knitting...

(seriously, I keep a project in my purse, just in case I end up having to wait someone... I knitted in the ER, waiting on the docs to figure out that I was having a gall bladder attack... the little oxygen sensor on my finger did make it a bit awkward, I'll admit)

[audette]

Oh, and I found that when DH was deployed, it often helped when I worked on projects for him. Even if _I_ couldn't be with him, I could still knit him a pair of socks that he could be wearing a week or so after I mailed them off to him...

[brandienee]

Jun 20, 2012 11:38:13 GMT -5 audette said:

Do you have any hobbies you can work on while you are recovering? I'm an avid knitter, and know I'd go batty without my knitting...

(seriously, I keep a project in my purse, just in case I end up having to wait someone... I knitted in the ER, waiting on the docs to figure out that I was having a gall bladder attack... the little oxygen sensor on my finger did make it a bit awkward, I'll admit)

I did the same thing when I went in for Kidney stones... But I had to frog back everything I knitted in there because I didnt have the pattern memorized and I was so out of it on pain meds. Lol.

[brandienee]

OP it will really help if you have some hobby. I read and knit. I can get lost in both and do them all day. It sucks to be stuck at home, but hobbies will help keep your mind busy. I am sorry you have to deal with all that.