Is there a flameful yet?

[bania]

Sept 16, 2013 14:45:04 GMT -5 HRH Queen Dick I said:

Are you still mourning your miscarriage? Is that making you go BSC? Because I get that. Get some help, though.

. I'm really sorry for your loss, Vaba.

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Sept 16, 2013 14:53:06 GMT -5 TrickyBob said:

How do you feel about your husband?

I love him more than the day I married him. I'm still attracted to him physically.

[TrickyBob]

Well, then I would cut off all contact with co-worker, except for at work. If you really love your husband still, there is no reason to be tap dancing on your neighbors grass. Because your grass is just as green and fine.

ETA: I'm not saying "go for it!" if you didn't like your husband, but it would help explain why you might be doing this. And I'd urge you to stop until you settle things with your husband, be them good or bad. 

[elleblue]

Sept 16, 2013 14:52:00 GMT -5 @vaba said:

Sept 16, 2013 14:45:04 GMT -5 HRH Queen Dick I said:

Are you still mourning your miscarriage? Is that making you go BSC? Because I get that. Get some help, though.

I honestly don't know. I have never given this coworker a second thought, but all of a sudden I'm even more drawn to him than I've ever been.

I'm so so sorry for your loss. I do think this might have something to do with your "all of a sudden" feelings. I know counseling is the go to suggestion but I think having someone to talk to would be good for you.

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Sept 16, 2013 14:59:43 GMT -5 @vaba said:

Sept 16, 2013 14:53:06 GMT -5 TrickyBob said:

How do you feel about your husband?

I love him more than the day I married him. I'm still attracted to him physically.

First I am very sorry for your loss Vaba

and secondly, if you love your hubby then stop this with co worker now. 

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Sept 16, 2013 14:56:12 GMT -5 iamgrace said:

Please tell us what you were talking about. Thanks.

Honestly, the conversation just flowed and I can't remember everything we talked about. Mostly it was just random things in a get to know you sense.

[wkatie]

Sept 16, 2013 15:04:27 GMT -5 @vaba said:

Sept 16, 2013 14:56:12 GMT -5 iamgrace said:

Please tell us what you were talking about. Thanks.

Honestly, the conversation just flowed and I can't remember everything we talked about. Mostly it was just random things in a get to know you sense.

You didn't go back and re-read everything this morning?  Maybe you're not that into him.

Ok, I'm kind of being an asshole.  But I'm sure you know better than to engage in risky behavior. If that's what you are doing, then you should stop. (DUH).

[Kore]

I send hundreds of texts everyday, and I've had crushes since getting married (as has my H). I get it. The attention is nice.

But lines are blurred & crossed way too quickly if you engage. Unless you're open to drama & hurting your H, you know you need to stop.

Being married doesn't mean we'll never be crazy attracted to anyone else. But being a responsible adult means we choose not to indulge fantasies with other dudes (unless you & your H are cool with it).

[jane6672]

Sept 16, 2013 15:01:17 GMT -5 TrickyBob said:

Well, then I would cut off all contact with co-worker, except for at work. If you really love your husband still, there is no reason to be tap dancing on your neighbors grass. Because your grass is just as green and fine.

ETA: I'm not saying "go for it!" if you didn't like your husband, but it would help explain why you might be doing this. And I'd urge you to stop until you settle things with your husband, be them good or bad. 

"Tap dancing on your neighbors grass" ?

Is that really a saying?

[Bree Van de Kamp]

The bright side of this mistake is that it hasn't gone too far and you can still just walk away. Don't let that opportunity slip from your fingers, because once its done, its fucking done.

[speckledfrog]

You are young. You're relationship is in a rough patch. You just had some trauma. You know you are being foolish and you should stop. So stop.

[TrickyBob]

Sept 16, 2013 15:21:18 GMT -5 jane6672 said:

Sept 16, 2013 15:01:17 GMT -5 TrickyBob said:

Well, then I would cut off all contact with co-worker, except for at work. If you really love your husband still, there is no reason to be tap dancing on your neighbors grass. Because your grass is just as green and fine.

ETA: I'm not saying "go for it!" if you didn't like your husband, but it would help explain why you might be doing this. And I'd urge you to stop until you settle things with your husband, be them good or bad. 

"Tap dancing on your neighbors grass" ?

Is that really a saying?

Lol, no, that is not really a saying. I was on hold with a customer service rep and typed the first thing that popped into my head to finish that sentence. 

[speckledfrog]

Unless you want out. In which case you should get to a therapist and figure out what you need right now.

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Trust me on this, STOP and walk away. If your h finds out things will not end well.