Post by sugarbear on Sept 26, 2013 12:20:02 GMT -5
Our work baby showers have always been casual. For my shower, a co-worker brought her baby. Because of that, it didn't occur to me that I shouldn't bring my 6 month old to a shower this weekend.
So I told DH to take DS1 to do something special for a couple hours. DS2 will more than likely fall asleep on our way to the shower, and sleep for at least an hour while we're there. He's not mobile, he rarely cries, he's very sociable, and he's perfectly content to sit in my lap for an hour or two.
Now I'm thinking, though, that this is a breach of etiquette. It's too late, because DS1 already knows about their fun plans, but still... I'm second-guessing myself.
So, on a scale of 1-10, one being "you're so rude you should never leave the house again," and 10 being, "you're cool, I'd do the same thing," how bad is it that I'm bringing the baby?
Update: I spoke to the host again and apologized for putting her on the spot before. I explained my reasoning but told her that I could definitely figure out a way to leave him at home. She said no, it was fine, she was just worried that it's going to be rainy and we'll all be inside. I assured her that he's not mobile and rarely fusses, so I think we're all ok now.
Post by pixelpassion on Sept 26, 2013 12:23:32 GMT -5
It's not like you're bringing your baby to a coworker happy hour, it's a baby shower. I think it would be a minor thing, if it was even considered rude at all in the first place.
I'd say maybe a 4? It's not "so" rude, BUT "just because one person did it" isn't a good reason to do something yourself.... KWIM?
My take - NEWBORNS get a pass. Between the baby's needs (nursing, perhaps) and the mom's comfort in leaving her really young child, I never side-eye a newborn. But 6 months is starting to get to that age where the baby can be a distraction. Many people don't care and will coo over your baby, but still... babies are unpredictable, can get into stuff, etc etc etc.
um, you know that this question is more appropriately posed to the host, right? it doesn't really matter what the concesus is HERE.
but since you asked, in my circle, non-mobile babies are generally welcome.
I did ask the host, and she seemed not terribly excited about the prospect, which is why I'm asking now. She did say, yes, it's fine, but rather unenthusiastically.
See, this is why this is a "know your circle" type of thing. I know for many people, this is the case. But every baby shower I've been to, they have been adult only events.
Post by walterismydog on Sept 26, 2013 12:31:43 GMT -5
I think you need to ask yourself how uptight this person is. In my circle, people would be thrilled to be able to play with/hold a little baby. In other circles it could be a total nightmare.
I think you're good with a non-mobile baby. someone brought their very active toddler to the last one I hosted. never occurred to her that maybe not everyone would be happy for the distraction.
I think you're good with a non-mobile baby. someone brought their very active toddler to the last one I hosted. never occurred to her that maybe not everyone would be happy for the distraction.
I went to a shower once where a kid was in attendance and freaking stole the show. Opened all the presents for the new mom to be, acted like the birthday girl, and was generally fresh and loud. I was so sad for the new mom. Its like the last event in your life where it gets to be all about you, lol.
Non mobile babies don't bother me any but its up to the host of course
Post by hopecounts on Sept 26, 2013 12:45:20 GMT -5
where I'm from babies are generally welcome at baby showers. but given that the host isn't very happy I'd try to fifure out an alternative if possible.
I wouldn't think twice about a non mobile baby at a baby shower.
Non-mobile babies can be screamers. My two year old is a handful, but can be fun and charming. She understands, and sometimes follows, directions to sit quietly. Under 6 months? You never knew when misery would erupt.
Post by gustafngrete on Sept 26, 2013 12:57:03 GMT -5
I don't think it's rude. At all. There were several young babies at my showers, and I didn't bat an eyelash. My theory is that "babes in arms" are welcome at most gatherings as long as they are not disruptive. If your baby fusses, then leave early.
It didn't bother me at my shower, the moms wouldn't have been able to come otherwise - one husband out of town for work, one was breastfeeding and one husband was going to watch the kid but something important came up. The third friend apologized but I really didn't mind. They're all sweet kids who gave us a few good laughs.
I think squishy's are fine at showers, especially little nuggets who are still breastfeeding. I brought my daughter to one when she was 7 weeks old simply because whe was completely dependent on me and wasn't on a bottle at the time. The location was 1 hour away so it wasn't something where I could feed her, leave and return within a couple hours for the next feeding.
Where the etiquette line gets fuzzy is if you're bringing a toddler who's gong to cause a scene because their nap time has been put off. Then the child needs to stay home.
Post by browneyedgirl9 on Sept 26, 2013 14:42:12 GMT -5
I wouldn't think twice about seeing a baby at a baby shower, expecially if the baby is not mobile. I would be happy to see my friends bring their babies to my shower in a few months. I can see if it was an older child who was running crazy, or trying to touch all the gifts or open them.