With our first, he came with me to every appointment. With our second and third, he came to all ultrasound appointments, and towards the end all of the stress tests appointments too.
Just the 20 week US. I don't really see the point for most of them, they are boring. With the last pregnancy he went to the first, USs, and one or two at the end.
Almost all of my OB appointments, and still does even though I've told him he can stay home because they're quick and boring now. He came to our first two ultrasounds, also, but he doesn't get much PTO so he hasn't been able to keep coming.
So far he's just gone to the ones with ultrasounds, and that will probably be the case unless I develop complications or something. The monthly ones so far have been 5 minutes and the only exciting thing is listening to the heartbeat, but we have a Doppler at home that we use sometimes.
The first one when it was confirmed. The one where we got to hear the heartbeat and the 20 week a/s.
Oh, with DS he went to like a 36 week one or something when I was having regular contractions and we and the triage nurse didn't know what to expect that day.
Post by Stingyshark on Oct 9, 2013 14:32:45 GMT -5
He goes to all of them; we have to go somewhere separate for ultrasounds, and he goes to those as well. I don't MAKE him go, he wants to go. Maybe he'll be less enthusiastic about a 2nd child, but he's pretty excited, and likes going to the appointments.
As for work, he makes up the time missed by working later, or going in early. He doesn't have a desk job, travels around the state for work, so he makes up his own hours.
glassofsyrah whenever I quickly pass your sig pic, because of the folds in your (adorable!) baby's shirt, it always looks like there's a cigarette in between those little fingers. And it makes the photo even more hilarious.
So funny. Don't worry, I won't let her smoke until she's 5.
So far, all of them. But we are going to hit a wall soon because if he hits 9 sick days in a 14 month period HR will ask him to account for his sick days - and as far as we know, he probably shouldn't be taking sick days for my appointments. BUT we are going to be asking my new OB if she feels like he SHOULD be there, in which case the doc would write him a note if he were asked for one.
Post by underwaterrhymes on Oct 9, 2013 19:22:58 GMT -5
He went to all of them except 2 or 3, I think.
I got ultrasounds in the early appointments, and in the latter ones when I was going all of the freaking time I couldn't drive because of my fractured ribs.
My first pregnancy he went to my 8w u/s, the a/s, and a few important appointments regarding me being high risk. My current pregnancy he has not been to any, not even the a/s, mostly because if he can get off then it's easier if he watches our DS rather than go with me. Most appointments are really boring and quick so I see no point in him coming unless it's a big important appointment.
The first u/s, then the anatomy scan, and maybe one of the u/s they did at the end. I had them weekly when my amniotic fluid levels were measuring high. He also went with me to my PP checkup.
I may be a grouchy Glinda but some had their H go to every appointment? Did he leave work for some of the really boring routine appointments? Waste of time imo. So far my H has only gone to the Maternal Fetal Medicine consult which included the big ultrasound that determined sex of the baby.
DH works shifts, so we'd book appointments around his work day since my schedule is flexible and I'd just count it as my lunch that day. He wanted to come to as many as he could, and he has been the same for DS's appointments since.
I think the main reason I appreciated his interest was that we were with a team of 4 midwives, one of whom was guaranteed to be the main/only practitioner with us through all of the labour and birth. They rotated who you saw each appointment until we both had a relationship with all of them. Also, the MWs were never more than 5 or 10 mins late for appointments, and each appointment was about 45 minutes long, so I really enjoyed all of them.
ETA - He also came with to the appointments re: our previous 2 m/cs, D&C, and then my NSTs and fluid level ultrasounds when I was 40+ weeks.
You had multiple meetings with your MW that went 45 minutes long? I guess I could see long discussions about the actual birth process near the end of 40 weeks... but 45 minute discussions really what did you talk about?
with N: the first one, the 20 wk ultrasound, and maybe one towards the end when they were talking induction. with E: the 20 wk ultrasound, and he met me at the hospital when they did the pitocin challenge after a sucktastic NST in the office, so I guess that counts as the 2nd half of the "appointment."
The first appointment, my 2 regular u/s, all of the genetic counseling stuff (Ollie had an increased NT level) and all the fetal cardiologist u/s (Ollie also had a hole in his heart that magically closed at 37 weeks). Kid was a lot of work.
:Y: I'm really surprised by these answers. DH came to my first appt/US and the anatomy scan with DD 1. He came to my first appt/us with this pregnancy and that'll probably be it unless I have some kind of complications. I don't even want to go to most of my appointments! Why would I drag him and how can all these husbands get off work for this?