Poll: How many people came to your wedding?

[dulcemariamar]

And did you enjoy the size of the wedding?

I had about 70. I could have gone without a few crazy people but my MIL invited some people without me knowing.

I thought it was a good size. Enough people to have a "party" but it didnt feel crowded.

[dorothyinAus]

There were 25 people at my wedding. It was a family reunion/80th birthday for my Grandfather first and we just took it over. My friend from college and her husband were the only non-family at the party.

It was perfect for us. We saw everyone and talked to everyone and everyone I wanted there was there.

[anna7602]

199. I clearly remember because the limit of the outdoor terrace where we had the ceremony itself was 200 and I was stressing until the last minute about whether we would all fit.

This was way too many, IMO. I didn't feel like I got quality time with any of my friends because of my older family members who required a lot of attention. But, I am related to a lot of people and it was really hard to cut the guest list down. This was one of those battles I chose not to fight with my parents.

ETA: I feel compelled to add that my parents paid for every single one of their guests (not just the far-flung family members, but family I would have wanted there anyway) and also paid for an upgrade to top-shelf liquor. I only paid for our friend guests, so again, I chose not to fight this battle with my parents.

The rehearsal dinner, which really was limited to out-of-town family and the bridal party, was 60 people.

[doctoranda]

We had 55 guests. We only had family and close friends (no aunts/uncles/cousins x-removed we never see, or coworkers etc). However, one of my uncles invited his brothers (who we see quite regularly at other family gatherings) and to not make it awkward we just let that slide. It felt very intimate! Since we paid for everything ourselves there were very few hassles over the guest list. We really enjoyed our wedding.

[clogged]

90, plus vendors and us. So about 100 bodies in total.

I wish we went bigger because there were a few we wanted to invite but couldn't. We had space, not cash for them.

My MIL also started inviting people like crazy (customary here, she isn't rude). We told her the price for a slice of cake & cup of coffee and suggested she start uninviting or cutting a check. She got all univited but one. There is a random non-invited guest in our wedding pics.

[grosnl19]

26 attended. We had it in the Dominican Republic so everyone traveled for it from the Midwest. I think it was a perfect size and wouldn't have done anything differently.

[Waffles]

8 - we had it in Jamaica and everyone came from the UK & Belgium. It was great, we spent a week together before the wedding & had a great time. We were both thrilled to have given up on the 80+ guests wedding we had intially planned to have.

[potatopie]

70 at our wedding in Italy with DH's fam and friends and about 100 at the wedding in the US with my fam and friends.

I felt like both were a whirlwind and couldn't talk to everyone there. I don't think I even said "hi" to some of my parents' friends, which I feel kind of bad about. But whaddya gonna do, right?

[popcorn]

150--only about 25 were my side! We paid for the wedding with money given to us the day of as gifts from guests. And we had money leftover. Love this Spanish tradition!

I could've gone for a slightly smaller wedding, but in the end we had an amazing time and that's what really matters.

[blushing]

82. It was the perfect number for us and split about 50/50. There was no one at the wedding that didn't know someone else, except maybe my fathers wife, but she is a bitch so it didn't matter. Everyone got a long very well and we chatted to every guest at the wedding.

[irish]

I think it was 109 in total. Almost all that we invited came and those who couldn't had valid reasons... (an aunt of dh died 2 weeks before our wedding, but her H came to the wedding anyway). It was a good number for us - family, aunts/uncles, no cousins, no work colleagues, no random friends of parents... some of my work colleagues were invited to the reception after the dinner (common here in Ireland and referred to as The Afters)

[bugabean]

8 (including us and staff) at the Danish wedding
35-40 at the Stateside wedding

There should have been 10 at the Danish wedding, and then it would have been perfect, but my parents didn't come. Their loss.
I don't have a problem with the number of people who came to the Stateside wedding, but I'd rather it have been 35-40 people that I give a crap about instead of a bunch of my parents' friends. But then there is little I wouldn't change about that day.

[crimsonandclover]

About 80 in Germany and 100 in the US. I thought both were a nice size, although it was unfortunate that we didn't have time to talk to everyone.

[ninjatofu]

I think we had a little over 170.

[fernane]

I never knew an exact number but somewhere around 100 give or take a few. It was a perfect size for us.

[cupcakes]

We had 101 for the wedding in the US, not sure how many in the UK.
I would have had more in the US, there were friends of mine I cut out, plus friends of the family my mom convinced me not to invite because the wife, her friend died a few years before and my mom didn't know the new wife. My mom was over all insane during the wedding process. I would have not done the UK party again.

[travelingturtle]

We had 90 RSVPs and 3 no-shows.

I thought it was a good number.

[Deleted]

We had 6 guests at our destination wedding. We're inviting 70 at our vow renewal in Rome.

eta - That was a perfect number for us. We aimed for an intimate celebration and ended up with a super intimate one. Many watched our ceremony live via the webcast from overseas so it worked out well for almost everyone.

[mrsukyankee]

I don't remember to be honest. Somewhere between 50 and 90.

[GilliC]

us + 2 witnesses + a judge at our legal marriage

Our wedding was just under 100. I didn't feel like it was too many and I got to spend time with everyone, but if I ever do it again, I would go smaller so that we could spend more time focused on ourselves. The Knot made me feel like I needed to be the perfect hostess, and in the end our wedding was more about our guests than about us. Sure people raved about how beautiful things were, how much we involved the guests, etc. But it's not a party. It's a frickin' wedding, and when you're paying more attention to the lighting and sound so that the guests can hear the vows than what you're actually about to say, it kind of misses the point.

(And for the record, this isn't tied to the separation. I came to this conclusion shortly after the event when I realized that I had very few memories of my wedding that involved my husband! In hindsight, we should have made a bigger deal of the for-visa-reasons legal ceremony that was just us and my BFF+1.)

[clogged]

Jun 25, 2012 8:02:06 GMT -5 bugabean said:

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I don't have a problem with the number of people who came to the Stateside wedding, but I'd rather it have been 35-40 people that I give a crap about instead of a bunch of my parents' friends. But then there is little I wouldn't change about that day.

Yours was the infamous fishing competition wedding, right?

[azure]

Between 70 and 80 guests, I found it was great, we had time to chat with all our guests.

[Deleted]

75. Since my family had to travel from the other side of the world I had only close family there. DH's family are from another country as well, so I guess even though the wedding was near my village here, most people had to travel to it, so it counts as a Destination Wedding, right?

[bugabean]

Jun 25, 2012 10:49:45 GMT -5 clogged said:

Jun 25, 2012 8:02:06 GMT -5 bugabean said:

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I don't have a problem with the number of people who came to the Stateside wedding, but I'd rather it have been 35-40 people that I give a crap about instead of a bunch of my parents' friends. But then there is little I wouldn't change about that day.

Yours was the infamous fishing competition wedding, right?

That's the one!

[allibally]

16? I think I counted right. It was only H's family and a school friend who lived in Zurich too. She. Did our photos for us. Her first time taking them for a wedding and she did such a nice job.

My parents were not there. The wedding was known about in this form till 2 months before. We didn't get the date from the city till 1 month before. It sucked but that's the way it was. The worse part was that none of his family were really supportive of me that day. :/ H was fantastic so I guess that's were it counts.

I could care less about etiquette. We are going to have a wedding in the US regardless of us being married over 2 years by the time we could do it. We never had the church ceremony so that's the main plan. Then a small local reception. I still have my first dress and too me that's still like a hidden thing that H has never seen and I want him to see. w/e

[Deleted]

We had between 175 and 190, I never got an exact count as we had a some people cancel at the last minute.

While we had a big wedding, we were both frustrated at not getting to invite as many of our friends as we would have liked. I also didn't feel like I got to spend as much time with DH as I would have liked because he was busy trying to talk to all of the guests from his side.

[frlcb]

We had 130 at our wedding in the US, and 20 at our party in the UK, which was really just dh's family who couldn't come to the wedding and my parents who flew over for it. We had a big rehearsal dinner too, like 50 people. I loved my wedding.

[Deleted]

We had 120ish at the dinner and probably 150 at the cocktail, I think. It was the perfect size for us and we had a great time.

[tricolore]

I can't remember exactly, it was about 150. We also had a couple no shows too.

H has a large family and is close with his extended family (consequently, so am I), so that added to the numbers.

To the extend that I "imagined" a wedding, I had always thought I'd go small and private. That said, ultimately, marrying who I married, no complaints about the numbers.

My FIL just died this past May (a week before our anniversary). The funeral was the first time I'd seen most people there since our wedding. Sad. But made me happy that we were lucky enough to have been together 4yrs before at our wedding.

[amy726]

We had around 130 people at our wedding. DH was the only one from his side. We never ended up having one in Australia.